Thanks to everyone for the replies
My wife still is willing to talk and I got the wrong end of the stick if we listen to what she says.
She understand that we will still need to talk about it and she would never say stop we aren't doing this anymore. But she says we cant do it every single day. She would like a different conversation at times.
I have been feeling different over the past week but more so today and yesterday. Im feeling like its not like it was a couple of months ago. It feels like the affection is dying down. But I look at it outside the box and I see
She is always holding my hand. In the car, in the shops, on the sofa even in bed. (That little bit of affection goes a long way at a time like this).
She kisses me before work and kisses me when returning home.
She always texts when she gets to work and tells me she is there and says she loves me.
But in the past week or so may be a bit longer it feels like the emotional side and the sigs of affection are not as intense. Because thats what i have been use to, now I'm not getting them when I think I should get them I'm thinking things are wrong.
Its not like she is leaving me to sit in a corner and not answer my questions and is giving me no love what so ever. But I feel like I'm boring her.
I feel like I have become a routine. Some thing she feels she has to feed in order to try and keep me happy.
But she says that doesn't make you happy because your always so sad. Do you think her seeing me so sad every single day would have an affect on her? She said she hates seeing me sad
She says she is happy but she hates the shit, she hates what she has done and hates seeing me sad all the time and hates what she has done. I am very sad at home at time. I do admit that. But I'm hurting.
She keeps drumming into me that i haven't lost my kids and she is going nowhere. She wants this and isn't going to mess it up, we will be ok and she promises that. But to me its all words.
I have had bad times in the past but i got over them. This time its different. Instead of the negative feelings being about me, its more about her.
I think is she bored with me, does she really want to be here, she looks down and sad. (it has been the time of the month for her) and she blamed it on that. But its a gut feeling. Im not doing enough, I'm failing short of what she wants. She will say its not true but i feel it.
I feel I can not be enough and compared to what she had in the weeks with her AP. She was happy, she had fun. She missed him when she was away from him when the affair was on going, why isnt she now. She says but it was seven weeks and it meant nothing. But i remember the 3 months post DDay and she was a mess. Them weeks didnt mean nothing.
There are times when she says she feels like she wants to cry. I ask why and its because of what she done to us. Is that really or is she missing her AP.
Has anyone else felt this around the 12 month period and does it pass. Is it in my head or is she getting sick of trying and just going through the motions