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 Edie (original poster member #26133) posted at 11:34 AM on Wednesday, October 7th, 2015

maybe this thread, or rather DBB's original one, has done its work, but I will keep bumping for now, as even if it helps just one person…

Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 kids 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) R'd.

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 Edie (original poster member #26133) posted at 10:06 PM on Monday, October 12th, 2015

bumpety bump

Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 kids 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) R'd.

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PinchMePlease ( new member #49727) posted at 4:44 AM on Tuesday, October 13th, 2015

Thank you Edie for reposting this! I printed it and will be reading it daily.

Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Me: BS Early 50's
Him: WS Early 50's
Together 31 years
Married 27 years
3 beautiful daughters
D day: 8/5/15

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texanrose ( member #49806) posted at 6:28 AM on Tuesday, October 13th, 2015

I needed to read this tonight.

Would it be a bad idea to print it out on fancy paper, frame it, and send it to OWs?

Kidding. Hopefully one day I'll be in a place where I don't feel the urge to push the pigs' nose into the mud they obliviously live in.

BS of a cake-eater with a few D-Days over the past 2 years, WH had at least one PA and too many explicit OEAs to count... Three kids under 5. Trying to accept that he tossed away my happily-ever-after for his fantasies.

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Dismayed2012 ( member #49151) posted at 5:48 PM on Tuesday, October 13th, 2015

The woman described fits my exWW perfectly. Low self worth even though I tried for many years to build her up. I couldn't continue after D-Day 2. Both times she blamed me and others so I D'd the whore and the baggage she brought with her. It's amazing how freeing it is to choose not to be around energy suckers. And like the original poster noted, the OM dumped her to R with his supposedly mean and unaccommodating wife in a supposedly sexless M. What a image lift I'm sure that was for my exWW. I truly think that he realized, much faster than I did, how mentally screwed up she is and that she could never be trusted.

Infidelity sucks. Freedom rocks.

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higgsboson ( member #49330) posted at 8:15 PM on Tuesday, October 13th, 2015

I have a PhD in computational physics and my wife had an affair with a convicted sex offender who works as a line cook at Morton's Steak House.

I guess that qualifies as affair down or at least I'd like to think so.

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CanoeVA ( member #46071) posted at 8:29 PM on Tuesday, October 13th, 2015

I have a PhD in computational physics and my wife had an affair with a convicted sex offender who works as a line cook at Morton's Steak House.

I guess that qualifies as affair down or at least I'd like to think so.

LOL..yeah, I'd think so!

When fWW's A started, I had just made decisions affecting several businesses to the tune of about $45 million dollars. OM? He was a part-time "seasonal-only" retail floor clerk at a strip shopping center from the 1960s in a store located between a tattoo parlor, and a dry cleaners. And even they didn't want him full-time nor year-'round! LOL. Alcoholic, mamma's boy, and the best part? His voice sounds like winnie-the-pooh's friend piglet!

LOL. I'm in a better place with this than I used to be. It gets better, y'all.

Me = BH
fWW- 2014 affair most of year; EA Feb/March became PA April until DDay
Married 1986
DDay- 12/08/14
2 adult children, mid 20s
OM = Wife's best friend's brother
We're both working on R

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ncharge ( member #42365) posted at 9:21 PM on Tuesday, October 13th, 2015

I'm a Director at a Federal Contractor with a good rep in my field. I get recruited into new jobs with the mandate to teach best practices to my new company. I make a good salary and I'm smart and generous. I took care of everything for all those years. I am not as thin or in-shape as I would like, but my priorities when I wasn't working were people and spirituality oriented. And I cook really good food (so we both gained weight). I have great friends and a family full of love and laughter laughs. I'm creative.

She is a part time retail clerk with huge breasts. She is a rather dim bulb. She drinks a lot, and has gone to work hung over and sick. She has a brutal, vicious streak in her and you can hear her scream at her kids throughout the huge store. And she has the sense of humor of a 15-year-old boy - she is raunchy.

But you should have seen the stars in his eyes when he told me she worked out two hours a day at the gym and she is a pole dancer. Woo Hoo! A real catch.

[This message edited by ncharge at 11:02 AM, November 18th (Wednesday)]

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 Edie (original poster member #26133) posted at 10:57 AM on Wednesday, November 4th, 2015

seems it should still be bumped, so here we go

Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 kids 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) R'd.

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WorkInProg83 ( member #50112) posted at 3:08 PM on Wednesday, November 4th, 2015

I like this perspective. She IS trash!!

Me (BS) - 32
Husband (WH) - 33
Son - 3yrs old
Married 9yrs - together 11
Divorced - 5/11/16

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 Edie (original poster member #26133) posted at 3:34 PM on Thursday, November 12th, 2015

bump time

Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 kids 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) R'd.

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SimplyRed ( member #50332) posted at 4:00 PM on Thursday, November 12th, 2015

Thank you, thank you, thank you for this. It needs to be repeated over and over until it sinks in.

Me~BW
Him-WH
Those that have nothing to hide, hide nothing.

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marymaryquite ( member #50335) posted at 5:01 PM on Thursday, November 12th, 2015

Thanks for bumping this, it's an interesting read. My husband has a master's degree (that I tutored him through) and he's very attractive for a 50-something year old guy. He also has the need for constant ego stroking, I mean constant. The OW is exactly half his age. She was home-schooled and doesn't even have a high school diploma. She is cute, but a child, posting duck-face selfies on Facebook. I cringe with embarrassment when I look at the picture.

