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Marz ( member #60895) posted at 2:22 AM on Friday, October 15th, 2021

It’s ok to ignore.

Text or email kids only. It’s your best path.

[This message edited by Marz at 2:24 AM, Friday, October 15th]

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 CM70 (original poster member #76077) posted at 3:01 PM on Friday, October 15th, 2021

Yes, I never reach out to her if I do it's to text her about the kids. She tries to call me & text me occasionally but it's usually about the kids activities or to ask questions about everything! I no longer reply to her questions and ignore her so that has subsided mostly. She did finally get her WIFI & TV's hooked up and it was one of her work friend's husbands (who we used to hang out with) of course. He calls me and says "hey man how are you"? I say hey man "living the the dream", he laughs & goes on to say I am at WW's house and trying to hook up her TV's. I say how did you get suckered into that, he laughs again "you know how it is". Anyway told him all the parts & cables are in a bag I labeled when she moved out, which of course the WW had no idea what she was looking at. He found them, and I just said thanks & good luck!

I am still waiting on telling the kid's AP's name & who he is. Until all the D documents are final & written in blood I will keep my mouth shut to get to the finish line. Again thanks everyone for your support!

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grubs ( member #77165) posted at 5:35 PM on Friday, October 15th, 2021

She did finally get her WIFI & TV's hooked up and it was one of her work friend's husbands

That was pretty brave of her work friend there. You stbx still needs to replace you as apparently AP is not apparently capable.

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 CM70 (original poster member #76077) posted at 9:43 PM on Friday, October 15th, 2021

That or she is actually keeping that piece of sh#t away from the kids for now. It's just a matter of time before she tries to bring him around and I will make sure they know who he is. Hey side note got the new VP job this afternoon! Start December 1st great opportunity for me, things are looking up!

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iggyb ( new member #74562) posted at 9:51 PM on Friday, October 15th, 2021

CM70, congratulations, Onward and upward

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BlueRaspberry ( member #76065) posted at 9:58 PM on Friday, October 15th, 2021

CM70,

Fantastic news! Congratulations. After all the crap you've been through, you truly deserve this. Keep fighting the good fight!

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fareast ( member #61555) posted at 2:16 AM on Saturday, October 16th, 2021

Excellent news. Congrats. You deserve it. A new job will help you focus on your future and not on the past. Good luck on your new job and new life.

Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.

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Marz ( member #60895) posted at 2:30 AM on Saturday, October 16th, 2021

I am still waiting on telling the kid's AP's name & who he is. Until all the D documents are final & written in blood I will keep my mouth shut to get to the finish line. Again thanks everyone for your support!

Good plan. The truth is always best. It will help explain your no contact with the x.

In most cases the x usually comes around playing the let’s be friends thing. Do it for the kids, etc.

Obviously she wasn’t thinking of the kids when she blew up the marriage and family. It’s all for her. Not you.

I know three who pull a very strong no contact and 2 of them have kids in grade school. All 3 say it’s the best thing they’ve done and the kids adjusted. Kids aren’t stupid and it’s never a good idea to lie to them and keep them in the dark.

Pick ups_ drop offs should only take a couple minutes. Keep holidays, birthdays, etc. separate.

She has her time and you have yours.

Definition of friend _ loyal, honest, trustworthy. She’s not your friend.

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Marz ( member #60895) posted at 2:30 AM on Saturday, October 16th, 2021

Double

[This message edited by Marz at 2:31 AM, Saturday, October 16th]

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Never2late ( new member #79079) posted at 3:20 AM on Saturday, October 16th, 2021

Congrats on the job and have her direct all non child related questions to AP.

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