Was cleaning out some old emails and found this email from my BH from almost two years ago. It pretty much sums up our positive reconciliation story :
So I am sitting at my desk and thinking of the last 25 years of our life together. So many extreme events both good and bad and so many emotions both good and bad. The one constant through it all has been our love for each other. We battled the odds that were stacked against us from the beginning and came out on top.
In 73 days we will celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary in Jamaica, the place we began as us. I cant wait to just forget about everything and just take time to relax with the woman I love.
If I look at our life together like a book it would have 5 chapters
Chapter 1: The early years.
We were two kids living the life. We had our own place and we were so grown up. We painted and decorated our first place with such love and to us it was our castle.
A couple of years went by and then we started our family. We had it all, we were so much in love and had two beautiful healthy kids, who could ask for more?
Chapter 2: My selfish years
Looking back I can now see that I had everything and almost threw it all away. I was only thinking of myself back then. I think back then we both resented each other for different reasons. We had no tools to communicate our feelings or our needs to each other. I know we tried but we just didn’t know how to listen.
The funny thing is I never for one minute stopped loving you. You were on my mind always.
Chapter 3: Moving on
We worked through our problems the best we knew how and moved on in more than one way. First we rebuilt our marriage to the best of our capabilities. Then we literally moved. We took our family to the suburbs and ended up in ---------. At the time I thought we were in heaven. I remember loving coming home from work and feeling like I was on vacation. The first part of this chapter was great. We had a fresh start in a beautiful little town and our love was as strong as ever. Our two babies were doing great. What else could we ask for?
Then bam 9/11 hits us and turns our world upside down. It took a couple of years for me to recover emotionally from that.
Chapter 4: A living hell
This chapter starts with my mom getting sick and then passing away. The four of us took this real hard. She was a great mother to us and a wonderful grandmother to our kids.
The following year the bottom began to drop out. Although it would take two years for the bottom to completely fall out it had begun.
Looking back now I can see us growing apart and taking each other for granted. Not to mention the resentment that was growing.
Then that horrible day in August came that would change the landscape our lives forever.
How the hell do we recover from this? And to make matters worse we were having huge problems with our son.
By the end of this chapter we started to rebuild the foundation of our marriage with such tenacity. We were so motivated to fix what had been so badly broken. I truly believe that we succeeded in doing that.
Chapter 5: A new beginning--- on our way to a happy ending.
So we start this final chapter so much in love with each other. We both have a new found love and respect for one another
We watch our baby graduate and leave the nest.
We then buy a beautiful house in ----- and we are empty nesters so much in love with each other. I am so much enjoying this part of our lives.
This chapter is not over yet but one thing I know for sure is it will have a happy ending.
Happy Anniversary my love.