gotmylifeback posted 4/20/2021 15:53 PM

This month is the 10 year anniversary of my D-Day. I know many have come and gone over the years. I was just wondering who else joined in 2011 and are still around.

DragnHeart posted 4/20/2021 16:03 PM

I joined in May 2011.

D day 1 was actually oct 2010 i think. So long ago and so many d days since its hard to remember lol. I think its in my tagline.

homewrecked2011 posted 4/20/2021 18:07 PM

I still post here some.
My life is so much better now!!!! I’m so happy I’m away from my xh.
However, I wish I could have gotten more $$ in my D so that my children and I could have traveled more while they were young teens.

phmh posted 4/20/2021 18:12 PM

I'm still around occasionally - mostly because when I first was here I wanted to hear stories from people who survived and thrived, so I want to be able to encourage others that things will get so much better.

I look back on that time now and it seems like it happened to someone else!

hardtomove posted 4/20/2021 18:39 PM

Class of 2013

utterly broken posted 4/20/2021 20:28 PM

Yesterday was the 10th antiversary of my last Dday. I joined in 2009. I'm still with my fww. I'm doing ok overall though I still haven't made it through a single day without thinking about it.

thebighurt posted 4/20/2021 21:23 PM

This is funny, since I was just thinking of posting looking for Class of 2011 or 2012, as I joined in 2012 but DDay was in 2011. I had read here off and on starting in 2011, but wasn't sure it was what I was looking for as D was started on DDay, so never posted or read in JFO.

Life is SOOOO much better now than it was with xpos in my life! Even the pandemic isn't as bad as that had been! Way less drama and emotional trauma this past year+. I wonder if anyone else can relate to that? And I have spent the vast majority of that time with just me for company.

HFSSC posted 4/21/2021 07:07 AM

<Raises hand>

That’s us. I originally joined early in 2011 when JM and I were S the first time. I’m not sure if I ever even posted that time. By the time false R blew up and we S the 2nd time I couldn’t remember my password and I showed my ass when Deeply Scared replied to my email about resetting my password. Tried to deal on my own but I could not. I was embarrassed to come back after I’d told off the FOUNDER of this forum. So I made a new screen name and hoped I wouldn’t get busted. (I did finally come clean to DS a couple of years later and she laughed at me. )

JM and I are fully reconciled and I stay for a couple of reasons. Primarily because I have such a debt and I want to pay it forward. I remember those horrible, crazy early days. I want to give hope to new members that this is, indeed, survivable. I want to bring light to people who are in darkness. But I also stay because I’ve developed real friendships with people here. We may never meet IRL but there is a bond here that is stronger than some IRL relationships.

I don’t think I’d have survived 2011-2012 without SI. I know that our M would not have survived.

DragnHeart posted 4/21/2021 07:31 AM

I just like doing SPF lol

gotmylifeback posted 4/21/2021 09:37 AM

DragnHeart, Homewrecked011, and HFSCC, I remember seeing your names throughout the forums! I had been lurking for several months before I joined. I spent so much time on SI although I didn't always post. I think I had half of the healing library memorized at that time. I was so lost and bounced around from just found out to general. Never really got to post in the reconciliation forum.

Remember the auction forum?

When I have more time, I will give an update on what has happened over the past 10 years.

I hated having to join this group but it's nice to see some familiar names. I think I remember Aubrie or Aubrie84. Not sure if she is still around.

SI is the best forum you wish you never had to join!

gotmylifeback posted 4/21/2021 09:41 AM

And I still love SPF!!

HFSSC posted 4/21/2021 09:59 AM

Aubrie doesn’t post anymore. She’s one of the SI members I have had the privilege to meet IRL and it was wonderful. She is real and beautiful.

tl502 posted 4/21/2021 10:02 AM

I consider myself Class of 2011 because I started reading here shortly after my dday in September 2011. Took me awhile to join, I’m slow that way.
This place gave me the understanding that I wasn’t alone. I’m still with my fwh, but it’s still nice to touch base here.

sisoon posted 4/21/2021 10:18 AM

December, 2010 d-day, February, 2011 join date.

I think I'd say we've completed R and are back to M, even though I still think about my W's A every day. It's just that I feel A-related pain only rarely. Healing was more work than I anticipated.

I look at people's member numbers, and I feel a special kinship with people whose numbers are close to mine. We're sort of classmates.

I think I'm still here because I'm still working something out for myself. I just don't know what it is.

I couldn't go into F&G for months, and for months after my first visit, I'd see SPF and ask myself, 'Why would I want to look at stupid pictures?'

Now SPF is a highlight of my week. Thanks, Dragn!

[This message edited by sisoon at 10:20 AM, April 21st (Wednesday)]

Chili posted 4/21/2021 12:46 PM

Class of 2012 here but lots of familiar usernames on this thread. I'm here off and on to try and pay it forward. Like phmh, I always looked to folks on the other side of infidelity for that light at the end of the tunnel.

Remember the auction forum?

For sure - I have a pair of earrings from it I still wear all the time because they have such a good SI vibe.

Remember the fundraising threads for a *certain member* to post selfies wearing ummmm....various types of attire?

Even without the 2020 mess, seems like there were a lot more GTGs back then - it was pretty amazing to meet SIers in person.

Markone posted 4/21/2021 14:31 PM

My DDwas Nov 2010 so consider myself class of 11. Divorced in 2014. Reached the summit of “indifference” by then. Life is good and there is NC. Some familiar names in this thread who helped me during the dark dark early days - so nice to have you in one “room “
to thank you!

DragnHeart posted 4/21/2021 14:51 PM

No need to thank me for SPF. I enjoy doing it. Sometimes cant believe how long its been. How much shit has happened. But i couldn't think of a better place to be.

nutmegkitty posted 4/21/2021 16:17 PM

November 2011 here. A lifetime ago.

I've taken breaks but still read and try to help posters.

sisoon posted 4/22/2021 10:35 AM

Oh, wow, Aubrie.

If you're still reading, I really hope you were able to get out of pain.

sisoon posted 4/22/2021 10:37 AM

Oh, wow, Aubrie.

If you're still reading, I really hope you were able to get out of pain.