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Things that every WS needs to know

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SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 5:37 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

bump

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

posts: 15429   ·   registered: Nov. 5th, 2010   ·   location: The Great White North USA
id 6761734
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deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 8:29 PM on Thursday, April 17th, 2014

Wow! This is the truth; I wish my husband would read it. He probably won't, though.

Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.

posts: 3339   ·   registered: Dec. 22nd, 2013   ·   location: Midwest
id 6763316
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Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 6:14 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014

Bump

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

posts: 7926   ·   registered: Nov. 11th, 2011
id 6768905
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mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 2:29 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014

bump

Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 34 years/Together 35 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be

posts: 2687   ·   registered: Dec. 7th, 2012
id 6773208
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MomtoRoses ( member #42271) posted at 3:31 PM on Tuesday, April 29th, 2014

bumpity bump

i'm the bs
he is the wh.
7 ddays: affairs, online activities, ea, pa, longterm pa,longterm ea, one night stands.
I'm the last to know.

posts: 86   ·   registered: Jan. 30th, 2014
id 6778501
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Gemstone ( member #42000) posted at 4:08 PM on Wednesday, April 30th, 2014

There needs to be a way to have this permanently at the top

Wonderful

posts: 97   ·   registered: Jan. 10th, 2014   ·   location: United Kindgdon
id 6780079
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Trying2LoveAgain ( member #43024) posted at 4:10 PM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014

Awesome! This describes the way we,as BS, feel and what we go through. My H has told me many times that he doesn't always know WHAT to do for me, or HOW to help. This is a great guide! I hope it stays posted on here forever! Thanks SO much!

Me:BS
Him:FWH
2 DS:2 D Grandchildren
"Life is a journey, travel with Care "...Me 🙈🙉🙊"Life is not a dress rehearsal, make the ONE you have count"....Me

posts: 1073   ·   registered: Apr. 7th, 2014   ·   location: Never Neverland
id 6783019
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BrokenButTrying ( member #42111) posted at 9:36 PM on Tuesday, May 6th, 2014

Bump.

Madhatters - We have R'd.

Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. We can do this.

posts: 1363   ·   registered: Jan. 18th, 2014   ·   location: UK
id 6788136
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Mjuu ( new member #43386) posted at 2:06 PM on Saturday, May 10th, 2014

Thank you ever so much for posting this, and thank you whoever wrote it!

Since I found out about the affair 1,5 years ago I've been in a complete despair, fighting pretty much solo for my marriage and with a 1,5 year old to take care of (I know: I was one month from delivery when I found out).

I found this webpage only yesterday and it feels like it has saved my life, and hopefully also my marriage. Thank you all for sharing.

Me: BW age 32
Him: WH age 35
Together for 2,5 years, 1 child.

Long-distance relationship; he slept with another woman when I was away. Was expecting our child when I found out.

posts: 1   ·   registered: May. 10th, 2014
id 6793461
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isthismynewlife ( member #43292) posted at 6:32 PM on Tuesday, May 13th, 2014

Bump

Such a great post!

Me 42 BS
Him 42 FWS
DDay #1 11/28/13 - 7 months EA/a little PA with my supposed friend.
DDAy #2 8/25/14 - oops - did I forget to mention that it was a 15 month PA/EA? He thought the first version would hurt me less.
Things are improving daily!

posts: 310   ·   registered: May. 1st, 2014
id 6797346
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remorsefulww ( member #42029) posted at 5:21 PM on Sunday, May 18th, 2014

Bump

DD 1 2009 EA/PA, DD 2 2014, broke nc 2015.All the same AP
His DD 9/16/2015 ONS & EA,PA with coworker.
Mad Hatters
WW/BW Me
BH/WHJSG1

posts: 82   ·   registered: Jan. 12th, 2014   ·   location: new york
id 6804029
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Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 7:30 PM on Friday, May 30th, 2014

Bump

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

posts: 7926   ·   registered: Nov. 11th, 2011
id 6818181
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LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 8:36 PM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014

Bump.

posts: 31109   ·   registered: Dec. 11th, 2010
id 6856455
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sorrowfulmate ( member #43441) posted at 7:00 PM on Thursday, July 3rd, 2014

bump

Me-WS 52 Her-BS 51 Questioningall
5 kids DDay 12/13 (lied ONS)
Dday 3/3/14 - multiple EA, PA
TT ended in October when I had polygraph
"Good night, Sorrowful. Good work. Sleep well. I can always divorce you in the morning." Dread BS Roberts

posts: 2425   ·   registered: May. 15th, 2014   ·   location: midwest
id 6859393
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Macsecond ( member #43972) posted at 9:02 PM on Tuesday, July 8th, 2014

Bump

Me - WW (42)
Him - BH (40)
Married 18 years.
2 amazing daughters (DD10 and DD6)
DDay - July 4, 2014 (I confessed to 5 month OEA)

posts: 815   ·   registered: Jul. 3rd, 2014   ·   location: Canada
id 6864967
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sorrowfulmate ( member #43441) posted at 2:58 PM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014

bump

Me-WS 52 Her-BS 51 Questioningall
5 kids DDay 12/13 (lied ONS)
Dday 3/3/14 - multiple EA, PA
TT ended in October when I had polygraph
"Good night, Sorrowful. Good work. Sleep well. I can always divorce you in the morning." Dread BS Roberts

posts: 2425   ·   registered: May. 15th, 2014   ·   location: midwest
id 6865734
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BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 9:25 PM on Thursday, July 24th, 2014

bump

WH - 49
BW - gerrygirl

posts: 6125   ·   registered: Dec. 19th, 2009   ·   location: Tri-Cities
id 6884414
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Sparkle0504 ( member #40379) posted at 7:39 AM on Tuesday, July 29th, 2014

Bump

Me 52 (BS) Him 60 (EXSAWH)
DDay (too many to mention), but 1st 06/2011
I'm done. Separated.

Time is always right, to do right. (Dr Martin Luther King)

posts: 396   ·   registered: Aug. 21st, 2013   ·   location: England
id 6889265
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BtraydWife ( member #42581) posted at 8:45 PM on Wednesday, July 30th, 2014

Bump

Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010

posts: 5437   ·   registered: Feb. 25th, 2014   ·   location: United States
id 6891373
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sorrowfulmate ( member #43441) posted at 7:51 PM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

Bump

Me-WS 52 Her-BS 51 Questioningall
5 kids DDay 12/13 (lied ONS)
Dday 3/3/14 - multiple EA, PA
TT ended in October when I had polygraph
"Good night, Sorrowful. Good work. Sleep well. I can always divorce you in the morning." Dread BS Roberts

posts: 2425   ·   registered: May. 15th, 2014   ·   location: midwest
id 6902904
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