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HappyTree (original poster member #56916) posted at 3:29 PM on Friday, May 17th, 2019
I just wanted to share my experience with you guys. I just came back from traveling Costa Rica, by myself!! I went with only a child sized backpack and spent the week in hostels. While one location I went to was fairly touristy, one place was not so much. This is a country that considers hot showers, air conditioning, and window screens a luxury. It was completely amazing. I made so many friends so I really was not alone, I was at beach parties with the locals, I was hiking rain forests and chilling out at the beach. I enjoyed the local food. I did what I wanted when I wanted. I didn't know the language but I figured it out and was able to meet my needs. On my last full day I treated myself to zip lining and spending a few hours at a swanky resort pool where very attractive men were buying me shots at the pool bar.
2.5 years ago my ex told me that I was to dependent on him and could never be an independent person. I thought that was a load of crap. Now who is more independent? I just did something amazing that most people would never be able to do. Something he absolutely would never do.
And I can't wait until I get to travel again. I'm so much closer to who I am as a person and not who my ex said I was.
I am a low income, single mom who was emotionally and sexually abused and bullied for years. And I just did my first international trip solo. AMAZING!
Married 11 years
D-Day in October 2016
2 kids- 10 and 8
bookworm19 ( member #54871) posted at 3:40 PM on Friday, May 17th, 2019
I don' know you and I'm bursting from proud like a mother! I'm so happy for you. Even as a world traveler of 35 years myself (sometimes solo, mostly with my partner) I know, how scary things can be if you travel alone. The confidence you will get from this will help you so much in your day to day life.
Yess yess yess! (Proud and dancing happy circles fro you!)
English is not my language, sorry for mistakes and funny words...
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 3:58 PM on Friday, May 17th, 2019
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
hcsv ( member #51813) posted at 4:56 PM on Friday, May 17th, 2019
Love this. This is fantastic . congratulations.
A solo trip is on my bucket list. Mine is Prince Edward Island. A little cottage by the water/bike path/hiking.
After 40 years, ex turned into someone I didnt know and couldnt trust anymore. Divorced. 1/17
nothisfriend ( member #53171) posted at 5:03 PM on Friday, May 17th, 2019
Proud of you so proud. You did it! You are who you thought you are, not who someone else tried to tell you.
Congratulations!!!
Me: BS 50 (at the time) Him: WH 53 (at the time) D-Day: 10/25/15 Married: 28 years. One son, age 18 (at the time)
D final 2016 REMARRIED to a marvelous guy on 4/22/23
Chili ( member #35503) posted at 5:22 PM on Friday, May 17th, 2019
I did a ton of this myself and it is SO healing in so many ways. I really get all the things might be feeling right about now. So empowering. So wonderful to make memories just for you to treasure forever.
And hopefully your spirit got some much-needed rejuvenation as well. Just. Excellent.
Go HappyTree!
2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Took off flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett
Furious1 ( member #42970) posted at 7:07 PM on Friday, May 17th, 2019
Woohoo!!!!!! HappyTree, that is so freaking amazing!!!!
F1
BW (me): 46
2 adult kids
D-day: 10/4/13.
Divorced
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 7:19 PM on Friday, May 17th, 2019
I did similar last year (with a rolling carry-on) and it was empowering. We are mighty!!
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 7:44 PM on Friday, May 17th, 2019
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 7:46 PM on Friday, May 17th, 2019
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 8:22 PM on Friday, May 17th, 2019
Truly awesome. I'm so happy for you. 
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
HalfTime2017 ( member #64366) posted at 9:47 PM on Friday, May 17th, 2019
I took that same solo trip to Costa Rica in January of this yr. That place is awesome. Happy for you that you got to experience Tico Time as they say it down there.
de.va.sta.ted ( member #22922) posted at 2:38 PM on Saturday, May 18th, 2019
SO amazing- like everyone, I am thrilled for you!
Some of my best memories are from traveling alone.
Me: BW Him: WH D-Day 1: February 2009 D-Day 2: April 2018 Divorced!
ForTheKids ( member #52874) posted at 3:24 AM on Sunday, May 19th, 2019
That’s great for you to do something like this. After my separation I have travelled to many places solo spending most nights in hostels, including Costa Rica.. It was truly life changing and all my new memories that can never be altered. Keep going and travel as often as you can! Be careful though, it is addictive.
D Day November 2015....no R
ForTheKids
IrishGirlVA ( member #39694) posted at 6:23 PM on Monday, May 20th, 2019
staystrong101 ( member #41068) posted at 2:09 AM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2019
STLLOST ( member #65656) posted at 3:50 AM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2019
That was so brave of you. Be proud!! 
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