Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 7:39 AM on Saturday, July 7th, 2012
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
heartstabber ( member #34079) posted at 6:29 PM on Sunday, July 22nd, 2012
Me: WW
Married: 15 years
DD: November 2011
Let's eat Grandma. Let's eat, Grandma. Commas save lives.
PanicAttack53 ( member #34195) posted at 8:23 PM on Sunday, July 29th, 2012
Me-BH Her-XWW | B/ 59 on D-day (11/17/11) | D final on 10/1/13 I'm Lovin' life again!
Rest of the story really doesn't matter any more.
“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.” ― Eckhart Tolle
MC_Jack ( member #35016) posted at 6:03 PM on Monday, July 30th, 2012
I am not a marriage counselor. I chose "MC Jack" because I like the Music City. I did not know what MC stood for on this site. Duh.
BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 12:47 PM on Tuesday, July 31st, 2012
BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 3:57 PM on Sunday, August 12th, 2012
She-Ra ( member #36033) posted at 1:23 AM on Tuesday, August 28th, 2012
Former story began here July 2012
We were mad-hatters. I was a WW first then a BS. Separated May 2017. 2 kids.
Met my new beginning May 2019 just discovered his EA Oct 2020 4 days after we bought a house
longroadhome ( member #32428) posted at 6:27 PM on Friday, August 31st, 2012
Me: WH
Her: BW, and the most amazing, beautiful person I've ever known
It is counterintuitive really... the less we defend our well-being, the more well we feel. ~ Nancy Colier
SurprisinglyOkay ( member #36684) posted at 4:19 PM on Sunday, September 2nd, 2012
This is fantastic!!! Thank you! thank you! My Bs and I looked it over last night and I got a lot out of it!! Thanks again 
[This message edited by broevil at 10:54 AM, September 2nd (Sunday)]
FWS me 38 (recovering addict)
BS him 41 AFrayedKnot
Together 10 years
2 children
"Your secrets keep you sick"
scangel3 ( member #36164) posted at 11:08 AM on Friday, September 14th, 2012
BS-me 31, WH-31, M'd-10 years
DD 10, DS 7, DS 6.5
Dday 03/01/10 (our DD's bday)
A ended 08/31/10-09/02-10 (with multiple ddays in between).TT on 08/2012, 09/04/12, 11/16/2012, 01/2013, 6/25/2013 Says he wants R, but not proving it
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 5:50 PM on Thursday, September 20th, 2012
Bump.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
sinnomore ( new member #36800) posted at 2:35 AM on Saturday, September 22nd, 2012
Spot on!. Read this a while ago & it resonated with me. Still find I need to come back to it. I feel I've done all that's in this post...its up to him to decide..& yes I may find out...it really is a dealbreaker
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Me - WW-40's
Him - BS-40's
Married 20 years, together 24
hathnofury ( member #32550) posted at 6:10 PM on Monday, September 24th, 2012
Bumping because I referred to it in my post in JFO today. 
BS 43, SAWH 38. M 15years, together 17. Body count in the triple digits. Both in recovery, trying to R.
Three kids under age 11.
Diva0702 ( member #32309) posted at 11:05 PM on Tuesday, September 25th, 2012
Two and a half years on and working on it, I stumbled on this and admire its profound statement of truth...
Me: BW 53
Him: FWH 47
4 wonderful grown children
2 beautiful grandchildren
Married 20 years
Together 23 years
Dday March 10 2010. 4 yr A.
Me: RGN(ret), N.Dip.,BA(Psych),MA (Psych),BA Music.
OW: 55 year old taxi driver
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 4:16 PM on Sunday, October 7th, 2012
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
QVee ( member #34670) posted at 5:40 PM on Sunday, October 7th, 2012
My WH has been doing the right things since DDay, but I had him read this a few weeks ago, and it was miraculous. After reading it he actually cried (my H never cries!) and apologized to me again. It's really helped him understand my rollercoaster ride of emotions.
Thank you for posting this.
"Plan for the worst, hope for the best"
Sleepless22 ( member #36580) posted at 2:42 AM on Monday, October 8th, 2012
I sent this to my WH and he started crying today. Thank you so much for posting this. I think he may finally get it.
Me-BS 36 Him- WH 38
4 Kids 13, 8, 5, and 2
DD1: 12/2/09-PA
DD2: 05/25/12-EA
Status: Reconciling
My life needs editing. Mort Sahl
SurprisinglyOkay ( member #36684) posted at 3:34 PM on Monday, October 8th, 2012
This really is fantastic!
FWS me 38 (recovering addict)
BS him 41 AFrayedKnot
Together 10 years
2 children
"Your secrets keep you sick"
justanotherjoe ( new member #37076) posted at 8:16 AM on Wednesday, October 10th, 2012
Thank you so much for this post...I copied and pasted it for my WW to read..I only hope she does and it really makes sense enough to her to apply it. We've been up and down about what can be done to reconcile and be happy. I've blamed myself and all my emotions for us not being able to be "us" again. Now with this insight we've another tool in our toolbox to work with..thank you again.
ME= BH /Active Duty Army 30yrs old
WW= Homemaker (now after over 10 A's)26 yrs old
1 6 yr old daughter
10 D days in the last 4 months.
It does nothing more than insult the dead when you treat life carelessly.
tired girl ( member #28053) posted at 6:35 AM on Thursday, October 11th, 2012
Me 47 Him 47 Hardlessons
DS 27,25,23
D Day's becoming less important as time moves on.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
My bad for trying to locate remorse on your morality map. OITNB
