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 hurtbs (original poster member #10866) posted at 10:54 PM on Friday, November 18th, 2022

The last month or so I've gotten severe night sweats. I've never had them before. I just had my annual and blood work, so I don't think it's hormones. I'm not ill. I will make up in the middle of the night freezing and just drenched. Has anyone else dealt with this post DDay?

Me - 40 something.
WXH DDay 2006, tried to R. Divorced 2012
WBF DDay #1 9/2022 #2 11/2022
Single

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Hesaliar ( member #62222) posted at 11:09 PM on Friday, November 18th, 2022

I did but it was because the stress from dday and ongoing disclosure threw me into menopause. My blood work was normal also. Amberen has helped.
I've read here a few times that infidelity is the gift that keeps on giving.

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Tallgirl ( member #64088) posted at 2:28 PM on Saturday, November 19th, 2022

I had this, usually stress related. I still have bad nights when life gets bumpy

Legally separated, one more step.

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wantnomore ( member #71871) posted at 12:04 AM on Monday, November 21st, 2022

I get them too in extreme stress. I had them after d-day, had to get up a few times a night to change, find different blankets, etc. I actually came up with a system to deal with that in the middle of the night.

I've been getting them lately since the divorce got started. That surprised me, because on the whole I'm fine with the divorce. I think maybe its the uncertainty of the outcome (income changes, housing changes etc) are getting me.

So guys get them too. And I can confirm they suck. And that they do go away.

Me: BH (56)Her: STBXWW (51)DDays - 9/10/01, 10/15/19, 7/3/21, 2/11/22.I'm dumb, but I do learn eventually.Starting D ASAP.

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Grieving ( member #79540) posted at 1:52 AM on Monday, November 21st, 2022

Right after I found out I would sometimes get the kind of hot/cold flashes like you get when you have the flu or are severely nauseated. Those would make me break out in a sweat, but wasn’t really night sweats. Far more than that I had the shakes. Really bad, to the point where I thought there might be something really physically wrong with me unrelated to the betrayal.

Stress and infidelity trauma can do a number on you, physically. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

Married for 20 years with two kids when my husband had a six month affair with a coworker. DD1: 6/2020. DD2: 7/3/2020. Reconciling

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pureheartkit ( member #62345) posted at 3:37 AM on Tuesday, November 22nd, 2022

Please try relaxing music before sleep and watch when your last meal is. Try for at least 3 hours before bed no snacks or sugary drinks. You want to avoid a carb crash during sleep. Eat a last meal of a good fist sized protein and no more than a fist sized carbohydrate. Include healthy fats. If you can exercise to burn off stress before bed that might help. Limit caffeine. Th3 goal is to get your metabolism on a smooth, regular pattern and your stress chemicals down. If you stress, you are burning up the chemicals that you need to keep the sweating in check. Spicy foods can bring on night sweating as well. Sugar was a big one for me. If I ate sweets before bed I would get heat waves.

Thank you everyone for your wisdom and healing.

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 hurtbs (original poster member #10866) posted at 3:54 AM on Tuesday, November 22nd, 2022

@pure I rarely have sugary drinks (once or twice a yer), only have caffein in the morning, eat high protein, rarely have sugar, and exercise regularly.

Me - 40 something.
WXH DDay 2006, tried to R. Divorced 2012
WBF DDay #1 9/2022 #2 11/2022
Single

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pureheartkit ( member #62345) posted at 4:24 AM on Tuesday, November 22nd, 2022

Maybe it's just temporary then and goes away soon.

Thank you everyone for your wisdom and healing.

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:07 PM on Tuesday, November 22nd, 2022

See this came out on Friday, wondering if things are better now that you have answers?
Stress can definitely manifest itself in night sweats.
I can't remember if you had full STI testing or not. If not please go do so. There is one infection that can cause night sweats, but takes blood work to be tested for, and that is Hepatitis, so it would be pertinent if still happening and not fully tested.

Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 22 & 25
Married for 30 years now, was 16 at the time.
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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 hurtbs (original poster member #10866) posted at 3:28 PM on Tuesday, November 22nd, 2022

Thanks Tush. I had a full panel STI test plus blood word. Still getting them. It's probably just stress. I'm having terrible sleep.

Me - 40 something.
WXH DDay 2006, tried to R. Divorced 2012
WBF DDay #1 9/2022 #2 11/2022
Single

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 3:33 PM on Tuesday, November 22nd, 2022

Maybe ask your Dr for something to help you get some rest for a few weeks until life settles back down.

Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 22 & 25
Married for 30 years now, was 16 at the time.
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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Summertime22 ( member #79796) posted at 10:45 PM on Tuesday, November 22nd, 2022

I definitely suffered with night sweats post DDay. I had to put towels down in the bed before I went to sleep. Even my hands sweated so much! I thought it was peri menopause- it wasn't.

It stopped after a few months. It’s likely stress and trauma. I started listening to a meditation app before bed which helped.

I hope things improve. Sending you a hug.

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crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 10:48 PM on Tuesday, November 22nd, 2022

I get night sweats with my nightmares about xWS still. I usually have one a week. I think it must be a form of PTSD sad

fBS/fWS(me):49 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:51 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(19) DS(16)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorcing

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