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There is hope when you weather the storm of Infidelity!

I have weathered the worst part of the storm called "Infidelity" and I understand that it will be a lifelong journey in reconciliation. I have learned a lot through this journey so far. But I find myself compelled to help others get through the pain and begin reconciling. I will not sugarcoat the process, it will take time and lots of hard work from both parties. My personal experience was with an unusually LTA which most people would write off as a death sentence to any relationship. Infidelity is very unique to the people involved but for those of us that are getting through it shares many things in common. Reconciling is learning to love all over again but it is much harder this time because of what we know now. We see the one we love so much differently now, yet the love is still there, damaged and bruised but still there. Lots of things were shattered with infidelity but it doesn't have to be a death sentence. Weathering the storm of infidelity and the waves of sorrow and pain and regret in those early days, months and years ahead will be the challenge of your life. But the new love and marriage that comes out of this storm will be stronger and worth the work you put into it. I so appreciate everyone on these forums that helped me through my storm and I want to pay it forward to help others get through it too. You are never alone in this journey and reconciliation can happen if you both put in the work.

Lost1313

A little update from the post above from January. The WS's responses to many of my questions through the storm have been such a big help in understanding what goes on inside the mind of a WS. My wife's LTA gutted 15 years of our marriage but with both of us in our mid 60's we have managed to straighten what appeared to be a sinking ship. There is a different feel to our marriage now, it's much deeper and appreciative toward one another. Infidelity never really lets go of us completely and rears it's ugly head out of nowhere sometimes but you learn to deal with it and move forward. I have learned that there is so much that we can't control in our lives and that life never turns out like you expected but I do believe that we were wounded by infidelity but those that survive the battle and recocile will be both stonger, closer and more appreciative of each other.

I hope this helps someone!

Lost1313