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 freetogonow (original poster Member #57821) posted at 9:32 PM on Monday, August 9th, 2021

Ok so it's been a minute for me since I've been single. I was married since 1993 and I was truly faithful and never looked at another man. If one flirted or came on to me, I was oblivious to it because I never thought that way about other men.

So this guy...he's very shy in general but he is liking everything that I post on Facebook. Like everything.

Do you think he likes me? I feel like at a minimum, it indicates that I'm posting things that he's quite interested in reading, and enjoys, etc.

[This message edited by freetogonow at 9:35 PM, Monday, August 9th]

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EllieKMAS ( Member #68900) posted at 9:39 PM on Monday, August 9th, 2021

Why don't you just ask him? Especially if you're interested in him.

I'm with you - I am completely oblivious to interest shown in me too. That's why I find that blunt direct honesty is the best policy for me personally. It gets me on the same page for one. And for two, it scares off people who don't value honesty and directness.

"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger

"Being weird is just a side effect of being awesome."– Unknown

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 freetogonow (original poster Member #57821) posted at 9:42 PM on Monday, August 9th, 2021

I think I'm going to LOL.

"You like what I say on facebook. Are you interested in hearing me say it to your face?"

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 freetogonow (original poster Member #57821) posted at 9:43 PM on Monday, August 9th, 2021

And for two, it scares off people who don't value honesty and directness.

holy hell, that is a great point. That's something I'm tucking my back pocket and remembering.

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EllieKMAS ( Member #68900) posted at 9:47 PM on Monday, August 9th, 2021

I am blunt to the point of discomfort for a lot of people. The older I get, the more I don't think that's a bad thing. My xwh accused me of that toward the end - that "my directness" made him feel "uncomfortable".... Yeah, I don't have a problem with that

"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger

"Being weird is just a side effect of being awesome."– Unknown

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stubbornft ( Member #49614) posted at 10:49 PM on Monday, August 9th, 2021

Do YOU like HIM? I am not ready to start dating again, but I think when I am, I am OVER doing all the work. If you like being the one to come right out and ask then you should! I personally wouldn't want a grown man to show me he likes me by liking my social media posts.

Me: BS 40
Him: WS 51
He cheated with massage parlor sex workers
Dday 01/19/2021

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WhoTheBleep ( Member #49504) posted at 12:50 AM on Tuesday, August 10th, 2021

I personally wouldn't want a grown man to show me he likes me by liking my social media posts

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I have to agree with this.

That said, these are weird times. Liking your Facebook posts (ALL of them) is kind of like sending you a like on a dating site. It's par for the course these days, lame though it is.

Why don't you shoot him a message? Strike up a conversation, do some light fishing, test his temperature. You'll know soon enough.

[This message edited by WhoTheBleep at 6:50 PM, August 9th (Monday)]

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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 freetogonow (original poster Member #57821) posted at 2:11 AM on Tuesday, August 10th, 2021

I like him in that I think he is extremely nice and I would be interested in getting to know him better.

I also know that he is shy and uncertain so I'm willing to cut some slack.

I also know that I am not rehab for emotionally stunted men LOL. So he's gonna have to get past his shyness if he wants to pursue, I mean he's damn near retirement age.

I was reading the replies and thought to myself, why did you even have to ask this when you already knew the answer blush

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grubs ( Member #77165) posted at 2:33 AM on Tuesday, August 10th, 2021

I also know that I am not rehab for emotionally stunted men LOL.


Ask him out. If he gets the deer in the headlights look, just run.

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stubbornft ( Member #49614) posted at 5:11 AM on Tuesday, August 10th, 2021

I also know that I am not rehab for emotionally stunted men LOL.

Good for you. I have welcomed one too many to StubbornFT's Rehabilitation Center for Man Children(R) laugh

Me: BS 40
Him: WS 51
He cheated with massage parlor sex workers
Dday 01/19/2021

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WhoTheBleep ( Member #49504) posted at 12:25 PM on Tuesday, August 10th, 2021

I also know that I am not rehab for emotionally stunted men LOL.

Girl, YESSSS!!! Unfortunately it took me my last two relationships to learn this. If you are in your fifties, and haven't fully recovered from your childhood shit, stay far away from me! Plenty of women out there who will be willing to "fix" you, or tolerate your crap.

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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HeartFullOfHoles ( Member #42874) posted at 3:12 PM on Tuesday, August 10th, 2021

Or maybe he knows your story and is respectfully giving you some space, but still trying to show he is interested in you with the likes. Shy does not equate to being a man child!

BH - Tried to R for too long, now happily divorced
D-Day 4/28-29/2012 (both 48 at the time)
Two adult daughters

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 freetogonow (original poster Member #57821) posted at 10:01 PM on Tuesday, August 10th, 2021

Yeah I think you are right. He’s interested but he’s not going to push his way in.

He’s already a friend obviously because he’s on my Facebook friends list. I’ve known him about 10 years. He’s fully aware of my story, I have not hid the details, and he’s watched me go from devastated and destroyed to the happy ray of sunshine that I am today.

But my divorce isn’t final for another 6 months and I for sure feel like he would be one to say, I don’t date married women.

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grubs ( Member #77165) posted at 10:06 PM on Tuesday, August 10th, 2021

But my divorce isn’t final for another 6 months and I for sure feel like he would be one to say, I don’t date married women.


Then bookmark that thought and check back in six months or a year. The ones you want going forward are ones with hard boundaries like that.

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WhoTheBleep ( Member #49504) posted at 10:21 PM on Tuesday, August 10th, 2021

The ones you want going forward are ones with hard boundaries like that.

Absolutely!

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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shakentocore ( Member #46124) posted at 3:12 AM on Saturday, August 14th, 2021

You know when he calls you up and asks you on a date.

DDay - Christmas 2014. Working on R.

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Ganondorf ( Member #70843) posted at 12:55 PM on Sunday, August 15th, 2021

Is he single?

Lots of guys are just afraid of rejection.

Your gut should tell you if it's just friendly liking or interest.

If you like him as well, ask if he'd like a cup coffee.

These days, I would imagine it's a little daunting for men to try and be the initiators. At times, it can seem like running across glass barefoot.

I live in a different culture, but a very attractive woman I've started dating was asking why men all seem to look at her but do nothing.

I said, most dont even know how to talk to a woman face to face these days. Most are probably worried about being rejected. Or intimated. Or assume you already have all these great guys chasing you and you'd never consider them. Because that's what typically their online experience.

She mentioned once how she appreciated how "brave" I was to approach her. And I was like "lol I was super nervous and expected you to tell me to get lost"

hahaha.

Legit forgot my DD and divorce and I'm fine with that.

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