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Betrayed Menz Thread - Part 34

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WearingTheHorns ( Member #37916) posted at 5:52 AM on Sunday, January 26th, 2020

So I found out Friday I have a kidney stone. I'm figuring one or more of you have experience with them so I wanted to ask how long does it actually take for it to make the journey from kidney to the exit? It's too big to pass so it's going to have to be broken up first, and I know I'm in for a new world of pain. I just haven't heard once it starts moving how long it takes to pass.

Dday: over a period of three days 11/14-16/2012.
EA/PA: ~ 2 1/2 years
EA/beginning PA: ~ 10 months
Hoped I'd never have to add this: Dday #2 11/22/2015 Not sure how far it went yet but have a pretty good idea.

2 Cor. 12:9-10

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HeartFullOfHoles ( Member #42874) posted at 4:28 PM on Sunday, January 26th, 2020

WTH,

In the middle of my divorce I wasn't drinking enough and had one. My first indication was the searing pain. After about an hour of that it was off to the ER for a few more hours in the waiting room. By the time they were ready to see me my brain was saturated by the pain. They gave me something, no I don't remember what, and did an MRI and some other tests. Determined it was a stone and that it should pass. At about that time the pain started to subside. A few hours later it was gone. Never to return.

So for me it was 6-8 hours of intense pain and then a few days pissing in a plastic funnel to catch the stone. At its peak the pain was an 11 on a 1-10 scale. I would not wish that type of pain on anyone, but I know it does vary by the individual. Maybe I was just lucky .

Hopefully you have a milder experience!

BH - Tried to R for too long, now happily divorced
D-Day 4/28-29/2012 (both 48 at the time)
Two adult daughters

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Mr. Kite ( Member #28840) posted at 7:49 PM on Sunday, January 26th, 2020

So I found out Friday I have a kidney stone. I'm figuring one or more of you have experience with them so I wanted to ask how long does it actually take for it to make the journey from kidney to the exit? It's too big to pass so it's going to have to be broken up first, and I know I'm in for a new world of pain. I just haven't heard once it starts moving how long it takes to pass.

During the 70's, my alcoholic decade, I woke up one morning in intense pain. So being the idiot that I was at the time, I drank some brandy thinking it would go away. It didn't.

A few hours later I was in the emergency room. The doc smelled alcohol on my breath and told me he couldn't sedate me. Yikes!

So I sat on a table behind a drawn curtain and waited for it to pass. "How long will this take, doc?" "You'll know once it happens." As I recall it took about an hour.

More than 45 years later I'm guessing they have more humane ways to get through this ordeal. Hope your pain is minimal.

"Looks like I've been fooled again.
Looks like I'm the fool again.
I don't like it, I don't like it." Tom Petty - Fooled Again

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LosferWords ( Member #30369) posted at 7:26 PM on Tuesday, January 28th, 2020

The kidney stone stories are making me cringe!

How is the bed project coming along, Incarnate?

Good to see you, HFOH. Been awhile! I'm going down the divorce path as well, now, and that's working out best for everyone involved, I think.

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Incarnate ( Member #46085) posted at 10:17 PM on Tuesday, January 28th, 2020

I dont have much time, but I can post a quick update. Got the first piece of veneer on last night.

Me: BH
She: STBEW
Separated but cohabitating
DD1: 11/29/14
DD2: 8/14/19

What a wicked game we play.

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LosferWords ( Member #30369) posted at 10:59 PM on Tuesday, January 28th, 2020

Coming along nicely, man!

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HeartFullOfHoles ( Member #42874) posted at 3:03 AM on Wednesday, January 29th, 2020

Nice looking Incarnate. I'm waiting to expand my shop before I get back to making too much sawdust. Currently all my big woodworking tools are packed in a container.

Yes, Losfer,

Sometimes our fear of change prevents us from doing what is actually best for us. I have always tended to be slightly risk adverse, but I'm learning to be a bit more judicious. I hope it turns out as good for you as it did for me! Actually I hope it turns out better .

BH - Tried to R for too long, now happily divorced
D-Day 4/28-29/2012 (both 48 at the time)
Two adult daughters

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WornDown ( Member #37977) posted at 5:55 PM on Wednesday, January 29th, 2020

Nice!

Me: BH (49)exW (49): Way too many guys to countThree kids (D22, D21, S18)Together 25 years, married 18Divorced (July 2015)

I divorced a narc. Separate everything. NC as much as humanly possible and absolutely no phone calls. - Ch

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Incarnate ( Member #46085) posted at 2:13 AM on Thursday, January 30th, 2020

Aaaaand all done.

My blood sugar is rock bottom at 85, lower than it's been in 6 months. I'm gonna get some food before I get sick, lol

Me: BH
She: STBEW
Separated but cohabitating
DD1: 11/29/14
DD2: 8/14/19

What a wicked game we play.

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Notthevictem ( Member #44389) posted at 3:06 PM on Thursday, January 30th, 2020

Nice incarnate!

BH: Me 37
WW: Her 41
DDAY Mar 2014

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sisoon ( Guide #31240) posted at 7:17 PM on Thursday, January 30th, 2020

No words, Incarnate.

*****

The stones - I wishyou all the best.

