Cookies are required for login or registration. Please read and agree to our cookie policy to continue.

Newest Member: cobblerock

New Beginnings :
Been a long time


 demolishedinside (original poster member #47839) posted at 8:47 PM on Friday, May 3rd, 2024

I logged on to my computer today to work on a class I need to take, and SI was one of the recommendations. I know it's been over two years, and probably no one remembers me or is still here who was here when I was.

I do know that I lived for the stories of peace and a new life. My life now is so very different than the first day I came here for advice and support. I am divorced and running a household on my own, raising my three kids. Though things are not always easy, they are solid and good. I get out quite a bit to live music and basketball games, and I find joy and laughter along the way. My life is not perfect, but I feel a level of peace that I hadn't felt all those years we tried to be in R. We coparent well, and for the most part, my life is just the usual. I thought I'd pop in to say hello to anyone who may still be here and to just share in case this might help anyone who is still struggling. I never knew when I was in the midst of it all that this side would be good, but it really has been quite ok. smile


BS - me/3 kids
DD - April 2015 / SA-Jan. 28, 2017
DD2- October 23, 2018
Divorced and happy

posts: 2073   ·   registered: May. 11th, 2015
id 8835605

Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 3:20 AM on Saturday, May 4th, 2024

Feels good to read a positive update!!

Glad things are going well!!

"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!

posts: 1675   ·   registered: Nov. 5th, 2018   ·   location: US
id 8835634

skeetermooch ( member #72169) posted at 4:11 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2024

Love to hear that you have moved into a happy and peaceful life!

Me: BS 56 on DDay 1 - 7/2019 DIVORCED - 1/2021

posts: 1264   ·   registered: Nov. 28th, 2019
id 8835656

BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 9:13 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2024

Dem- thanks for the update! There are many of us here who remember you :-)
And so glad to hear you are doing well. There REALLY is light at the end of the tunnel, right?

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

posts: 6059   ·   registered: Sep. 10th, 2016   ·   location: Northern CA
id 8835672

WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 1:29 AM on Sunday, May 5th, 2024

Of course I remember you. I’m so glad to hear things are going well for you!

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

posts: 4520   ·   registered: Sep. 6th, 2015   ·   location: USA
id 8835683

tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 2:02 AM on Sunday, May 5th, 2024

So happy for you and that you found a new peace and normal. Many of us remember you.

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

posts: 20206   ·   registered: Oct. 1st, 2008   ·   location: St. Louis
id 8835684

crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 9:10 PM on Monday, May 6th, 2024

Hope you are doing well demolishedinside nice to hear from you and glad things are going well. Life is so much better on the other side of this I sometimes have to pinch myself :)

fBS/fWS(me):51 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:53 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(21) DS(18)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014

posts: 8834   ·   registered: Apr. 2nd, 2012   ·   location: California
id 8835775

ThisIsSoLonely ( Guide #64418) posted at 6:52 PM on Thursday, May 23rd, 2024

I remember you as well - so glad you got to join me/us on the happily-no-longer-consumed-by-infidelity club!

You are the only person you are guaranteed to spend the rest of your life with. Act accordingly.

Constantly editing posts: usually due to sticky keys on my laptop or additional thoughts

posts: 2359   ·   registered: Jul. 11th, 2018
id 8837590

 demolishedinside (original poster member #47839) posted at 1:45 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2024

Oh gosh! I’m so glad to see so many of you doing well. I feel like I was so deep in pain when I was here that I almost don’t recognize that woman at all. I’m so much more me now. I’m going to scroll through and see if I can find some updates on all of you.

BS - me/3 kids
DD - April 2015 / SA-Jan. 28, 2017
DD2- October 23, 2018
Divorced and happy

posts: 2073   ·   registered: May. 11th, 2015
id 8838275

Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 2:52 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2024

The feeling of peace after the chaos of infidelity is amazing. I am thankful for it every day. Sometime I forget to fully appreciate it when I have my sad days, so I force myself to go back to the darkest times just as a reminder of how far I've come. Hoping for good things for you...

I'm an oulier in my positions.

Me:55 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.

Divorced 20

posts: 1835   ·   registered: Jul. 25th, 2018   ·   location: Canada
id 8838318
Cookies on®® uses cookies to enhance your visit to our website. This is a requirement for participants to login, post and use other features. Visitors may opt out, but the website will be less functional for you.

v.1.001.20240712a 2002-2024® All Rights Reserved. • Privacy Policy