You can do some free PI work right now.
Sit down with WW, your mobile phone and a computer, ask WW for the contact numbers and social pages of these friends because you want alternative contacts in case of emergency because it is a pandemic and there is political tension right now. You want to spring it on her when she is sitting down with you and unable to make an excuse to leave the room.
• If your WW won't tell you the friend's social pages or says "they don't have one" - she is lying to your face again
• If your WW gives you the friend's social pages and they're fake (inactive pages, low friend count, she is their only friend) - she is lying to your face again
• If your WW "forgets" what their social pages are - she is lying to your face again
• If your WW tries to leave the room for a moment - she is lying to your face again
• If she says "no" or says it's a breach of her privacy - she is lying to your face again
If she freely gives all the information and the social pages are active and you have been given legit contact details it's up to you if you want to call them under the guise of wanting their emergency contact numbers "just in case" of an emergency. It's up to you if you determine that there is a legitimately girl's night out going to happen or not.
I need you to hear me when I say there is no such thing as coincidences with adulterers, if you read enough posts here you will see that waywards who were "coincidentally" somewhere close to their affair partner's location was because they were seeing them, it's never been a case of coincidence only. Your WW is going straight to his location around his birthday.
I lurk on the pro adultery / other woman websites to keep myself educated on the new tactics cheaters use to hide their affairs and a new one with women is to hunt for other cheating women in their suburb/ work (or close enough to drive to) and take a bunch of selfies together wearing different clothing and then use those pictures as evidence of a "girls night/day out" to show their betrayed spouse so they can plan hook ups with their affair partners under the guise of a "girls night/day out". If the betrayed spouse gets suspicious about it they whip out the fake selfie pics. So take that with a grain of salt.
If this was so innocent you could simply say to WW "why don't your friends come here and you can all use the house to crash at after the night out" or "i'm not comfortable with the time and location but I am ok with you meeting your friends so why don't you change the date and location", she is supposedly in R, she would want to make this as transparent as possible if she was telling the truth. Any signs of defensiveness or anger towards this request is a large flashing neon sign she is lying about all of this.
You have placed trust and hope this woman would be faithful because she made vows to be faithful and now you're putting that same trust and hope that she would be faithful again because she is a mother. We've seen WW walk away from young kids before, we've heard WW swear on the life of their kids they wouldn't cheat while still cheating. Your WW is an adulterer, being a mother is not a motivator to stop lying.
From what you have written she is displaying the signs (the signs being all talk and crocodile tears and no actions) she has taken this under ground, burner phone likely used and has given you the typical false R time frame (which waywards give) to let routine fall back into place, enough time that she now feels you won't question lies and bold actions to see the affair partner. A remorseful wayward committed to reconciliation does more then they say, they willingly put trackers on themselves, they willingly facetime at random times, they do not put themselves in any suspicious situations that would make you doubt they want to stay married, they willingly unlock everything and give you the key to allow you to keep checking they're a safe partner. The betrayed never is the one driving reconciliation it's the wayward, so far your wayward is sitting back while you drive reconciliation and on queue tell you what you want to hear, it's minimal effort at best and you rewarded that with her ring back.
As long as you want the marriage she will cheat as much as she likes because there is no consequences for her infidelity. If you want to gain some control back in your life implement the 180 (information on 180 located in our healing library under 'articles'.)
[This message edited by LostInHisFog at 12:15 AM, Saturday, September 18th]