*****

Nice parking lot experience. We flew out of town last weekend, and I parked in an off-site parking lot.

After lifetime of having to pay a lot extra because of parking for just over some quantum leap in fees - doesn't that hot everybody? - from check-in to check-out, I parked for 2 days, 23 hours, 58 minutes, and 20 seconds.

I got charged for 3 days. If the plane hadn't arrived early, I would have been hit for at least $5 more. Not a big win, but I'll take it.

[This message edited by sisoon at 1:18 PM, January 30th (Thursday)]

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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LosferWords ( Member #30369) posted at 11:12 PM on Thursday, January 30th, 2020

Sometimes our fear of change prevents us from doing what is actually best for us. I have always tended to be slightly risk adverse, but I'm learning to be a bit more judicious. I hope it turns out as good for you as it did for me! Actually I hope it turns out better.

Thanks, HFOH. Me too!

Excellent work, Incarnate! Are you happy with the final product?

That's a good win, Sisoon. Five bucks is five bucks, right? How is the hearing aid/music situation going?

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WearingTheHorns ( Member #37916) posted at 12:30 PM on Friday, January 31st, 2020

Nice work Incarnate! I'm trying to get my shop finished so I can start my endless list of things I want to build.

Thanks for the kidney stone info gents. I go next Thur to get it broken up. Been a hell of a month for WW and I health-wise. I'm ready for January to be in the rearview mirror.

Dday: over a period of three days 11/14-16/2012.
EA/PA: ~ 2 1/2 years
EA/beginning PA: ~ 10 months
Hoped I'd never have to add this: Dday #2 11/22/2015 Not sure how far it went yet but have a pretty good idea.

2 Cor. 12:9-10

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HeartFullOfHoles ( Member #42874) posted at 2:26 PM on Friday, January 31st, 2020

Hopefully they break the stone up nice and small so it's only a minor issue for you.

BH - Tried to R for too long, now happily divorced
D-Day 4/28-29/2012 (both 48 at the time)
Two adult daughters

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Mr. Kite ( Member #28840) posted at 7:36 PM on Monday, February 3rd, 2020

Had to put down my beloved Beagle, Flash, on Saturday the 25th of January. ****ing cancer!!!

Have been checking rescue sites for adult Siberian Huskies and Border Collies. Love dogs and it sucks to be without one right now.

In further news: WW has agreed to a polygraph which will take place on February 20th, her birthday. She fails and I'm done. She passes and we will carry on.

"Looks like I've been fooled again.
Looks like I'm the fool again.
I don't like it, I don't like it." Tom Petty - Fooled Again

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ShatteredSakura ( Member #70885) posted at 8:43 PM on Monday, February 3rd, 2020

Sorry you lost your pet companion. Cancer is truly an awful thing.

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sisoon ( Guide #31240) posted at 9:52 PM on Monday, February 3rd, 2020

Sorry for your loss, Mr. Kite.

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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LosferWords ( Member #30369) posted at 11:00 PM on Monday, February 3rd, 2020

Very sorry for your loss, Mr. K. Flash is in good company with some of the other Menz dogs that have passed over the years.

Do you have experience with huskies? They have some interesting traits that a lot of people can't quite handle, but they are entertaining as hell.

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Mr. Kite ( Member #28840) posted at 11:21 PM on Monday, February 3rd, 2020

Thanks guys. Yeah, this is a familiar pain for all us pet owners. Flash had a good life. He was 12 years and 9 months old and I figured out he had around 3,500 long walks in the woods with me, plus the best foods and cookies and lots of love and attention.

Do you have experience with huskies? They have some interesting traits that a lot of people can't quite handle, but they are entertaining as hell.

No, but I had an Alaskan Malamute who I found in a shelter in California. Huskies and Malamutes have some familiar character traits from what I've read. A Border Collie might be a reach for an older guy like me. I've been warned that they will tear up the house if they get bored, and I'm a pretty boring guy.

"Looks like I've been fooled again.
Looks like I'm the fool again.
I don't like it, I don't like it." Tom Petty - Fooled Again

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tbkjcn ( Member #44744) posted at 12:18 AM on Tuesday, February 4th, 2020

Had to put down my beloved Beagle, Flash

Mr Kite, I'm really sorry to hear that. I know you said when I lost my girl that you were fighting the same battle, yeah, cancer sucks. I lost both my dogs to it. My boy in the summer of 2017 to complications (pancreatitis) after surgery for liver cancer, a week before I got canned. Excuse me, laid off, made redundant, job was eliminated, whatever you want to call it. His sister was diagnosed with the same cancer in the spring of 2018. I lost her Labor Day weekend last summer, on the 5th anniversary of D-Day. I still miss them both. They're all Very Good Dogs and their time with us is much too short.

it sucks to be without one right now.

It does, but I've decided that there's not any more dogs in my future. But damn it's lonely.

[This message edited by tbkjcn at 6:20 PM, February 3rd (Monday)]

Me: BH 49 (then)
Her: WW 48 (then)
D-Day 8-30-14 3 yr LTA and 1 ONS (9-1-14 the rest of the story, she can't remember how many men)
Divorce filed 1/14/15, final 4/7/15
Married 23 years together 28

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