Sorry for taking nearly a week to update - but I definitely needed some days to be with my girlfriends, and also be alone and mourn.
BUT I DID IT!! He threw a little wrench into plans, but it still worked. I had to go to his flat first (looking FABULOUS - seriously - he couldn’t stop commenting on it either) because he had just flown back from his cheating tour in the States that morning, and was still (re)packing. Luckily he didn’t even try anything intimate because we were short on time (which I also planned - I got to his a little late to be sure). We got him packed and walked to the tube to the train because he lives one stop away from Paddington.
So we do our usual - get coffee. Sadly it was packed and there was nowhere to sit which wasn’t how I pictured it - but I told him before we were in front of his parents, I needed to give him a birthday present. I took video. I handed him the papers - it started with "On your birthday, I wanted to share some of my favorite messages from you." They were all about how perfect I was, how he loved how honest we could be with each other, how he condemned cheating, how much he loved me, blah blah blah. He couldn’t wipe the smile from his face as he was reading.
After a couple of pages, it then says:
You. Stupid. F***.
You could see the light leave his eyes. He looked at me dumbfounded. He just got hit by a train (pun intended). I told him he might want to read the rest of it on the train, and I walked away with my suitcase (that was filled with dirty laundry and soup cans for weight 😂)
I AM SO GLAD I DID IT. I felt/still feel powerful. It had the impact I wanted. I have the video where I can see his face FALL - and re-watching that has helped me when I’ve felt at my most low.
Of course, I’m heartbroken. We were buying a house, in fertility treatments for a baby….and I’m devastated that he ruined all our plans. But I’m SO GLAD I did it my way. I’m sure he will never change, but again - this was also for me. I have no regrets.
I blocked him on everything as I was walking away - but apparently I missed normal texting. (Over here, NO ONE uses the normal phone or normal texting - it’s all via WhatsApp. Normal texting and calling is expensive over here)
He sent me a message last week on Friday (he waited 48 hours, or it took him that long to discover that method). He’s soooo sorry. But it wasn’t remorseful. He didn’t say how sorry he was for hurting me or acknowledge anything like that. I didn’t reply and I never will. He will probably (hopefully) wonder if I even got it.
But it’s over now and I feel….well, I guess as ‘good’ as one can in this situation.
[This message edited by KeepsHappening at 12:20 PM, Monday, May 9th]