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Well, his dumb ass actually does have one. He's a missle tech on trident submarines and that job specialty requires it. She will get his later today. Just wish one of his other wives would have gotten him earlier. He has wrecked my family. He entered into this and manipulated( and continues to manipulate) my wife into behaving like a person Ives never seen before. I have tried to tell her over and over that he has several other women he is seeing that she knows nothing about . He is 1000 miles away living allegedy single making good money. I highly doubt he sits at home anxiously awaiting for. 46 YO mother of two that gravity has caught up with to FaceTime her self getting off. He cheated on his last wife who had a body you could bounce a quarter off of with three other women. He led my wife from chatting about old times on messenger to text to skype to FaceTime sex in two short weeks. Now it's as if he has some magical power over her. She has seen him physically twice in 6 months and now professes to love him because he told her he loved her when he talked her into coming down for a week. Unreal. She has mental issues I do believe. He will to after I talk to his command and JAG tomorrow

Guys one more question, afraid it might sound a little stupid given everything else going on. She has been lying to OM bad about me, simple things like I saw her in Walmart and started a convo where she told me she wanted a divorce- never happened, just tons of lies. She has also lied to all her close friends about me. Here's the stupid part, is this just an attempt to justify her behavior at my expense? Why lie to OM? To make him treat her better? Just curious about this otters of lies. 6 months ago it would have never happened. No almost every word out of her mouth is a lie.

G, you've gotten great advice here. Don't get distracted from the task of exposure.

She's a cheater, therefore, she lies. Lies to OM to activate the White Knight in him. Secure the dick and his commitment to her. Lies to friends to come out smelling like a rose, making it all YOUR fault and to get her TEAM of irl friends on lock for any affadavits needed for divorce. It can be a myriad of reasons. In alot of cases (lies to OM, family, friends) she's re-writing marital history because she can't be the bad guy. Par for the course.

But again, no matter her motivations for the lies; don't get caught up. EXPOSE and keep it pushin'..

I'm in GA and the sun is just coming up. I'm sure it'll be business hours where you are soon. Make it your goal today to expose, soonest.

Don't get distracted from the task of exposure.

THIS. Take care of business and the rest will fall into place. We will be here to help you step by step.

Step one: Expose.

Step two: Let us know when you've reported him.

You are doing the right thing, Gw; I and all of us are very proud of you for it as we know this is not easy for you.

Sending strength...

GW, I'm not reading any more of your posts until you've exposed. You have 50,000 people here telling you that's the next step.

There will be a time and a place to worry about all of that other stuff in a more productive manner later.

I so wish I had had a golden opportunity like this to blow up OW's life. They do not deserve to carry on the way they do without consequence. They didn't care about what they did to our lives, why the hell should we care what happens to them?

Gw you are doing well and I am stoked that you have the power to cause that POS some trouble!

Yes by all means save your house and let her have her apartment to deal with.

I will repeat what others have said earlier: You need to consult with a divorce attorney if you have not already done so. Know your rights and responsibilities under the law. Sometimes they don't make sense, and I'd hate to see you go bankrupt or something because of some crazy decisions she's making.

give 'em hell!

Guys one more question, afraid it might sound a little stupid given everything else going on

G, the short answer is she is rewriting the marital history. For justification of what she is doing, for impression/image management in the eyes of others.

The other short answer is that it doesn't matter at this stage.

The biggest beast in the room is that you are still living in infidelity.

G, you've indicated you fear backlash from her when you expose the POS. I'll be blunt: she's fvcked the dude. Can she do anything worse to you?

I understand your head is spinning. The way out of that feelin is to take control of your life.

Gw5263, did you expose?

dude! give us the news my man

Why hesitate? I outed my fiance's AP to his CO. Got a dishonorable discharge, lost his retirement. Best thing I did.

Either you want out of this or you don't. She is obviously not in your camp . . . not interested in being open and honest with you. You need to protect yourself and take care of yourself. Only you can do this . . . .

"No idea how to proceed"? It sounds to me like you have a great plan in place. Exposure of OM is probably your best asset right now. Good luck with that.

Of all the things I regret it's not exposing OM in my situation. He worked for the state and I had evidence of him using his work email and phone to contact my wife. At the time I didn't think it would accomplish anything because the affair was over the instant I found out, and I wasn't sure what kind of ethical guidelines he was expected to follow, but I still feel like I let him get away with destroying my family.

Sorry it's been a while, it was my long weekend on duty. I called the military and spoke to JAG. Gotta send a packet to them. AND , I just moved back into the house about an hour ago. Needless to say she did not like that a bit. Ran up the street to call OM and tell him I have the nerve to move back in my house. She's crying and mad, not speaking a word to me. She can't afford to pay the bills and I had to do something or lose my house

Best news I've heard all day. Handled like a boss. Your life is now on an upward swing.

She is smoking hot right now!!!! lol she'll calm down. She called OM and hasn't said a word to me. She just walked up the road( we live in the sticks) to get service I assume to call him back. Love to hear that convo. I told her this was for the good of our family, and not about us. She had 30$ left till October and I was trying to run two households . No more. I run my life now. Screw him. I told her also that he'd probably dump her soon due to drama and distance. He's three states away and doesn't give a shot about her bills or needs. He got what he wanted. And he's fixing to get a whole lot more once the investigation begins. He's got too much to lose to keep this up. It's just a long distance fantasy for her anyway. Reality has just intruded on her fantasy. Maybe she'll snap out of it once all the shit is done flying. Maybe not. It's about me and the kids now.

It's about me and the kids now.

Let this guide your actions from here on out.

Good for you GW, I bet she didn't expect you to take charge like this. Just wait til he gets in front of his CO, the OM will toss your WW under the bus...

Stay on track with this.

Way to go!

That's it, be the boss!!!