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Reconciliation :
Happy Anniversary of Mv2.0!!

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 Want2BHappyAgain (original poster member #45088) posted at 2:06 PM on Tuesday, July 19th, 2022

TODAY...8 years ago...the precious M that I LOVED was destroyed when my H confessed to his A that he had while working overseas crying . It is gone...and although we have been able to get many things back...it is something we won't ever have again.

But wait...there's MORE grin !! We COULD dwell on what was LOST. But we have CHOSEN to instead focus on what we HAVE!!

I wrote about this day in the "Positive Reconciliation Stories" thread. It is on page 13 if anyone is interested smile .

OUR life changed forever that day...for the BETTER!! I honestly thought we had a GOOD M. But that was the issue. WE weren't thinking the same...and my H made a choice that showed just how out of sync we were.

Not anymore!! We have truly become ONE. A TEAM!! I can honestly say that I HATE what my H did...and also honestly say that I am MORE in love with him than ever before grin . His ACTIONS have proven to me that he is a man of integrity...but WORDS matter too. His words that he uses NOW truly reflect his actions. That was something I never caught before. You don't know what you don't know though...you know?!

We WILL be celebrating tonight because OUR story didn't END on Dday. It CHANGED...it got MESSY...and it was UNCERTAIN for a while. But WE both went ALL IN for each other...and I LOVE the story of US now grin !!!

A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)

I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!

From respect comes great love...sassylee

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FireandWater ( member #80084) posted at 7:28 PM on Tuesday, July 19th, 2022

Thank you for sharing this. WH and I are working towards R, and this is exactly what I hope we can achieve. It's nice to hear that it's possible!

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 7:52 PM on Tuesday, July 19th, 2022

Congratulations! What a journey you have been on!

Me: BS 55 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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Tanner ( member #72235) posted at 8:09 PM on Tuesday, July 19th, 2022

Thanks for sharing, you are truly an inspiration here.

Dday Sept 7 2019 doing well in R
BH 55 WW 48 M 31 years, 4 kids 2 grown 2 grandkids

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numb&dumb ( member #28542) posted at 9:02 PM on Tuesday, July 19th, 2022

Seeing this did my soul so much good today.

I love to see someone come out on the other side . . .happy. grin

Dday 8/31/11. EA/PA. Lied to for 3 years.

Bring it, life. I am ready for you.

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Notaboringwife ( member #74302) posted at 1:03 PM on Thursday, July 21st, 2022

Kind and wise words. Thank you.

Me: fBS late 60’s
Him: fWH late 60’s
DDay : March 2019
Separation: March 2019
R: June 2019

Shift your internal stance from "I’m right and you’re wrong" to "help me understand." Everything else follows from it...

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Luna10 ( member #60888) posted at 2:07 PM on Thursday, July 21st, 2022

Happy Anniversary W2BHA! Your post is so full of positivity, if fills my heart with joy. Congratulations!

Dday - 27th September 2017

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 Want2BHappyAgain (original poster member #45088) posted at 11:12 PM on Thursday, July 21st, 2022

Thanks y'all smile .

I was actually out of town when I started this thread. I wasn't sure until right before I wrote it that I would be able to make it back to my H for us to celebrate...but God made it happen for us grin !

We weren't apart for 10 weeks like we were when my H had his A. It was actually less than a week this time laugh . BUT...the LOOK in my H's eyes when I came home...as well as the HUG and KISS he gave me...told me everything I needed to know about how much he MISSED me grin . I didn't see that look when he came home after his A. And THAT hug and kiss 8 years ago...it was more like a hug a brother gives to his sister. What a DIFFERENCE this time!! I'LL TAKE IT grin !!

We ended up having to deal with more family issues when I got back...so we weren't able to have a sit down meal in a restaurant to celebrate. But we did go to the FINEST drive in dining restaurant in town smile . YEP...Sonic laugh !!
Last night though...I had some of Louisiana's BEST cuisine...SEAFOOD grin .

A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)

I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!

From respect comes great love...sassylee

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Oldwounds ( member #54486) posted at 12:44 AM on Friday, July 22nd, 2022

I wrote about this day in the "Positive Reconciliation Stories" thread. It is on page 13 if anyone is interested

I am interested!

Nice work W2BHA!

Married 34+ years, together 40+ years
Two awesome adult sons.
Dday 6/16 4-year LTA Survived
Restoration takes time.
"Circumstances don't make the man, they only reveal him to himself." ― Epictetus

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 Want2BHappyAgain (original poster member #45088) posted at 12:29 AM on Monday, July 25th, 2022

laugh laugh laugh

Oldwounds...I know YOU like reading that thread as much as I do grin !!

Thank you for your kind words my friend smile .

A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)

I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!

From respect comes great love...sassylee

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Grieving ( member #79540) posted at 1:46 AM on Monday, July 25th, 2022

Your post warms my heart.

And I’m jealous of the seafood!!

Married for 20 years with two kids when my husband had a six month emotional and physical affair with a coworker. DD1: 6/2020 (soft evidence followed by a month of lies). DD2: 7/3/2020 (hard evidence, truth, started reconciliation journey).

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 Want2BHappyAgain (original poster member #45088) posted at 3:43 PM on Monday, July 25th, 2022

Grieving...thank you grin !! We are right on the cusp...the ending of crawfish season...and the season for crabs and shrimp. I was able to have a little of all three grin . C'est Bon!!!

A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)

I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!

From respect comes great love...sassylee

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