xSO and I broke up, and one month later he moved in an "old friend" and her family into his home. We had a long-term relationship (6+ years) and I always knew about his friend, he swore they were never an item. Then when we break up she moves in with him. There had to have been an EA since she lived far from us, but he won't talk to me anymore or answer texts. After so many years together I figured I at least deserved an explanation, or just an honest "yes" when I heard the rumor of her living with him. Am I wrong to expect the bare minimum after so long?
I am currently trying to "detox" from him as I became very obsessed with wanting to know the truth. The break up was not ugly, he said feelings were just gone, and I believed him. We ended on what I thought were good terms and he told mutual friends he'd always be there for my kids as they spent a good portion of their childhood with him in their lives. We have mutual friends and did a lot over the years with people that I will no longer be hanging with.
I have an IC scheduled in 3 weeks, they couldn't get me in sooner.
6 comments posted: Wednesday, October 13th, 2021
The “single and happy” post
Does anyone know how to find the post about being single and happy? My life that I had planned out is no longer and being a new empty nester I find myself in a deep sadness over being alone.
12 comments posted: Thursday, August 26th, 2021
It's official, DS is off to college and I'm home alone. Many tell me it's a wonderful time to rediscover myself and find new things to keep living for. But I'm lost. Been taking care of children for more than half of my adult life, and I have no idea what direction to take next. I've taken up kayaking and can do that, and I've started crafting. But the house is so empty with just me. I've seen couples get excited about "time for themselves" but it's just me and I can't get that "excited to start over" feeling. I mostly go home from work and lay on the couch until I'm hungry. And then I just cry. I know it will pass eventually. Thank you for listening.
10 comments posted: Monday, August 23rd, 2021
In speaking with mom she has given a different perspective on infidelity years ago. She spoke of people that she knew who "put up" with it. For example, the locals knew of a man who'd travel every year or so and had a side piece in another country. He'd do his thing, come home, and everyone knew it. Not sure if his wife knew it, but those who DID said nothing about it.
Another example - woman's husband cheats but then gets sick so she takes care of him because he's her true love.
Are we in a different time where cheating is no longer acceptable or are we not as "in love" as these women were? I'm wondering if the fact that these women were all home with no jobs besides raising kids that made a difference.
Makes me wonder why mom still held on to STBX even though he had strayed, because it was something expected back then and still expected by some today?
7 comments posted: Tuesday, July 27th, 2021