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Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 11:10 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2022

Hugs, honey. I'm so sorry you're having a tough time. Glad you got some meds to help you along.

Me-56 FWH-58 Married 38 years 9/2/2021 grown daughters-38&34 12yo GS,9yo GD & 7yo.GD (DD38) and 10yo GD & 5yo GD(DD34). D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant

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Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 12:40 PM on Monday, June 6th, 2022

Just checking in on you, Dragn...hope you're okay. (((HUGS)))

Me-56 FWH-58 Married 38 years 9/2/2021 grown daughters-38&34 12yo GS,9yo GD & 7yo.GD (DD38) and 10yo GD & 5yo GD(DD34). D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant

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 DragnHeart (original poster member #32122) posted at 1:12 PM on Monday, June 6th, 2022

Hi, yes I'm alright.

Wh had had a huge change in behaviour. A nice change and good timing as I needed a break from it all.

Doesn't mean D isn't happening. Just means things here have been better.

Wh still has a problem communicating. For my girls birthdays my brother paid for them to get their ears pierced. He also paid for me to get the Daith piercing in hopes it helps my migraines like it did his.

I took the girls Saturday and it was a great girls day out.

Yesterday wh says he's upset because he wanted to be there for that and that he had told me that a million times..... rolleyes when in reality he had NOT said anything. He could have said something on Friday when I told him my brother made the appointment. He could have said something Saturday before we left. He didnt. So thats on him. I cannot read his mind...

We did take the kids fishing and had fun. DS caught his first largemouth bass. Wh caught a northern pike. Little M loves to fish, big D not so much. He asked to fish after I got a rock bass on a muskie lure lol.

Right now I just need to get my meds working and focus on myself.

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 2:33 PM on Monday, June 6th, 2022

Yes, please get those meds, sweetie. smile

Glad to hear that WH is acting more human ATM and yes, you definitely need the break from his shenanigans.

My youngest DD got the Daith - it did help a little bit, lessened the severity of the migraines but not the frequency.

Fishing is so fun! We live on the Chesapeake Bay (so crabbing is also on the list of fun) and my grandkids love to fish. I'm not a big fisher person, but I have to admit it's relaxing!

Me-56 FWH-58 Married 38 years 9/2/2021 grown daughters-38&34 12yo GS,9yo GD & 7yo.GD (DD38) and 10yo GD & 5yo GD(DD34). D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant

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 DragnHeart (original poster member #32122) posted at 3:28 PM on Monday, June 6th, 2022

I started thr meds Friday. Doc said coukd take up to 2 weeks for them to have any impact.

So far no headache. My ear is tender. But no pounding, sensitive to light/sound, throwing up, migraine.

My dad has always been a fisherman. When they had me, my mothers side of thr family were horrified he took me out camping, fishing, skiing etc. They always gave my dad a hard time that girls don't do that stuff. Years later when one of them had their own daughter he apologized to my dad for being so judgemental.

I did fishing tournament's with my dad.

My kids enjoy it. Well e cept Big D. It's hit or miss eith him. Sometimes he wants to other times he doesn't. My boys won't touch worms or the fish....my girls, especially Little M have no fear! We have to really watch Little M because she won't hesitate to jump into thr water to catch a crayfish lol.

I'm glad I have been going with them. It's relaxing.

Wh and I used to fish non stop before we had the kids. I think he's thinking if we just do things like we used to it will all be better. It doesn't work that way.

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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pureheartkit ( member #62345) posted at 5:29 AM on Tuesday, June 7th, 2022

It would be great if you can be spared the worst of the headaches. Happy you had a good time with your girls. If he goes about breaking stuff what can you do then? I worry about you having things working that you and the kids need. It's amazing people who's emotions swing wildly. Makes me wonder if the calm after is just a performance. Never understood it. Unpredictable and worrisome. Could they be in turmoil all the time and barely keeping it together. Also the impulsiveness. Hard to have that chaos in your home. Dragn keep a little calendar and cross the days off. Every day a day closer. Summers almost here and you can enjoy the longer days.

Thank you everyone for your wisdom and healing.

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wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 5:17 AM on Tuesday, June 28th, 2022

Hey Dragn... been thinking about you and wanted to see how you're doing.

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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leafields ( member #63517) posted at 6:01 AM on Tuesday, June 28th, 2022

I was thinking about you and hoping you're hanging in there. If you hadn't posted SPF, I'd be really worried.

BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21

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 DragnHeart (original poster member #32122) posted at 2:34 PM on Tuesday, June 28th, 2022

Hi. Sorry been busy and felt I needed a break.

Things are going good. Been doing things for me. Not waiting for the right time anymore or putting things off.

Got my first tattoo. My own design I drew many many years ago. The tattoo artist is amazing. Took the time to help me fine tune it a bit. I'm scheduled for my next one, a Ukrainian symbol. When I told my mom my plans she gave me her many binders of Ukrainian designs. She and I spent a good hour discussing the meaning and history of the designs.

Things between wh and I are ok. Not great but ok. He's been better. Again not great but we are getting along. Taking the kids fishing a lot.

I don't know how things will go but for now I'm happy doing things on my bucket list.

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 5:23 AM on Wednesday, June 29th, 2022

I'm glad you're doing things for you! And I'm also glad things are a bit calmer for you.

Keep looking out for you and your little dragns.

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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