I am hesitant to post this but I need to talk to someone who just gets it.
So wh second OW used the "I think I'm pregnant" line to try to get him to continue with her. I intervened, used his email to contact her,as him and demanded to know for sure. She believed she was talking to wh and admitted she wasn't pregnant.
Fast forward to this newest AP.
Wh told me she quit. That was about 2 months ago.
Then while discussing staffing and people placement/jobs, the supervisor mentioned that when AP returns from medical leave she can replace so and so.
Wh then began to worry she is pregnant. He was snappy and upset and that's when he opened communication with her again via text....the same texts that dd saw but didnt read. THANK GOD!
I confronted about the texts and that he needs to keep his affair shit out of the house so the kids don't see it.
He finally admitted that he was just trying to find out if she was pregnant. So I told him to call her, put it on speaker so we could both hear her answer. First call went to VM and he left a message for her to call him. Later that night she did call and told him that she had to have her appendix out. She also asked him "don't you think I'd tell you if I was pregnant?" He replied he wasn't sure she would.
So that seemed to be the end of it.
Then this past weekend wh went to say something to me, then stopped. I asked what he was going to say and he said he couldn't talk to me about it. I said try me.
Mistake!
He breaks down saying he thinks AP is lying to him and she is pregnant and how could he not love a child that's his but at the same time he knows I will file for D right away.
He's upset that I won't accept a child, that it's innocent.
Ya ya I know the kid is innocent but I don't care! 14 years of him screwing around and he never once considered having an accident?!? And no I don't have to accept his affair child.
Suddenly he's worried about being a GOOD FATHER to an affair child but he's been a shitty father to our four children. And there NO way he can deny that. I pointed out every way he's been a horrible father to them. He's never been present either physically or mentally for any of their medical issues. He's never been interested in what's going on with them, he belittled them at times, gives them a hard time for crying, makes jokes at the worst possible times. He is his father. Present but not.
Now while it may be thst he's telling the truth I habe a nagging feeling him and ap concocted the whole phone call to put me at ease so I won't file NOW. It's a public forum and he has access so no I won't give details about my plans...let's just say what is meant to happen WILL happen. The problem is that I keep hearing this file for child support first before she does here but when I spoke to a laywer last they said it didn't work that way. I'll be confirming all of that this week.
I hate that they could be working together against me. I hoped I had time to get other things settled but now I feel rushed and stressed.
If she did in fact have surgery without complications she should be back to work soon.
This shit is maddening!