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Mtngirl ( New Member #45541) posted at 5:59 PM on Sunday, November 9th, 2014

I've read the 180 and it doesn't really resonate with me although the need to protect and strengthen myself does. This post did resonate with me. Thank you.

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WhenToLetGo ( New Member #45559) posted at 10:19 PM on Sunday, November 9th, 2014

8 days out and I am absolutely terrified that I will stay trapped in #10...but I know it's fresh and I'm working on it. Thanks for the wisdom.

[This message edited by WhenToLetGo at 12:32 AM, November 10th (Monday)]

Me-BW (35)
Him-WH (39)
Married almost 15 years 2 DD's 4&8
DDay1 - 2004 ONS
DDay2 - Oct 2010 LTA OW#1
DDay3 - 11/1/14 (his birthday) - LTA OW#2
TT 11/14/14 admitted to 7 PA and 1 EA total
TT #2 1/1/15 he shared all the sad and heartbreaking

posts: 6   ·   registered: Nov. 9th, 2014
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UnwiseOne ( Member #44760) posted at 2:41 PM on Wednesday, November 12th, 2014

Reading this today.

Me: BW (47)
Husband: WH (48)
Married: 27 years in June 2020
“Children”: 23 25, 26
DD: 8-29-14 OW#5: xBFF
DD2: WH confessed 10-29-14 OW #4(LTA 2+ years), #3(LTA 18+ years), #2, and #1

Working on R

posts: 201   ·   registered: Sep. 5th, 2014   ·   location: AZ
id 7007892
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Skan ( Member #35812) posted at 5:25 PM on Saturday, November 22nd, 2014

bumping for weekend

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012


posts: 11513   ·   registered: Jun. 11th, 2012   ·   location: So California
id 7019283
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imagoodwitch ( Member #23375) posted at 5:34 PM on Sunday, November 30th, 2014

Bump for a new member

Ordinary average everyday sane psycho super goddess

posts: 6902   ·   registered: Mar. 25th, 2009   ·   location: Munchkinland
id 7026513
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Silverlining1992 ( Member #45603) posted at 7:21 PM on Sunday, November 30th, 2014

Great post! Thanks.

*Just Breathe*
BW 40s
WH 40s
DS 8
Together 20+ yrs
Married 10+ yrs
DDay 11/11/14 friendship that became PA
{I had gut instincts about a female friend for years. He finally confessed after I found proof} TT he slept w women while we dated

posts: 104   ·   registered: Nov. 13th, 2014   ·   location: East Coast
id 7026605
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cantaccept ( Member #37451) posted at 12:01 AM on Thursday, December 4th, 2014

bump

"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie

posts: 3505   ·   registered: Nov. 11th, 2012   ·   location: Connecticut
id 7030050
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puregrace ( New Member #45809) posted at 6:12 AM on Thursday, December 4th, 2014

Thank you for this post, it makes a lot of sense.

Me- 35 BS
Him- 35 WH
Married 16 years
Together 17 years
1 Child- 13 yrs old
1st D-Day 9/2013

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One of the happiest moments in life is when you find the courage to let go of the things you cannot change

posts: 33   ·   registered: Dec. 3rd, 2014   ·   location: MN
id 7030316
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Trivial ( Member #45546) posted at 3:50 PM on Thursday, December 4th, 2014

Thank you for this thoughtful post. I will keep this bookmarked so I can read it again.

BW: 48 (me)
WH: 50
Married 19 years 2 kids
DD: August 9 2014
5 month EA with COW, unrequited.
Anon chat room
fishing on FB and in live action, admits to being 'on the lookout' for an affair.
WH says no PA
12/2/14: tested + for HPV

posts: 639   ·   registered: Nov. 8th, 2014   ·   location: Kansas City
id 7030610
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Skan ( Member #35812) posted at 4:32 PM on Saturday, December 6th, 2014

bump for weekend

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012


posts: 11513   ·   registered: Jun. 11th, 2012   ·   location: So California
id 7033131
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Ready2beFree ( Member #45913) posted at 10:17 PM on Thursday, December 11th, 2014

Thank you for this post, this is very helpful!

D-Day: 11/10/2014

posts: 69   ·   registered: Dec. 10th, 2014
id 7039240
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Skan ( Member #35812) posted at 11:25 PM on Friday, December 19th, 2014

bump

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012


posts: 11513   ·   registered: Jun. 11th, 2012   ·   location: So California
id 7048671
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Skan ( Member #35812) posted at 5:20 AM on Thursday, December 25th, 2014

bump

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012


posts: 11513   ·   registered: Jun. 11th, 2012   ·   location: So California
id 7054039
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Skan ( Member #35812) posted at 8:57 PM on Saturday, January 3rd, 2015

bump

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012


posts: 11513   ·   registered: Jun. 11th, 2012   ·   location: So California
id 7065258
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StillLivin ( Member #40229) posted at 2:50 AM on Thursday, January 29th, 2015

bump

"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB
D: 7/2/2014

posts: 5955   ·   registered: Aug. 8th, 2013   ·   location: AZ
id 7096791
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brokenyrs ( Member #46554) posted at 3:51 PM on Friday, January 30th, 2015

Thanks for the post. It holds a lot of truths that sometimes people know but don't want to see and that includes me.

Me:BW
Him: WH
Too many Ddays to count and even more women

posts: 566   ·   registered: Jan. 28th, 2015   ·   location: Canada
id 7098699
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cantaccept ( Member #37451) posted at 1:23 AM on Monday, February 2nd, 2015

bump

"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie

posts: 3505   ·   registered: Nov. 11th, 2012   ·   location: Connecticut
id 7101322
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gottagetpastthis ( Member #46645) posted at 8:25 PM on Tuesday, February 3rd, 2015

Thanks for this. I'm new to the site and 8 months in. My partner has been frustrated because I am taking "so long" to get over this, but I feel more supported and justified now by this post and this website. We are trying to work it out, but it's pretty "high risk", I guess. This article gives me some concrete things to look at and work on. Thank you for posting.

"What fresh Hell is this?" - Dorothy Parker
D-day: 6.1.14/ TT
Me: Betrayed
Him: WBF (Bipolar, NPD)
2 kitties
Living together in limbo

posts: 223   ·   registered: Feb. 3rd, 2015   ·   location: CA
id 7103669
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devotedman ( Member #45441) posted at 9:47 PM on Tuesday, February 10th, 2015

bump to keep with 20/20 hindsight post

Me: 2xBS b 1962
xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.

posts: 5092   ·   registered: Oct. 30th, 2014   ·   location: Central USA
id 7112906
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Jpapageorge ( Member #31800) posted at 1:33 AM on Sunday, February 22nd, 2015

Bump.

"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

posts: 2016   ·   registered: Apr. 8th, 2011   ·   location: California
id 7125754
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