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Things that every WS needs to know

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Notdaniel ( new member #41302) posted at 9:24 PM on Sunday, December 1st, 2013

This was a good read. I will say that betrayed spouses could react differently to some of it. I do have to communicate more and tell her why I want her and will work on doing that today. Spending time together is kinda mood dependent. I appreciate the insight into her mind.

WH-that's me (37)
Super amazing wife (39)

1 child

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kmom2662 ( member #41494) posted at 2:20 PM on Monday, December 2nd, 2013

That was incredibly helpful to read. My BS is having trouble sleeping, panic attacks, lots of emotions all the time. I feel terrible for what I've done to him. I'm going to print this and keep it handy. I think it will help both of us sort through things

Me-- WW, 49
Him-- BH, 53 (bobf)
Married 22 years
OEA, chat/email with multiple people over an 8 week period, 8/2013-10/4/2013
D-day 10/4/13
Working on reconciliation

posts: 69   ·   registered: Nov. 30th, 2013   ·   location: United states
id 6581253
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Unagie ( member #37091) posted at 7:39 PM on Saturday, December 7th, 2013

Bump for Elasticman.


posts: 3615   ·   registered: Oct. 10th, 2012
id 6588508
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SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 2:55 AM on Tuesday, December 10th, 2013

*bump* for cricketinturmoil.

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

posts: 15429   ·   registered: Nov. 5th, 2010   ·   location: The Great White North USA
id 6591529
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SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 5:19 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014

*bump* for dolphin1111

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

posts: 15429   ·   registered: Nov. 5th, 2010   ·   location: The Great White North USA
id 6633512
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lostandhopless ( member #41568) posted at 12:21 AM on Sunday, January 12th, 2014

Bump

Be careful who you trust. Even your shadow will abandon you when it's dark.....

Divorced 6/13/14

posts: 144   ·   registered: Dec. 7th, 2013
id 6635410
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OnTilt ( member #34140) posted at 12:10 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014

Bump

BS(Me), WH(Him) in our 50's
Status: I'm giving up on him

posts: 379   ·   registered: Dec. 7th, 2011
id 6643544
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cantseestraight3 ( new member #42112) posted at 11:49 PM on Monday, January 20th, 2014

OK, I think I found a way out of this one. I found the article (with some minor changes it seems) on another website. I will send her THAT link instead.

Somehow I feel safer supplying that little bit of misdirection.

MS M54
WS F45
D-Day 1/4/14

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id 6648461
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Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 11:24 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014

Bump for EMO

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

posts: 7922   ·   registered: Nov. 11th, 2011
id 6653322
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foolishlycluless ( member #41404) posted at 12:04 AM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

This is a great thread. I want to provide it to my WS, but I'm not sure how he will react.

Me: BW; married 36 years; now happily divorced.
XWH: Not a bad person; just made bad choices. Now living with OW.

posts: 141   ·   registered: Nov. 20th, 2013   ·   location: Coastal Carolina
id 6653366
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MessedUpAndDown ( member #24367) posted at 11:06 PM on Saturday, January 25th, 2014

Mod please

Me: BH
Her: WW
Married: 16 years
DDay: 12-12-08 ~ S: 8-1-10
"If at first you don't succeed, try try again. Then give up. There's no sense in being a damn fool about it." - W.C. Fields

posts: 164   ·   registered: Jun. 11th, 2009
id 6656175
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Wayflost ( member #41583) posted at 2:37 AM on Wednesday, January 29th, 2014

bump

"Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly."

posts: 762   ·   registered: Dec. 9th, 2013
id 6661040
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SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 4:55 PM on Thursday, February 6th, 2014

*bump* for Ladybug.

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

posts: 15429   ·   registered: Nov. 5th, 2010   ·   location: The Great White North USA
id 6673708
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somethingremorse ( member #42047) posted at 7:03 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014

Bump -- should be on page 1. I look for it all of the time.

Me: WH (40s)
DDay 11/03/13
In MC and IC

posts: 911   ·   registered: Jan. 13th, 2014   ·   location: Pennsylvania
id 6679454
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TennisTC ( member #41330) posted at 7:07 PM on Friday, February 21st, 2014

Bump

Me: BW Him: WH (Both early 30's)
Married 11 years with a DD 7
R'ing

posts: 219   ·   registered: Nov. 13th, 2013
id 6695704
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DTERMINED2SURVIV ( member #42294) posted at 2:38 AM on Saturday, February 22nd, 2014

BS here....LOVED IT. Definitely touches on the back and forth we feel. Even those, silent blank stares....Yes, we are thinking about it...HELP!!


posts: 272   ·   registered: Feb. 1st, 2014   ·   location: Where theres lots of southern HOEspitality
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LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 9:35 PM on Thursday, March 6th, 2014

Bump.

posts: 31089   ·   registered: Dec. 11th, 2010
id 6713322
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BtraydWife ( member #42581) posted at 10:02 PM on Thursday, March 20th, 2014

Thanks! I bookmarked it too. Every WS should read this.

Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010

posts: 5437   ·   registered: Feb. 25th, 2014   ·   location: United States
id 6730201
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SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 3:22 PM on Monday, March 31st, 2014

*bump*

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

posts: 15429   ·   registered: Nov. 5th, 2010   ·   location: The Great White North USA
id 6742353
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LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 10:53 PM on Saturday, April 12th, 2014

Bumping this to the top of the thread again. Great post for anyone who hasn't read it yet.

posts: 31089   ·   registered: Dec. 11th, 2010
id 6757440
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