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Keep up the N/C.

it will help in time.

Before your next relationship, get tested for stds.

Hope her daughter does not have it too rough.

She and the chiropractor deserve each other.

Wait until she cheats on him.

Keep getting her out of your life. And you do not even have to file for D.

I have to agree with the others here, Jack. You are getting stronger bit by bit, and all of our thoughts are with you. It is great that you are getting out and meeting new people, keep that up. And please do keep posting here anytime you want or need to. There is quite a team here that has followed your story, and who are thinking of you and rooting for you every day.

Sending good thoughts your way from all your brothers and sisters at SI.

Jack,

Been following your saga and just though I'd help here and remind you to read Proverbs 7 again whenever you feel the need to contact her.

She is not right for you and you do not need to be her white-knight savahoe. Go out and meet new people and realize that you are better off without her! Good luck brother.

[This message edited by Sirric at 4:07 PM, August 3rd (Thursday)]

Wow!

That sounds like a script for a movie!

You certainly did the right thing - be grateful it was not worse - and grateful you got out

This is a good oppertunity ti work on yourself - there are many woman out there who are wonderful and available

You certainly deserve better, know you had nothing to do with her choices -

Its always one time and never again, this is standard cheater language

Best to you

Thanks to all for the encouragement and kind words of support. I had a lot of fun at my two meet ups last night. It was one of the best things I've done since dday. I've been doing extensive reading on the narc/co-d dynamic. In reflecting I truly believe our relationship fell somewhere in that spectrum. If I'm honest with myself and the folks here, I have to admit that I my reactions to some of her behaviors was harsh. Lack of boundaries, excessive alcohol intake, poor parenting skills, constantly being on her phone etc...all drew some level of ire from me. I'm not taking responsibility for her choices, but I could be abrasive when she acted a fool. In one of our last conversations she said she would have never stepped out had in not been such a butthole to her. So instead of standing her ground she decided to hit her back. Nice mature way of handling things.

Lastly I was inflamed a bit last week due to seeing shithead chiropractor's car out and about a couple of times in the area that I work, and she now lives. I actually saw him messing around outside his car on one occasion. Made my blood boil and she heard about it. Back to full NC now. I don't need her bullshit in my life. Greener pastures lie ahead in a big way.

NO NC=NO NEW HURTS.

Because we all need to be reminded.....

She's bad news.

Run for the hills--and stay there.

You'll be better off in the long run.

Stay strong. It gets easier with time.

Hey Jack......it is normal to fall down but I am proud of you for getting back up. It does get easier trust me. Hang in there and keep up the more positive activities. When you get weak just think about the life you'd be getting back into. You could never trust her again....be well my friend.

Thanks theater. Yes I fell down and went back to my KISA ways for a brief time. Maybe a week, even though we were in contact for most of July. It was good to see her little girl. I got to read to her and snuggle a couple of nights that week. My ex and I weren't intimate though,affectionate, but nothing sexual. She was still up to no good so I listened to my gut and went full no contact. I think she has as well which is fine because it makes it all the more easy to walk away...and of course, no new hurts that way. I lost 10 pounds during the week is was back in my old mode. Next to no sleep and wild swings in my anxiety. Been two weeks since any contact has been made. I intend to keep it that way. She is toxic and was really displaying blatant NPD behaviors. I'm more resolute now than ever. Thanks again for all the support...

Definitely call the chiropactic board on that sleezeball.

You've made a wise choice.

Jack, have you seen a doc? To help you, temporarily, with your sleep and anxiety?

Did you ever let the POSOM know about the STI?

[This message edited by JustTheFacts at 9:25 AM, September 7th (Thursday)]

Hi all. Just wanted to to check in. Sorry for the long period between posts. Sleep and anxiety meds have been working wonders. I didn't tell the OM anything about her herpes. He didn't bother to tell me he was banging my GF, so he can find out on his own. To hell with them both.

I've been working on me and getting my life back in order. It hasn't been easy. I've had good days, bad days, rough mornings, and dark nights. I pulled up behind her yesterday at the Dunkin drive through and my stomach sank as she ordered two coffees. I backed out and wen on my merry way. Other than that, we have been NC for 8 weeks now and my head is clearing. I don't think I will post much more on my situation going forward. I have zero intention of ever speaking with, or seeing her again. That won't leave me much to update.

I want to thank all of you again for the kind words of love and support through this difficult time. It's been immensely helpful. I know I'm not completely out of the woods yet, but I can see the last row of trees up ahead. Peace and love.

Thanks for checking in, Jack. Glad to hear you are well on your way to a better life!

I have zero intention of ever speaking with, or seeing her again. That won't leave me much to update.

Jack – we have little if any interest in her. For us it’s all about you.

Check in every now and then, especially if you sense you are getting stronger. If SI did you any good, then the best way to pay for the help is by paying it forwards. Maybe in a couple of months you will see some poor schmutz telling us how his wife/gf cheated with his dentist/gardener/trainer/horse-whisperer and at that time you might be able to give that person some hope or guidance.

Jack – we have little if any interest in her. For us it’s all about you.

Bigger just said it best with his post.

Check in. Help others. You're now a part of a club that can help others. You handled your situation extremely well.

I posted in another thread that so many people know so little about infidelity. You can only ever understand it best if you've been through it.

So please stick around.

Hey Jack,

Thanks for the update. I had been wondering how you are. It's a tough road, but it sounds like you are making it. I'm sure I speak for everyone here when I wish you all the best for the future, and while you say your posting may tail off, please never, ever forget that this door is open to you forever, 24/7, 365 days a year.

Wherever you go, and whatever you do, I - and we - wish you the life, the luck, and the love that you so richly deserve.

Take care, brother,

M

Man. You guys brought tears to my eyes tonight with all of that love. I will definitely continue to hang around here to support others that are going through the trauma of infedelity. I just want to put my story behind me and use what I have learned here to love and support others. Thank you all so much. Such amazing and wonderful people here. Love you all.

It is good to hear that you are doing better, jack! Leave that bitch behind.

I know that JFO is triggery place, but it is also place where help is needed most.

Regarding informing OM about STI she has - I would do that (actually, I did, when I was diagnosed with minor STI). Not because of him, but because of other women he might be sticking his dick into.