Me: BW 52
Him: WH 59
two kids, 23 and 20
Married 22 years
DDay November 13, 2015
6 month PA with coworker half his age
Divorcing

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Nighthawk999 ( member #48694) posted at 5:51 PM on Thursday, November 12th, 2015

Oh yea.

My WW affaired down big time.

ME: Executive level job, great provider, great dad, physically fit, etc.

Him: Works at a retail shop, lives in a dump, not sure how good of a dad, and fat & ugly.

It's insane!

Me - 38 - BH
Her - 34 - WW
2 Kids
DDay Jan 2015
Divorced Jan 2016

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plylkagrl ( member #49883) posted at 7:13 PM on Thursday, November 12th, 2015

I know you have received mixed feelings about your post but I am 8 weeks from DDay and have never had to face anything even close to this pain and confusion but I have tried when I felt at my worst to think she can't compete with me really you did what with that piece of trash I actually took a FB pic of mine on a so so day and hers on a good day and told him to look at them really look at the two of us compare go ahead look how my eyes sparkle my smile fills the picture look at my skin my body my hips and tell me now look at her look at her yellowed teeth from smoking her drained face from late nights drinking no smile no energy stringy hair and bad skin let me tell you what a reality check for the both of us thank you again if things don't work out yes ma'am I know my morals my loyalty and my heart can never be like that type of woman god bless

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cajun123 ( member #48989) posted at 11:46 AM on Wednesday, November 18th, 2015

SimplyRed-------BUMP

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michael1969 ( new member #50369) posted at 6:02 PM on Wednesday, November 18th, 2015

Me: 46, Senior Manager at a fortune 5 company, 6 figure salary, Been told by many I am handsome, very witty and charming, can make the pope laugh, and one heck of a cook. Oh, and my kids adore me.

Him: 46 (at least she got that the same), been at loser job for just year now, makes half of what I do, EVERY single woman I've showed his picture has replied Eww, he's ugly, was living with his parents before they met and is now living with his serial cheater douchebag friend, and his wife left him for another man and his kids don't talk to him.

He can have her sasquatch crotch.

What doesn't kill me better start running.

DD 7/3/2015
Me 46
WW 48 Personality Disorder
Divorcing
1 Step Daughter
Twins 9

Slowly coming out of hell.

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vixen13 ( member #46149) posted at 6:51 PM on Wednesday, November 18th, 2015

Thank you for this. It is a great explanation and it is so truthful.

Me BS 31
Him WS 27
3 children, 1 together
Dday 1 Feb. 2013 (online, texts, caught before they could meet)
Dday 2 Oct. 2014 (affair in Aug. 2012)
Dday 3 June 2015 (polygraph said he was sexually assaulted)
Dday 4 Nov 2015 recovered texts that s

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Fighter75 ( member #49928) posted at 7:59 PM on Wednesday, November 18th, 2015

This is so true! If you were running a side by side comparison of me & the OW there's only one category she would win - Lying, Cheating Whore! LOL She is fake in every since of the word! Hair extensions, fake nails you can't wipe your butt with, tons of make up, overweight, everything covered in bling. A self-absorbed, attention hungry whore with a husband and six daughters! A 40 year old drunken wino with no real friends outside of her direct sales business which keeps her away on trips and in bars on a regular basis! A real woman does what’s best for her family, not herself! A real mother does everything in her power to protect the innocence of the hearts and souls of her children! She doesn’t put their entire world at risk for her own selfish pleasure! She had nothing over me! I'm a forty year old long brown haired, blue-eyed bombshell in the best shape of my life! I work hard, run a charity and have raised three fabulous kids (19,17,13). I am surrounded by family and friends who know the real me & love me for it! I am not out here posting on Facebook 6 time a day posting selfies of myself and how great my life is! Sorry, I am too busy being awesome! I don't have time to pretend be! I have morals, self-esteem, & self respect! I don't need my husband or anyone for that matter to tell me I'm better than her. I always was and always will be! :) There was never any talk of leaving spouses, but had my H ever left me for her it would have been a downgrade for sure!! To all of you ladies & gents out there struggling thinking they had something you didn't or what made them better than you ...here's my one word answer....NOTHING!

Married 24 Years
BW (me) 46
WH (him) 44
3 Teen Children
D-Day 02/20/15
6 Month EA
Reconciling

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BetrayalHurts ( member #34836) posted at 8:35 PM on Wednesday, November 18th, 2015

Love, love, love this thread.

I have been cheated on by two different men.

The first happened over 30 years ago....he got a pot mark faced gold digger who the kids nick-named "Lizard" and she got a man who hit....now after almost 30 years together, he had to claim bankruptcy and guess what....she left him for a guy she was having an affair with......huge surprise

My current WH had an affair with a woman 25 years his junior that could have modeled in the zoo version of Gorilla Gazette.

Yup they both affaired down.......way down

M 25 years
BW Me - 50's
WH Him - 60's
OW 25 years younger
D-Days too numerous to mention last D-day being 12-2-11 *OW went on fishing trip 5-21-13*

"A relationship is only made for two, but some bitches don't know how to count"

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