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I thought my libido was broken


 crazyblindsided (original poster member #35215) posted at 10:34 PM on Monday, October 4th, 2021

It's not laugh had my first sexual experience since leaving my ex and it was really GOOD and nice blush

I'm still not looking for a relationship so I guess you can call it a "hook-up" laugh

It is good to know I am not broken, everything is working just fine.

fBS/fWS(me):48 Mad-hattered after DD1
XWS:51 Serial Cheater, NPD tendencies
Together 25 years, Married 19
DD(18) DS(15)
DD1 (2008) COW, DD2 (2012) MOW, False R (2014) Same MOW. DD3 (2019) Webcam girl

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phmh ( member #34146) posted at 1:32 AM on Tuesday, October 5th, 2021

This made me smile. So happy for you!!! Life goes on and can be even better than we ever thought. Glad you enjoyed yourself!

Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny

posts: 4978   ·   registered: Dec. 8th, 2011
id 8691642

EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 1:53 PM on Tuesday, October 5th, 2021

I can relate!!!

I honestly thought something just died in me from all the trauma!!!

But don't give up hope peeps. My experiences since D have been off the charts.

Not sure if it is just being in a R that involves trust? Or my age? Or what....but things definitely changed.

Yeah - you!!!!

posts: 6685   ·   registered: May. 31st, 2009   ·   location: Pennsylvania
id 8691681

JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 8:52 PM on Friday, October 8th, 2021


Get it girl!!!!

The first time I kissed someone new . . . it was so odd. He was a good kisser, I liked him. But I felt nothing. Like, in terms of getting turned on, I could have been folding laundry instead of making out with a cute guy with pretty blue eyes. look I really thought I was broken, too.

Then I briefly dated someone who could derail my entire train of thought by lightly touching my arm, and I realized that naw, I'm not broken. laugh

I'm glad you had fun!!

posts: 9420   ·   registered: Aug. 17th, 2010   ·   location: Southeast US
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WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 8:58 PM on Saturday, October 9th, 2021

Ohhh yesss....that first cute beach guy...after being with only narc stbx for the previous 20 years. Damn...😁.

Enjoy yourself, CBS!! Your body is most certainly not broken.

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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id 8692397

countrydirt ( member #55758) posted at 4:10 AM on Wednesday, October 13th, 2021

Good for you crazyblindsided!! Hook-ups can be fun!

3 adult sons
Married 32 years. DDay1 - June 2016, DDay 2 - April 2017, Final DDay - May 2020. Divorced - January 2021

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twicefooled ( member #42976) posted at 3:54 PM on Wednesday, October 13th, 2021

Sometimes the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else ;)

Yay for new experiences!!! Love seeing this :)

May 29 2021 ***reclaimed myself and decided to delete my story with my ex because I'm now 7 years free from him and mentally healthier than I've been in years.

*********When you know better, you can do better*************

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id 8692934

Hedwig ( member #74175) posted at 7:44 PM on Wednesday, October 13th, 2021

the first good sex after a separation/break-up/divorce will have you grinning and smiling like a teenager with their first crush grin

Dday - 10/2018
Caught them, EMDR helped
Ended the relationship after false R for 1,5 years

posts: 266   ·   registered: Apr. 8th, 2020
id 8692984

20yrsagoBS ( member #55272) posted at 8:00 PM on Wednesday, October 13th, 2021

What a wonderful post to read!

Good for you!!!

BW, 54 WH 53
When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with fleas

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