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Before you first posted here you had to know what your gut was telling (screaming ) at you. I'm not talking about your heart. Right now your heart will confuse you. You gut, your intuition is most likely right.

Dude she's still f'in guys right now. Anyone that truly wants to save a LTR, doesn't tell you she will be done when school finishes. That she needs to continue to get it out of her system. That's total bullshit.

Look at her actions, mainly right now her words or lack thereof speaks volumes. She's extremely immature and broken. Tell her you're going to tell her family (tell her this IN PERSON) and gauge her reaction. It will tell you everything.

Cheaters normally don't want their family to know because any normal family member will look at the WGF and say WTF. YOU'RE SHITTING ON YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND.

Don't have sex with her. She's been fucking man-whores in college. The likelihood she has herpes or genital worts are extremely high.

Five years from now you'll have a much clearer mind, you'll meet someone that will be the future Mrs. Brady. You don’t want to spoil it by telling her you have a permanent STD.

You already knew that answer to your question before you got here. Someone already posted it here, M doesn't get easier it becomes more strained as time goes along. Make sure you're both are on solid ground from the beginning; it's clear you're not.

I had a long talk with her tonight. First time we've talked for more than 5 minutes. I told her that I'd she truly loves me she would give me time to think about things and sort things out. She started to cry and told me she loves me and doesn't want to lose me. She said again that the sex doesn't mean anything.. She said she just got caught up with the party lifestyle.. She promised that once she finishes school things will be good again. I asked her if she will stop and she was noncommittal... And again, stupid me I asked if it was better than with me.. She said is different...she said if I loved her than I need to let her have these experiences before we get married... I do love her... More than anything. I just want to make her happy... But I just don't know anymore.... She wants to come down this weekend and try to talk about things.... I want to see her so bad... Hold her.. Kiss her.. But I don't know if i can handle it. I feel like it's my fault some how...

Pretend this was your brother or a close friend. What would you say to him?

She wants you to be her cuckold. Cmon man you know better.

Dump her and never look back. Get an STD test !!!!

My son turned 21 in December, he went through the same thing. I know it is hard but the worst is yet to come. Thank God my son dumped her before it got worse.

She wants you to stay loyal while se plays the field. She is not ready to be married and more than likely not marriage material.

She will go from sleeping with guys in college to sleeping with coworkers. She will sleep with guys at the gym.

She will sleep with one or more of you friends. She will sleep with the stripper at her bachelorette party.

This will be your life.

Dont feel bad and continue this. Get out. She does not deserve tou. You WILL regret it.

I get the love and not wanting to let go. I do.man it sucks. But you will.suffer if you don't get out a this.

Take a look back. Have you ended relationships before? Even if u habe. Get out now!

Is there even anything to consider? I mean she isn’t even giving you a choice. 12 guys in four years. What do you think her number will be by the time she finish her “last moments of freedom.” And be honest with yourself, if she enjoys the party lifestyle for the past four years, do you really think she will stop partying in her 20s? She is going to all of a sudden be okay with the lifestyle of monogamy when she is such an excellent liar? She has emasculated you and is making you think it’s your fault she completely wasted your time.

You really have to evaluate this feeling of yours that it is your fault. It’s quite normal for a person who wants to enjoy numerous sex partners, partying, and alcohol to go to college and go wild. Hey, to each their own. I’d wager it’s very uncommon to stay in a long distance relationship with your high school sweet heart. But that’s not your fault. It’s not your fault that she strung you along. Honestly, this girl said year to your proposal and is probably wearing your ring while she had sex with 12-40 guys. That ring of yours is probably right now touching the member of some goofball who thinks of your fiancé as a slut. Some of those 12 guys probably are in the same frat. They probably pass your fiancé around. I’d tell her to enjoy herself. Then I’d ghost her. How can you even be okay with having sex with someone who is drinking and having sex with that number of people in this day and age? You need to get an std check. I’m sorry, but you have to take care of yourself. I can’t believe she strung you alone for 4 years. The sex is different. Get mad.

"I love you" is Just words man. Probably one of the biggest lies told.

Along with "it's just sex"

"We're just friends"

"He didn't mean anything to me"

"I'm just gonna fuck a few more then I'll stop"

Get the picture?

We've Heard them all.

Time to wake up

Sorry you are here

At some point you going to have to come to your senses and face reality. Wow... she has no moral compass and her lack of remorse in indicative of someone who will not think twice to screw someone else. Case and point .. sex is nothing to her.

You need to act fast before you get even more caught up in this. Run my friend... Run fast before you lose your own self respect. Cut contact with this girl... there are plenty of other girls out there. For crying in a bucket.. you are only 21 with oodles of time to find someone who will respect you.

in fact you don't even owe her an explanation... move on soon.

I don't want to sound harsh.. but the fact that you even consider taking her back is precisely why she has no respect for you. You need to work on your back bone young man. Start now so no one will ever do this to you again.

