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Josephine01 ( Member #38511) posted at 9:49 PM on Sunday, July 24th, 2016

Thank you. I needed this today.

Me, 47 BS
H, 65 WH
2 boys 23 and 18 years old
Married 24 years

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1lifeoflies ( Member #54208) posted at 9:53 PM on Monday, July 25th, 2016

Yep, find that I need to stay busy somehow.

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Devastated2015 ( Member #50693) posted at 3:11 AM on Wednesday, July 27th, 2016

Thank you for this post! I'm not new but have been having a rough couple days. This helped me today.

BS Me-39
WH-SA-43
Married-15 years DDAY 12/03/15
1 crazy OW 5 month A plus a few ONS they were all used for sex
Sexting!😕
3 Children- ages 7-15
R

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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 12:26 PM on Thursday, August 4th, 2016

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 12:12 PM on Thursday, August 18th, 2016

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 12:00 PM on Monday, August 22nd, 2016

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 11:20 PM on Wednesday, August 24th, 2016

Bumping

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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nowiknow23 ( Member #33226) posted at 6:47 PM on Saturday, August 27th, 2016

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 12:35 PM on Thursday, September 8th, 2016

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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hard_yards ( Member #23549) posted at 12:36 PM on Sunday, September 11th, 2016

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I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...

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BeeBee64 ( Member #54718) posted at 3:06 PM on Sunday, September 11th, 2016

Thanks! Helpful. Getting the dark thoughts to shut up so I can sleep is the worst.

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jen54 ( Member #47812) posted at 4:31 PM on Sunday, September 11th, 2016

Thanks for the indepth method.

I've practiced mindfulness but your description of the process is very comprehensive.

D Day= April 21, 2015
Me: BS
Husband: WS
Married 40 years, together 41
Affair 5 year

The journey is my home.

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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 7:48 PM on Friday, September 30th, 2016

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 12:17 PM on Friday, November 4th, 2016

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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GeoHeart ( Member #55800) posted at 12:06 AM on Sunday, November 6th, 2016

Thank you for bumping this, it is very helpful. I am new around here and hadn't seen it.

D-day: August 2016
Status: Trying R

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 heartbroken_kk (original poster Member #22722) posted at 2:56 AM on Thursday, December 1st, 2016

bumping my own thread

I'm so happy this has helped so many people. I still use this technique for peace in a stressful world!

FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.

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Mimmie ( Member #56107) posted at 2:52 PM on Thursday, December 1st, 2016

Thanks for bumping this, I really needed to change my thoughts they are stopping my progress. This will really help even though there are times I get extremely anxious or tense this helps me through it. I am extremely grateful that I came across your post at this very difficult time .

BW 36
WH 37
2 awesome kids, 17, 9

DDay Sept 16,
OW not worth mentioning

Reconciling ????? One day at a time


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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 1:07 AM on Monday, December 19th, 2016

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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Willthepainstop ( New Member #56442) posted at 4:31 AM on Monday, December 19th, 2016

I'm gonna try this. Great post

The little red hen

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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 8:45 PM on Saturday, January 7th, 2017

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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