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You're doing great, jack. I would go scorched earth on both of them if I were you.

Hey Jack....I agree with you. She was probably doing something with her primary, though statistics of providers cheating with their patients don't favor it, texting her after hours, sending pics (even if they were his injury pics) crossed a line. I'd report them both. Circumstantial evidence on her primary but inappropriate at the very least. I'm just a little concerned about your attorney's response to this. It is widely know in the legal field (my best friend is an attorney - I checked with him) regarding health care provider relationships with patients. My BF mentioned you could take him to civil court as well even if you weren't married. If you had an established relationship that was public....he said to check with another attorney regarding the laws in your state. Good luck. You certainly have an opportunity to remind him of the consequences of screwing around with his patients moving forward.

Even if your "in-laws" won't pay for the granddaughter's insurance coverage, if the GF has a job, she can put them both on her coverage, or if she's "indigent" on her own, the daughter will qualify for Medicaid coverage, so the innocent little person in this does not need to go without coverage. You're doing the right things, tough as they may be. I'm going to join the chorus of wise folks here who are telling you that reporting this tool to the governing body for his profession is the right thing to do. Your GF may be a grown-up capable of making her own (bad) decisions, but this is a professional with no boundaries, and he can't go unchecked. How sh!tty would it be if his next conquest was a 16-year-old who thought she was an adult?

"don't worry he can't hurt me."......THAT comment alone would be all that was needed to make the call!! What an arrogant phallus!! (I think I can get away with saying that). Can anyone be sooooo stupid??

BINGO! land of the lost!!

I am replaying everything in my mind from when things truly changed. The frequency of sex changed about one year in. She started to complain about pain during, and after sex. Decreasing the frequency. Her "chemistry" down there changed. She had other problems in the same area that I had to help with- apply medicine etc- won't get too graphic. It is all adding up now to a much bigger issue. I am very observant and pay attention to, and catalog, details. It's what I do. Probably so much more sinister stuff going on than I will ever know about. I'm so glad I paid attention to my instincts finally.

One other thing...she was constantly tapping her foot or swinging it when her legs were crossed. Sure sign that someone has something on their mind. Usually something not so good.

Insurance fraud is a crime.

Final question- I can drop her from my benefits (Cadillac plan) today without warning. However, if I do that means her little girl will lose coverage as well. I'm not inhumane, but I really need to sever all ties. What to do?

Did you add them to your plan by enrolling WGF as Domestic Partner and her daughter as a dependent? I'm not aware of any company or health insurer who will add people who are not related.

In any case, if they are losing their coverage your company may have to offer her Continuation of Coverage. CoC is temporary coverage to avoid a lapse in insurance. She would have to pay the full premium cost of this temp coverage.

I do have a concern though if you declared her your domestic partner in order to give her coverage. She could have accrued other legal rights under your state law.

I'm doing the best that I can right now. I'm being deliberate and measured in every step I am taking.

You're doing things well. Always think strategically.

Are you fully NC with the family? Be prepared for them to contact you to "work things out". You are high value.

... as I can hear him chirping in the background- "don't worry he can't hurt me."

This comment tells me he has done this before. Way too self assured for someone just caught with his pants down.

Stay strong. Keep posting.

TimelessLoss- Our company offers coverage for domestic partners which is allowed by our carriers. I confirmed today that since we are no longer domestic partners, technically WGF coverage should end, as this is a qualifying event. I've changed my address with the carrier effective tomorrow and that is all that is needed. I believe I am in the clear on this, and of course she will be given the opportunity to purchase continuing coverage.

I have gone NC with all of her family. Except for DD when I called her father to wish him well and thanked him and his wife for being so good to me. I also told him that we broke up because his daughter was having an affair and that she really needed his help, guidance, and prayers. She is making a lot of horrible decisions in very small window. I doubt I hear from any of them as I'm sure she has spun this already about how terrible and controlling I am. Example- while I was out of town I asked that she not go out and party with her girlfriends/gayfriends. I tried to tell her nothing good can come out of that. This and getting her to put her phone down for more than 2 min at a time. She would have no part of either request. It was a constant struggle. I told her that's not the way you act in a committed relationship where a small child is involved. No avail. I am so relieved to be out of that environment of nonsense. High value. Thanks for the compliment!

Good. Your HR/carrier will provide her notification.

Great job exposing to her family. Yes, she can spin a tale. Initially at least they'll balance her bullshit against all of the experience they have had with you.

And now the final insult. HSV-2 positive confirmed this morning. She will be the gift that gives for the rest of my lifetime.

And now the final insult. HSV-2 positive confirmed this morning. She will be the gift that gives for the rest of my lifetime.

THAT you can sue for. And I would. Put his fanny out of business.

You need to expose him. Chiros are not high risk for transmitting STDs but this mixed with his ethics violations makes this one that unfortunately it falls on you to expose.

Honestly, I don't think it came from him. I think it came from her, from before the affair ever happened.

She WAS a beautiful, kind, and loving woman.

She put on a mask for you, jack. Think about it - her past - she's not a well woman. Sadly, sick people are very good at fooling well people IMHO. Not your fault.

We had lunch the Wed before DD and I asked her if we could just ry to work it out. All I needed was her to be true to me and give ME a chance to fix what I HAD BROKEN in her. She agreed as we prayed for it over our meal.

I hope you are not blaming yourself for any of this. She would have done this no matter what you did or did not do. She's so broken and without professional help, she will never be whole and healthy. You, on the other hand, are going to be great, and you're going to find someone who deserves you and treats you with love, respect and fidelity.

Keep on keeping on.

A person's profession doesn't make them more or less likely to infect you. When I was in training as a PA a junior resident contracted an STI from a nurse he was 'seeing'. Despite rules preventing disclosures the word got out... The vast majority of STI studies do not ask what profession rather socioeconomic class (some inference could be made - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3752095/). I'm willing to bet that your partner wasn't his first patient so there is a chance he gave her the 'gift'. Then again, she may have been having sex with others as well. Never the less, your local health department should be involved. Time to make that call to his licensing board Jack. Then your next call is to his office requesting that he contact you regarding your recent STI test results. Good luck man. Please keep us posted. If you hadn't saw her screwing her chiro, the STI would've rated her out. I feel for you brother.

Honestly, I don't think it came from him. I think it came from her, from before the affair ever happened.

I would still inform this POS that you are HSV positive and likely from her from the "old days"...wanna see your STBXWGF get thrown under the bus by this POS? Just a thought.

"I think it came from her, from before the affair ever happened." what a gift she gave him.....his world is just about to get really complicated.

You should let OM know that he is striking his d.... In a jar of HSV-2