So yeah, I agree with everyone who has advised you to leave.

I was very seriously involved with women at your age who acted similarly, and I stuck it out with them. It blew up in my face every time. Don't be me. Just let it go, you will thank us later, I promise. Your life is out in front of you, don't waste precious time on someone so damaged. You cannot fix them.

You said. •I am chubby”

You can change that. You can’t change exchanging wedding vows with a dirty slut.

This girl is gross. She is lying it’s mkre than 12 guys. There is something seriously wrong with her.

Change your phone number. How many times have you hung out at home alone because you are engaged?

This girl is disgusting. Find yourself a good woman. I promise they are out there.

You are so young, this is a learning experience, listen to the good advice you have been given .Go 180, run fast , run far!Start your healing now!Read here , you will see you are not alone and you will find great wisdom.believe this , you will fall in love again but this experience will make your next choices wiser ,read what others are going through , the same cheaters handbook. Denial is not your friend !hugs and take action, you will be ok.

You have received very god advice. The only thing I could add is that there are people who sincerely think that sex is no big deal. The analogy I use is someone that grew up eating pork and converted to a religion where it’s a sin.

They know that they promised not to. They know they would be in trouble if caught. They would feel guilty about hurting others if they were caught. But they will never feel guilty about enjoying a little bacon. If no one catches them life is great.

So it’s easier for her to cheat. What you don’t know won’t hurt you.

She would probably say that she never told any of those 12 guys that she loved them so what’s the problem. Her feelings are just for you.

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[This message edited by Michigan at 3:05 AM, March 6th (Tuesday)]

Stop. Being. Weak.

Break up with her. Don't see her this weekend. Stop talking to her. She has no idea what love is.

If you marry a cheater, expect to get cheated on. She'd be the kind of wife that tried to get you to allow her to cheat bc it makes her happy, and don't you want her to be happy?

Stop coddling her.

[This message edited by GoldenR at 5:28 AM, March 6th (Tuesday)]

It sounds like you have some self esteem issue.

she said if I loved her than I need to let her have these experiences before we get married... I do love her...

And I said if you respect yourself, you would not fail in those stupid cheater b.s

I advise you to work on your selfesteem, self respect and self love.

Right now, you love the one you thought she was more than you love yourself. That's not healthy.

You have to see a therapist, for work on those issue.

I think you should read "no more mr nice guy" by robert Glover.

It will be a great wake up call for you.

Respect yourself, that's the only thing you have control on, and who should respect you, if you don't ?

I'm a woman and I can tell you right now if I loved you I would be pining away for you at school not f'ing 12 other guys!

Perhaps you should talk to your parents and hers. Ask them if this is normal and see what they say.

Talk to your friends also.

ALL of them will tell you to run as far away from this slut as fast as you can.

Please for your sake and future happiness ghost this bitch.

Brady,

The issue here is you deserve better. If your staying because your afraid of your ability to find someone new there are lots of girls interested in nerds.

She has shown you she doesn’t care by being vague about stopping. You will never trust her again. She knows now to keep her phone clean.

Please end things.

Brady, if you condone this behavior now by staying with her, things will never change. Actually, that’s not true, things will get worse for you if you get married because you will be tied to her cheating ass financially and possibly with kids. She won’t change unless there are real consequences for her.

She is incredibly selfish and doesn’t give two shits about how this is impacting you. She is crying about what she loses, not how she has made you feel. Don’t choose a spouse who willingly does this to you. My college girlfriend cheated on me, and ending the relationship with her was the hardest, but smartest thing I’ve ever done. She was beautiful, sexy, funny, charming, and we had so much sex we’d be sore the next day. But, none of that was worth being betrayed. I knew I couldn’t be with someone long term if they didn’t have respect for me. Because if they didn’t respect me, I wouldn’t be able to respect myself. We need to like who we see in the mirror and having no self respect makes that very difficult.

You are young. You should see who else is out there. She may be physically beautiful, but she’s ugly on the inside (see the paragraph above for how I know). Ideally, you’ll find someone else who is attractive internally and externally.

Rus as fast as you can and never look back. You are young and don't have kids. There are many other nice girls that don't do all the hunks in college while in a relationship. You can only stay with her if being a cuckold is you're thing. But please run, she will not change, since she has no remorse you both have a different view of morality and loyalty.

Boom there it is. If you love her you will let her cheat.

She doesn’t care all about her. She is now a proven liar.

Brady, you are involved with someone who clearly has no idea what a relationship means. She knows it was wrong. If she really believed it was OK, she would have told you about it before. She wants you to say it is ok.

If you are good with having an open marriage, then you should continue your relationship and eventually marry. If you are not interested in an open marriage then you should end the relationship now.

Hey Brady you want to hold her and kiss her? Probably you will taste the semen from her hung high school lover. If you have left a little self respect. Point her the way out.