One year ago today I was blindsided when the woman I had been dating for 2-1/2 years broke up with me over the phone, with little explanation, and "didn’t want to discuss it." A week later, my "best friend" of 36 years was acting strange about my breakup and pretty much ended our 36 year friendship. A few months ago, I learned that his girlfriend broke up with him. A common friend spoke with her and she said she actually broke up with him once right after my GF broke up with me, because he was spending too much time talking with my exGF after our breakup, and his GF thought he was trying to get with my ex. Hmmm, that’s what I thought too. I also got confirmation that my exGF had been cheating on me with another dude from her past. They started dating publicly very soon after she broke up with me, and I’m told they’re no longer together.
To me, this is all sad, because none of it needed to happen. I truly loved her and was planning to propose. She abandoned that to cheat on me with a guy whom she’s no longer with, just one year later. My ex "best friend" screwed me over for a girl that he never got to be with, or maybe he got to be with once. They both lost. What a shame. Didn’t need to happen this way.
I’m doing much better, but I still miss them both. There’s no going back to either of them, and that’s sad. But life is what it is.
A couple weeks ago, I broke up with a woman I had dated for 4 months. As much as I wanted that relationship to work, she had some FOO issues that created problems in our relationship that surfaced at two months in, and became progressively worse over the past two months.
I’m not sure why I’m posting. I think, I might just want to be "heard". I never got "closure" from either my exGF or my ex "best friend", and I’m sure I never will. She was the first and only person I’ve loved in the 5-1/2 years since my exWW. In many ways, this one hurt more than my divorce, because this exGF knew what my exWW did, and then she did the exact same thing. Couple that with the loss of my ex best friend, and it’s a big blow.
Intellectually, I know I’m better off with both of them out of my life, but emotionally, it was a sh!tstorm.
I just wanted to share my thoughts tonight. Thanks for anyone reading/listening.