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 WhatsRight (original poster member #35417) posted at 5:14 AM on Wednesday, December 29th, 2021

I have been sick for 2-3 weeks...same thing I get every year when winter arrives. Stuffy nose, cough, tired and weak. Haven’t even been to the doctor.

Since Christmas Eve, my grand baby’s mother (who stays with us sometimes for several days at a time) has has the same symptoms, but her chest congestion is much worse...coughing up nasty stuff.

So today she gets tested, and is positive. 😢

She called me crying. She was concerned about me and my sister, but mostly about my husband. I tried to calm her and tell her we would get through this, and that, who knows, I might have had a light case and given it to her. This seemed to help.

I took groceries / meds to her apartment tonight, and she has called me a couple of times with questions.

The thing that is scaring me most is that my grandbaby is with her. She called the pediatrician and asked what to do, He said not even to bother having her tested. They said that either she had Covid already, and it was just without symptoms, oh she would be getting it. And that there was no need to have her tested… That she should just carry-on as if she did already have it.

I am suffering from a huge case of guilt about this. I want her to be at my house so I can take care of her. And if she doesn’t come, I want the grandbaby to come and be with me. But I have to be doubly careful about my husband. Am I doing wrong? What should I do?

In addition to this, my oldest has really hurt my feelings. When I asked him if he had heard about her having Covid, he said yes. I told him that we were going to have to be very careful while we were quarantined, and that I needed for him to wear his mask whenever he was inside the house… Outside of his bedroom. He simply answered, "oh, no, I won’t be doing that." I told him that I was nearly 70 years old and his dad’s disability made us high risk. Nothing.

So now we are self imposing quarantine in our own home...staying only in 2 rooms in the house.

He makes me very sad that he cares so little for us that he won’t be inconvenienced by wearing a mask when he’s in the common areas of the house.

But, putting all of that aside, is there no way I can bring her back over to my house and take care of her and the baby without endangering my husband?

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gmc94 ( Guide #62810) posted at 5:59 AM on Wednesday, December 29th, 2021

Sorry, I don’t have any answer about your great (?) grand baby…

I can say that I kicked my own 23yo child out of my house last year bc they would not abide by my Covid boundaries (and my WH has significant comorbidities). And by kick them out I mean I -literally - put their stuff on the front porch and texted that they were not welcome inside our home.

Another option may be for you to stay with your grand daughter/grand baby?

Have you been tested?

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 12:48 PM on Wednesday, December 29th, 2021

Hang in there WR - The good news is that Covid currently is everywhere, and many many many people have it, and people are generally not as sick.
So the baby - when they get it (babies) they do not get anything more than what a cold looks like on them. They don't test babies, or kids under 5 for the most part because of it. BUT if you had it, and thought it was just a cold, then he has already been exposed.

Now about your spouse, due to his health issues, and his inability to do much to move and may not be as effective with the breathing exercises, yes you want to avoid him getting it if at all possible. So IF you think your son could possibly have it, he needs to stay away, and wear a mask, and not use common household stuff without cleaning up behind himself.

This virus is weird, and wild. I know people that have been triple jabbed and get it. I know people that have been triple jabbed, and had the virus and they got it again. I also know of people that have not been vaccinated, and been taking care of whole families with it, and they just don't get it. It's going to be years before we figure out the whole immunity, and passage of this virus.

So at the end of the day use common sense, social distance, and wear your mask.

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annb ( member #22386) posted at 2:39 PM on Wednesday, December 29th, 2021

My 32-year old son just got over Omicron.

He was sick for ten days. Symptoms of a bad head cold and sore throat, slight cough. The worst symptom was complete exhaustion. He probably slept 18-20 hours per day. Fortunately, he really didn't have any breathing issues.

He was been tripled vaccinated.

My youngest and fiance came over for Christmas. He had been exposed to Covid at his job with several employees getting sick. Fortunately, he tested twice and negative both times. We wore masks the entire visit, except when eating, and we set up a table where we were probably ten feet apart from each other during dinner, also opened one window despite the chill in the air.

