cocoplus5nuts ( member #45796) posted at 4:46 PM on Sunday, December 28th, 2025
I doubt that I could have become softer toward my W at the time.
This was more than 4 years after Dday. The problem was that, other than not cheating anymore, my H hadn't made any significant progress. Maybe if he had, I could've done what the MC suggested. The suggestion was made within the context of our general relationship health, not the infidelity.
I still struggle with being softer and gentler in my approach to my H. My nature is to be straightforward and mater-of-fact. Tact is not one of my strong suits. When I think of that wrt my H, I think he's a 55yo man. He needs to grow a backbone.
[This message edited by cocoplus5nuts at 4:47 PM, Sunday, December 28th]
Me(BW): 1970WH(caveman): 1970Married June, 2000DDay#1 June 8, 2014 EADDay#2 12/05/14 confessed to sex before polygraphStatus: just living my life
