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I vote with catwoman

Good for you 36. This is about you now not her. She had her time to take care of herself and she decided to take that to far. So now you need to focus on you.

Cat is right. I would just go dark.

C

But I am still sending the condom bouquets!

I sure hope you get a pic of that and post it here! I like that sense of humor, but I'm pretty weird myself.

I'm so glad you didn't send it! The old wife from 36 years ago may have liked it... but the wife you have now is NOT that wife.

I agree with BH294 - show this letter to your son, but DO IT IN PERSON. Don’t let any copy of this letter out of your sight, whether on paper or electronically.

I love & believe the verses you quoted but she’s showing zero signs of being a repentant Christian right now, so these verses don’t apply to her. She will totally use it against you, like “love keeps no record of wrongdoing”. She will blast you with this verse anytime you trigger or are even concerned about any matter of the affair.

Your son needs to know the whole truth. Like now. I’m praying for you.

I am looking for a place to rent for a few months. I think as soon as I get that I will be changing my cell number. I can't change my business phone, but everything else should be a good start.

Check with your attorney, as you don't want to be seen as "abandoning" the marital home or ceding your rights to it.

I'd do this before I signed ANY lease.

Cat

Listen to cat.

I notice you have not said much about the false DV charge. Regard less of what happens, There is now a record of the police being call to your home for that.

Does your son know about that event?. It really doesn't matter, but how does your wife explain that? Not only was she talking about your physical death, she was planning on killing your career, your reputation and your honor.

I notice you have not said much about the false DV charge. Regard less of what happens, There is now a record of the police being call to your home for that.

I was handcuffed, but not arrested. Still a disturbing event.

Does your son know about that event?. It really doesn't matter, but how does your wife explain that? Not only was she talking about your physical death, she was planning on killing your career, your reputation and your honor.

He knows very little about that event.

You're right about an arrest. It would destroy any chance pf getting some of the government contracts I am working on.

[This message edited by 36yearsgone at 3:01 PM, October 5th (Thursday)]

Another member telling you not to leave the marital home without the advice of an attorney.

As was I. I was one of the lucky ones who was able to prove it false and use it in the custody battle.

However, as I stated, the fact that they were called to your home for that reason will remain in their records.

Has your wife given an explanation for that? (Her filing the charge in the 1st place )

[This message edited by 5454real at 3:33 PM, October 5th (Thursday)]

As was I. I was one of the lucky ones who was able to prove it false and use it in the custody battle.

However, as I stated, the fact that they were called to your home for that reason will remain in their records.

Has your wife given an explanation for that? (Her filing the charge in the 1st place )

She has not really offered an explanation. Other than it looks like the POSOM was behind one of the calls.

What has she said about the false DV charge?

explain that one to your son.

Go Dark.

Do not leave the home without your attorney's advice.

You will find someone that will not treat you so badly.

She had no respect or love for you at all.

If she will not do the polly and the timeline, you are wasting your time.

Get the D going.

Glad you did not send the letter.

Other than it looks like the POSOM was behind one of the calls.

Your WW is getting a whole lot of advice from untrusty sources (aka her friends).

Your WW is getting a whole lot of advice from untrusty sources (aka her friends).

You're absolutely right. She has done that crap for years and years. For any R to happen she needs to stop.

We've gone through rough patches in our marriage over the years (not because of an affair). I remember coming to a conclusion and making a decision about it: I don't have to have a bad marriage; I can make choices to have a good or great marriage.

The was eye opening for me. I didn't have to be in a rut or allow my marriage to stagnate. I set out to do everything possible to love my wife no matter what.

Turns out it was all for nothing.

But I am glad I took the journey.

It reminds me of the Garth Brooks son "The Dance."

Looking back on the memory of

The dance we shared 'neath the stars above

For a moment all the world was right

How could I have known that you'd ever say goodbye

And now I'm glad I didn't know

The way it all would end the way it all would go

Our lives are better left to chance I could have missed the pain

But I'd have had to miss the dance

Holding you I held everything

For a moment wasn't I a king

But if I'd only known how the king would fall

Hey who's to say you know I might have changed it all

And now I'm glad I didn't know

The way it all would end the way it all would go

Our lives are better left to chance I could have missed the pain

But I'd have had to miss the dance

Yep... Your WW song would be Friends in low places.

I was handcuffed, but not arrested. Still a disturbing event

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That one event, regardless of any type of remorseful behavior following, would be enough to tell my wife to rot in hell forever.

I would never share space or speak to her again, ever.

36,

you have ignored every post I have put on this thread and you still struggle.

You are still talking about R. Why ?????

You are a glutton for self punishment at this point to me. If not, explain why ?????

[This message edited by Western at 6:39 PM, October 5th (Thursday)]

I have to say I'm with OrdinaryDude, trying get me arrested on a bogus DV charge would be the end of it forever.

That is the lowest of scumbag character.

After the false dv accusation, I'm with the others: I'd hand her divorces papers instead of a letter.

Hell, I would have exited stage left even earlier.