Finances—Is this right?
My husband and I have always had separate checking accounts. This began as a way that I could ensure that my income would not be used for frivolous purchases but instead, used to take care of the family. We would split the bills in the beginning and I had little problem with that mostly. I have always had a higher degree than him and a higher salary but now that I do make double what he does he does not contribute at all. While I make a good income, after taxes and bills and groceries there is little money left. Now I do not pay his car payment or his car insurance but the rest of his money is spent on his toys. He does not help with groceries, vacations, and never treats me to a dinner. I have really buried this under a rug for a long time but yesterday we found out we owe a lot of taxes because we can no longer claim our two oldest children. And coming up with this money is going to be my responsibility and it is also my fault. And I know one day that if we divorce I will be wiped clean. Years ago when I made what he made now (half of what I make now) I was raising four children and trying to get one ready for college without his financial help. I think this is wrong but when I bring it up he just feels justified in everything because I make so much more.
11 comments posted: Wednesday, March 9th, 2022