Your son is being extremely selfish, honestly, a friend of my son, age 26, died of Covid last month. She was unvaccinated and obese. So sad because it could have been prevented.

I think if you get tested and have a negative result, you might be able to take care of your grandaughter. Like Tush Nurse said, you have to use common sense and take every precaution.

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director106 ( new member #75263) posted at 3:37 PM on Wednesday, December 29th, 2021

Check with your doctor but you have already been exposed and if you test negative they should be able to quarantine in one room of your house. Use commen sense precautions. And stop cooking and providing for that grown son. Best of luck and God bless

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Gottagetthrough ( member #27325) posted at 2:53 PM on Thursday, December 30th, 2021

Im no medical person but i believe this is a time when putting your health first is necessary.

Your grandbaby’s mother needs to find someone else to help her, if she needs help. Your health and your husband’s come first (who will help YOU if you get COVID?)

You are very giving and help everyone. I know this is tough. But you can say no to helping this time. Drop off chicken soup on the porch or buy groceries and leave them. But no contact.

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 WhatsRight (original poster member #35417) posted at 9:43 PM on Sunday, January 2nd, 2022

So, my grandbaby tested positive for Covid. 😢😢😢. She’s running a high fever, but it doesn’t have too many other symptoms.

I was taking food and medicine over to their apartment last night, and she crawled up in my lap and pulled my mask down so she could kiss me.

So now I’ve been exposed to it a second time, and I guess I’ll quarantine for 5 to 10 more days.

A few minutes ago my son got up after having been in bed all day, and is hacking and coughing for about two weeks now. He has tested negative twice so far, but he has gone down to test for a third time.

I feel a little bit like throwing my hands up in the air. I have turned off the heat in the house and open the windows and set a window fan in one of the windows to try to suck fresh air through the house because the room where my husband sleeps has very little ventilation.

With both of us being quarantine together, I have not been wearing a mask and gloves after the five days of quarantine from my grandbabies mother. But now I am wearing a mask and gloves every time I go in the room. I don’t know what else I can do.

I guess if I get it, I’ll have to ask my sister-in-law to come to our home and look after my husband. But that’s not fair to ask her to come into a house where probably two out of people have Covid.

To be honest, I’m getting a little scared.

[This message edited by WhatsRight at 9:44 PM, Sunday, January 2nd]

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 WhatsRight (original poster member #35417) posted at 11:34 PM on Friday, January 7th, 2022

Well, once again, tragedy averted.

Today is day 6 out of doctor recommended 5 days. We are going to extend it through the weekend.

Thank God my grand baby and her mother are doing much better, and fever free for a couple of days now. I have no symptoms and neither does my husband.

"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy

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zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 11:43 PM on Friday, January 7th, 2022

Such great news!!!!

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truthsetmefree ( member #7168) posted at 5:11 AM on Saturday, January 8th, 2022

Thank God my grand baby and her mother are doing much better, and fever free for a couple of days now. I have no symptoms and neither does my husband.


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ISurvivedSoFar ( Guide #56915) posted at 12:05 PM on Wednesday, January 12th, 2022

So happy for you WhatsRight!

It hit our home too - all three of us were exposed and only two of us got it. The one with the highest risk (immuno-compromised and diabetic) did not get it.

We stayed in separate rooms during the day, did not share any food etc. but during the incubation period prior to knowing we were infected we shared everything and still one of us remained COVID free.

This virus doesn't make any sense. One of us got the 5 day version. The other got the 10 day version and lost taste and smell. The two that got the virus had at worst bad cold symptoms and of course, fatigue.

We allowed the one person without a positive result to dictate comfort level with masks and such. We did not end up wearing masks in the house because the one who was negative determined the exposure already happened. Not necessarily the right decision, but it was the one that was made. The negative person never got it.

Just be careful. I've gotten stories from my network that folks can get quite sick with a bad cough even from Omicron. In our house that didn't happen.

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