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StillLivin posted 5/20/2020 13:17 PM

Awesome series so far. I love how it takes an honest look at affairs and the destruction it causes. It also highlights the moving forward and healing path. I wouldn't suggest it to someone fresh and still on the rollercoaster ride of Dday. But it is refreshing for a tv show to not glamorize adultery for a change. It also shows a very realistic portrayal of the entitlement and selfishness of both the cheater and the AP.

Want2BHappyAgain posted 5/20/2020 13:23 PM

This sounds pretty interesting...thanks for sharing .

With all of the magnolia trees in full bloom where I am...I was expecting a somewhat different post !!!

Throwaway999 posted 5/20/2020 13:26 PM

I was thinking about watching it...thanks for the heads up.

crazyblindsided posted 5/20/2020 13:46 PM

Sounds very interesting. It may be an infidelity story I can actually watch

childofcheater posted 5/20/2020 15:10 PM

I read this series of books years ago and long before I was a BS. I thought the books handled it well. I didn't realize it had been made into a series. I'll have to check it out. I hope they make all three books because Dana and her ex's story is great too. (Or was...I wonder if I would still think so).

StillLivin posted 5/22/2020 10:59 AM

Childofcheater, would you mind pm'ing me what happened after the car accident. Damn show left me on a cliffhanger. Lol.
OMG did the WS do soooo many things typical of the cheaters' handbook. I just know the author had to have lived through infidelity too.
It got better and better. And it inspired me to drink more margaritas. I wish I'd had more friend who lived close by like that.

LadyG posted 5/23/2020 07:56 AM

I may have to find d this and make STBX WH watch it with me.

He’s skirmish when any TV Show we watch, show adultery.

As he doesn’t read about the devastation it causes, maybe he may find it easier to Watch.

Hedwig posted 5/23/2020 08:42 AM

I was actually looking for a subforum to post something about this tv show and couldn't make up my mind where it would fit best so I just left it.

I really really like the show and the way betrayal is portraited. It might sound petty and bitter but I enjoyed watching AP suffer and being treated the same way by WS as he did his EXBS. It goes to show that most cheaters don't change their selfish ways for the benefit of their AP, once the whole affair is blown wide open.

I loved Coach, made my heart skip a beat a couple of times, lol. All the time while watching I was looking out for red flags, haha!

ETA: StillLivin, I totally get you on the margarita and wanting to have close friends live close by. Would love to pour it out once a week with them!

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StillLivin posted 5/23/2020 09:39 AM

Yes, I had to think about where to post it because it's got a hefty chunk about adultery. But the main theme really is about moving forward and getting past what someone else does to you. It's really an inspiring series. The only place where it seemed ok was here in general.
I'm passed the phase of wanting the AP to be punished in my own life, so I didn't get happy, but I did feel her treatment was justified because of her own actions. I like how at the end she finally gets it that she was had. I also like how the series shows over time just how entitled and clueless both are about their actions. They don't seem to perceive why everyone isn't just happy for them.
LadyG, if you make him watch, he'll get a heavy dose of reality. There were some minor things that happened that I didn't think matched about what goes on in adultery, but most of it was spot on.

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Hedwig posted 5/25/2020 01:44 AM

Edit: duplicate

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Hedwig posted 5/25/2020 01:44 AM

I am not past that phase yet, unfortunately. A lot of surpressed feelings are resurfacing now that I gave up on R 6 weeks ago and the relationship is over.

Yup, the cluelessness both of AP's behaviour at the games and of WS coming to pick up old things etc. I don't want to spoil too much for people who haven't seen it yet.

WhoTheBleep posted 5/25/2020 05:33 AM

Because of this thread, I started watching a couple of days ago. I'm a few episodes in and I'm really enjoying it. The show doesn't really apologize for or soften the squeamish uncomfortable feelings that are felt by all involved. They just throw it on out there, in all its ugliness.

The setting in that picturesque town and the friendship between the women is a great draw. Without a doubt, my girlfriends and my childhood immediate family have gotten me through the last few years.

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Throwaway999 posted 5/25/2020 05:41 AM

I watched it also...and loved it. It dealt with the “mess” of infidelity quite well. The only part that was triggering for me was that I felt they tried to make the AP, Noreen, as bit sympathetic. Bill was treating her poorly, no friends, kids didn’t like her....you almost felt sorry for her. Not. They glossed over a bit the fact she participated in the destruction of a marriage and family...and she couldn’t figure out why everything was not sunshine and unicorns.

Anyway...I bought a couple of the books. I wish I could meet some of you and “pour it out”....you are all such great supporters. Thanks for all of you!

Chrysalis123 posted 5/25/2020 10:00 AM

Thanks to this thread, I started watch it too. I'm really enjoying it.

GTeamReboot posted 5/26/2020 01:10 AM

Oh thanks for the warning... I was thinking about starting it, but not sure I'm ready. I can see from the trailer that maybe the A is just part of the foundation of the plot, and most of it is about moving on. But I would want to be feeling ready for that. And WS gets really triggered by A storylines (he has gone from getting huffy about the fact we "can't get away from it" and shutting it off, to calmly acknowledging and apologizing to me, so that's good...). So definitely NOT a new couch date series!

Hedwig posted 5/26/2020 01:38 AM

@Throwaway999: agreed! I found myself in 1 or 2 instances starting to feel sorry for her, then had to remember myself who she is and why I should NOT feel sorry for her. I think the portrayal of the AP was not done very well, they should've thrown more selfishness or bitchiness in there to make it real. Wish I could pour it out with you too!

@GTeamReboot: I hate navigating this, which tv-shows and movies to watch. I can handle having an A in a show, as long as it's not one of the protagonists or somebody I should relate to. Unfortunately there's a lot of them. Ozark had a rugswept one, but the show was otherwise amazing.

Throwaway999 posted 5/26/2020 04:16 AM

Hedwig- I started the book, interesting to know that in the book Cal’s ex-wife also had an affair with his friend. So he gets Maddie’s situation lot more. And he’s 10 years younger than her...good for her!

Hedwig posted 5/26/2020 11:43 AM

Throwaway999, that sounds good! Now I might go and buy the book, even if I already have 6 unread books at home.

StillLivin posted 5/26/2020 21:15 PM

You convinced me. I'll be buying the books as soon as the summer semester ends.

Charlee posted 5/27/2020 04:53 AM

You could pour it out over a Zoom session!