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Gablestitch (original poster member #60148) posted at 5:10 PM on Wednesday, February 10th, 2021
I received an email from my lawyer yesterday...everything was signed on the 4th so I've been divorced for almost a week and didn't know. I'll be speaking to my attorney later this week about the specifics but it looks like I got everything I asked for plus a bit. Based on the tone, I think I would have been given more if there was more.
I am trying to decide how to celebrate. I can't exactly go out and paint the town with COVID and having the kids all the time. Plus, how do you explain to kids mommy is celebrating her divorce from your daddy?
Honestly I'm just happy it's done and my lawyer is being very generous with settling my debts with him. On to the rest of my life!
Me: BW Him: WH
Dday sometime August 2017 after returning to work from maternity leave with third kid.
Separated shortly after.
Divorced 2021 after he ignored every court date and document sent to him.
grubs ( member #77165) posted at 6:13 PM on Wednesday, February 10th, 2021
I am trying to decide how to celebrate. I can't exactly go out and paint the town with COVID and having the kids all the time. Plus, how do you explain to kids mommy is celebrating her divorce from your daddy?
It's a Wonderful Wednesday works well enough. Congrats. Live your better life.
Anna123 ( member #70908) posted at 6:55 PM on Wednesday, February 10th, 2021
Whoo hoo! Congratulations! Treat yourself and the kids to a bunch of goodies you normally may pass on? (They don't have to know why you are so happy -- it's Valentines day coming up so attribute it to that :-) ? Just a Covid friendly idea.
EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 7:23 PM on Wednesday, February 10th, 2021
Yay!! here's a virtual cake for you!!
"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger
"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park
barcher144 ( member #54935) posted at 7:45 PM on Wednesday, February 10th, 2021
Woo Hoo!
I wonder if Judges ever feel like Oprah:
You get a divorce! You get a divorce!
Me: Crap, I'm 50 years old. D-Day: August 30, 2016. Two years of false reconciliation. Divorce final: Feb 1, 2021. Re-married: December 3, 2022.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 8:20 PM on Wednesday, February 10th, 2021
Congratulations!!
Popcorn & movie night or pizza?
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
Chili ( member #35503) posted at 10:17 PM on Wednesday, February 10th, 2021
Huge huge relief vibes sent your way GS.
One thing you can do is think about changing your SI sig line with something that suits....but do find a moment or two or three for yourself in all this somehow. Maybe even a quiet moment alone in a beautiful place with a to-go cuppa something warm. Acknowledge your own strength and goodness.
You will be extra fine with sprinkles on top.
2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Took off flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 10:21 PM on Wednesday, February 10th, 2021
To paraphrase Maury Povitch —you are NO LONGER his wife!!!!
Cue the cheers 🍻 and beers
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 11 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 11:45 PM on Wednesday, February 10th, 2021
Great night! Enjoy the new found peace!!
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
squid ( member #57624) posted at 11:53 PM on Wednesday, February 10th, 2021
BH
D-Day 2.19.17
Divorced 12.10.18
This isn’t what any of us signed up for. But it is the hand that we have been dealt. Thus, we must play it.
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 3:24 AM on Thursday, February 11th, 2021
Bittersweet congrats! Welcome to the other side. Breathe the fresh air.
Onward and upward!
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
barcher144 ( member #54935) posted at 1:02 PM on Thursday, February 11th, 2021
I received an email from my lawyer yesterday...everything was signed on the 4th so I've been divorced for almost a week and didn't know.
Sorry to ask a probing question, but what took so long for your lawyer to contact you?
Me: Crap, I'm 50 years old. D-Day: August 30, 2016. Two years of false reconciliation. Divorce final: Feb 1, 2021. Re-married: December 3, 2022.
fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 1:30 AM on Friday, February 12th, 2021
Congrats, I know it has been a long slog to get to this point with the POS exWH. He is such an asshat, even attacking your father physically. I hope you celebrate and feel a sense of relief. Best wishes for you and your family. You deserve the best.
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
Trust55 ( member #60672) posted at 5:06 AM on Friday, February 12th, 2021
Me - BS - D Day 03.19.2017 ( 2 days before our 31 wedding anniversary)False R Divorce in progress FILED JUNE 2017,
TRIAL JUNE 2022! It’s pretty sad married to a LIAR and CHEATER.
Gablestitch (original poster member #60148) posted at 2:53 PM on Friday, February 12th, 2021
Tag line changed. I think it still needs tweaked but it's better now.
Thank you to all that responded and read my posts.
Barcher, to answer your question, his office received the notice on Monday. He didn't see it until Tuesday when he emailed me. I didn't see his email until the day I posted. I know he normally has court time Mondays. He has been very good to me and has been very good at judging what he thinks the court will do. When there is pressing issues, he contacts me as soon as he's able, sometimes later at night or on the weekends. This isn't the first time the courts here have signed something but took days to actually inform my lawyer and myself.
But this process is so lengthy and expensive. I'm so glad it's over.
Me: BW Him: WH
Dday sometime August 2017 after returning to work from maternity leave with third kid.
Separated shortly after.
Divorced 2021 after he ignored every court date and document sent to him.
barcher144 ( member #54935) posted at 3:03 PM on Friday, February 12th, 2021
Barcher, to answer your question, his office received the notice on Monday. He didn't see it until Tuesday when he emailed me. I didn't see his email until the day I posted.
Oh good. He did let you know promptly.
This issue is a slight trigger for me. When the judge made his ruling on a Thursday in June 2019, he gave me 7 days to vacate the marital home.
My attorney's paralegal sent me the decision on Monday morning without comment; my attorney did not call me until Monday afternoon. Meaning, I was given 7 days to move out, but my shitty attorney#2 pissed away 4-5 of those days being asleep at the wheel. This will be part of my ethical complaint against her.
Me: Crap, I'm 50 years old. D-Day: August 30, 2016. Two years of false reconciliation. Divorce final: Feb 1, 2021. Re-married: December 3, 2022.
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 3:35 PM on Friday, February 12th, 2021
Yaaaaayyy!!! This gives the rest of us hope! Onward!
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
Gablestitch (original poster member #60148) posted at 3:43 PM on Friday, February 12th, 2021
Fareast, I just saw your comment. He really is an asshat. My family is doing as well as can be during these times and happy to get this off our plates. Thank you for the thoughts.
Barcher, I remember your attorney troubles. I'm glad to see your new one is working out.
Me: BW Him: WH
Dday sometime August 2017 after returning to work from maternity leave with third kid.
Separated shortly after.
Divorced 2021 after he ignored every court date and document sent to him.
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