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harrybrown posted 6/3/2018 19:00 PM

Thank you.

this really helped me.

it has been a tough week.

my wife told me that her sister was coming to live with us.

So now they go out and party together.

I really did need this. Thank you.

heartbroken_kk posted 6/15/2018 12:57 PM

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sisoon posted 6/28/2018 17:43 PM

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Skan posted 7/4/2018 13:40 PM

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After33years posted 7/5/2018 12:06 PM

Thank you, thank you, thank you!
I needed to read this post today. The ruminating becomes unbearable at times. I will definitely try this method!

heartbroken_kk posted 7/14/2018 12:10 PM

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heartbroken_kk posted 7/30/2018 14:52 PM

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ISurvived7734 posted 7/30/2018 20:39 PM

I'm happy for anyone who gets any relief from mind-movies from this. For me, it's a joke. It's what I refer to as the "Scarlet O'Hara" method of dealing with real issues. She always said "I just won't think about that today....I'll think about that tomorrow". Kicking a can down the road is just what it looks like it is: rug-sweeping and hoping the problem will magically go away.

heartbroken_kk posted 7/30/2018 20:46 PM

Hi ISurvived7734, you are not the first person to call this "rugsweeping", and if you want you can find my rebuttal on page 4 of this thread.

You'll note that this is not at all about not dealing with your problems in real life. It's about not having a mind that is out of control.

You can practice these techniques when you need them, while also addressing real behaviors and real problems through thoughtful, careful choices made some other time, while you are calm, rested, and not dwelling on the latest trigger.

sisoon posted 8/6/2018 13:19 PM

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TheGuy123 posted 8/6/2018 21:08 PM

I can't really think of the said mention techniques as rug sweeping when it keeps me out of prison.

But;

After 7 years my old lady has made amends, but there are a few phuckers….well one... POS/DBL betrayal that's waiting for a beating!


If you folks ever see two old farts fighting...it is one of two things….a wife phucker or a parking space thief !

[This message edited by TheGuy123 at 9:09 PM, August 6th (Monday)]

TheGuy123 posted 8/6/2018 21:14 PM

Ladies and gentlemen I regress....the best revenge is to live life well!

Let our moral compass lead the way!


Nirvanagirl247 posted 8/8/2018 04:01 AM

This post was great to read.

I'm really struggling with my WS having a 2 year A.

At first it was visualizing them having sex that was driving me crazy. Did he do stuff with her that he didnt with me? Was she better in bed than me?

Now I'm having a hard time coming to terms with the intimacy part if the A. Them laughing together, sharing jokes. Them cuddling on the couch....its making me crazy and im having a hard time using some of these techniques.

heartbroken_kk posted 8/24/2018 19:17 PM

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heartbroken_kk posted 9/13/2018 12:09 PM

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sisoon posted 9/24/2018 10:00 AM

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heartbroken_kk posted 10/26/2018 12:58 PM

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Nowandthen posted 10/26/2018 18:51 PM

This is just what I needed. Thank you to the original poster and thank you to the bumper. I’ve just spent a sleepless hour running mind movies in my head. Hoping now I can sleep again.

minusone posted 12/1/2018 19:20 PM

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heartbroken_kk posted 12/21/2018 15:10 PM

Bump, forthelifeofme

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