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Hey Jack.....very normal. Just let it happen BUT DO NOT CALL HER! This will lessen each day. There will come a time where it will be replaced by 'she isn't worth spending another moment thinking about her'. Then there will come a day when you simply say, 'man did I learn a lesson'. I'm glad you're seeing a counselor. Please let him know about this moment. Stay strong.

It would be somewhat abnormal if you didn't well up at times. Someone you loved betrayed you, so now you're processing grief! As said before, embrace it and process it, it's part of the recovery process. You will be fine, you will learn from this, and you will be happy again. There's no immediacy unfortunately, it just takes time to get there.

Full of embracement of my situation today. Working on breaking the mind movies and thought cycle. Probably a blessing that all of the sudden she shoed her ice queen persona. No contact now for 13 days. Holding strong on that, although I want nothing more to hear her voice and have her take away this pain in my gut, even knowing it would only prolong the pain in the long run. Long weekend alone up ahead...

Jack:

You need to start preparing yourself for her to reach out to you. It may not happen, but I have a suspicion that she will.

When she does, you will need to be strong enough to refuse her. It may even be a "trench coat with nothing on underneath" scenario, where your willpower and discipline will truly be tested.

Stay strong, brother.

I don't believe she will. The mere mentioning of it by you made my stomach churn. Not complaining, it's just I have zero expectation of that ever happening. Someone else saying it made the possibility seem all too real. Anyway she is extra self absorbed and me me me. I'll post here for support should it ever come to that. Thanks bro...

No contact now for 13 days. Holding strong on that, although I want nothing more to hear her voice and have her take away this pain in my gut, even knowing it would only prolong the pain in the long run. Long weekend alone up ahead...

Dude - you are making it! Yeah, you haven't completely detached from her yet but you don't even realize how much progress you've made. Stay TOTAL NC with her and things will improve for you daily.

It's time to start getting active & doing things for yourself. Go out with friends - do some fun stuff for yourself. It IS getting better and you'll feel what I mean very soon.

Hey jack,

How are you? I hope you are having a good weekend. Anoka's advice is 100% solid. Forget the 'takers' in your life. Find yourself a 'giver'. You are a giver, and when you find another giver, you will see how sweet life can be.

Take care, jack. Your crew here is thinking of you.

Thanks so much for checking in on me. I went to look at some amazing apartments downtown today. It was a great experience and I believe I am going to be upgrading. (squatting with a buddy temporarily). It's time to do something nice for myself.

I had dinner with a lady from work tonight. She and I are close friends (she is about 20 years older than me) and has been an IRL confidant throughout this. It was nice to get out and have some company. I got triggered a bit on the way as the restaurant is on the same street, and nearly across from, Dr. Shithead's office. Makes me feel petty, but I digress.

I'm holding up very well I believe. Firm on the NC. I highly doubt I'm going to hear from the idiotic slut again, which would suit me just fine. I don't think I'd be to apt to make contact either. Not after shitting on someone that I "loved". Not after dumping on the the contribution they made to my life and to that of my child. It's baffling really. Complete and utter failure at life.

Stay strong Jack. It is great you are moving forward and have some close friends to spend time with during this process.

Look after the small stuff, food, water, sleep and exercise and all the rest will fall in line.

Had a decent day yesterday. Ran 4 miles. Went to Church (our old church together). Did a little shopping, for me this time. Went to the beach for 2 hours. Reading and pressing in on what is going with me. I'm basically going through withdrawal. That is where the physical and emotional pain are derived. Time. It's just going to take time for me to recover, or be "in recovery". Cold turkey. I'm just going to have to get over it. This has been a life changing experience. Thanks for the support.

Of course its been life changing Jack and tremendous growth for you. You will come out of this wiser and the lucky woman you grabs your attention will have a man that has faced dark demons and stood up to the. You have shown strength and courage. Her chiro had his own serious shitstrom to deal with and your ex has only herself to thank for her empty life. Peace to you.

I'd pay someone to hand out flyers at the POS dr's office about how he targets female patients and has sex with them.

And the first message came.... "I'm sorry I hurt you. I hope you are ok." With an ok emoji. The hamster finally caught up with her. Maybe, who knows? No reply. It wouldn't be pretty if I did.

And the first message came.... "I'm sorry I hurt you. I hope you are ok." With an ok emoji. The hamster finally caught up with her. Maybe, who knows? No reply. It wouldn't be pretty if I did.

Stay strong Jack. You are doing so well considering what you are going through. I've been pulling for you since you started the thread.

Please keep us posted.

Hey Jack,

I am glad your life has been in full rebuild mode. Keep on with it. Every day you are getting stronger, and every day the pain will be reducing.

Re. that pathetic message...Jack, do not respond to it. I would go further, and suggest you block her number and her access to anything like Facebook, etc, that you use.

In truth, she doesn't give a hoot about you. If she did, she would never have cheated on you. What that message is about is her hoping you will forgive her and say she is a lovely wonderful person, and yes, of course you can still be friends, and no, there's no hard feelings about the cheating or the HPV, and yes, you know she never did any of it to hurt you, and no, no, you don't think she's horrible...

Good grief, the number of times I have seen a woman behave absolutely atrociously to a man and then say, "I hope we can still be friends..." so that they can feel better about themselves.

That is what is going on here, Jack. She wants you to make her feel better about what she did to you. Don't!

Sending you strength and best wishes as you continue your life without her spoiling it.

It's false. Stay no contact and the angry texts will follow at some point! All part of the script.

Personally, I would block her number. It will make you feel calmer and help your detachment progress.

Thanks bros! I have no intention of responding. I'm at 37k feet zooming across the country. Her lack of self awareness is humorous to me. Dumb whore.

Looking back on this thread and all of the support and encouragement from other men. Strangers all, yet bonded by fire and pain. I can't say enough how grateful I am for each and every one of you. I didn't expect. My bros.

Ps- thank you to all of the love and concern from the ladies of SI as well. Y'all are the best. It's just a big deal to me to be getting support from other men. Will check in with the group from my travels. Peace, strength, and love to all.

"I'm sorry I hurt you. I hope you are ok."

Good, you see this for what it is. Block her. You don't need to see this sh*t.

Go hard at that trip with your old friend. Very best medicine for your spirit and your soul.

You did yourself proud.

Irony abounds tonight. Her business partner texted me to say he heard we weren't together anymore. Said he didn't know the details. Big church guy, said he was praying for me? Should I reply to him? Was thinking of replying only with "Proverbs 7". If you don't know it, I encourage you to read it. Religious types, or not.