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This is awful. Please don't blame yourself for this. I also too would have thought enough time had passed and you both were doing well enough. Prayers.

Walloped, I'm so sorry to hear this, praying and thinking about both of you today. My WW attempted suicide in front of me and I know that surreal feeling. I had my WW read your WW's post and she also read yours. She was very emotional after reading both. She said to me "what a great man, I feel so bad for him". I can understand how emotional reading your unfiltered thoughts and feeling must have been for her. Please let us know how she's doing as we are all concerned, only when you can obviously.

Your family is in my thoughts and prayers Walloped.

If you think it would help, bring her some chocolate. In this context it might mean a lot.

This made me cry. Neither of you deserve this. Your wife is a wonderful woman. You are a wonderful man. Both of you are blessed to have one another.

I am praying for strength and for love to flow out of your hearts into one another.

Love, prayers, and blessings for the both of you. Your precious children and your future.

My heart aches for the both of you.

Sending prayers and all good thoughts.

I’m so very sorry. And I truly wish people would have focused on the purpose of her posts and not used her thread as an opportunity to constantly make references to your threads thus piquing her interest in reading those threads for herself. I can only imagine the hurt and shame she felt reading those posts. Not YOUR contributions necessarily, Walloped, as you repeatedly and consistently defended your wife while also openly processing your pain and feelings of betrayal and hurt. But the things posters said about her, page after page after page...it’s pretty brutal. I cried reading your threads (I also read them in one sitting), and they aren’t even about me.

SI tends to struggle with differentiating between a remorseful spouse and one who is not. I was very disheartened by the way people were posting on Mrs. Walloped’s threads in the Wayward Forum. She didn’t deserve such vitriol. To me, as a WW, she is an example of what I hope to be; an example of how I hope R can be for my husband and I.

I am praying fervently for your family this afternoon, most especially for your wife’s healing - mind, body, and spirit. I’m so very sorry.

Praying for healing for both of you.

I don't even know what to say. I'm so sorry for both of you. I promise, I will (and am is I read this) pray for you both to find the strength and heal through this.

I'm really pulling for you two

It is a question of verb tense. Past versus present.

She needs to recognize that while she may have been a “monster” in the past, she is not a monster now.

Once shame has been used as the impetus to change one’s character then it should be let go. Staying mired in it at that point becomes counterproductive.

Mrs. Walloped needs to recognize that she is no longer that person.

Threadjack: ASoCalledLife, you went from being unremorseful to the most remorseful wayward I have seen. I am not your husband and cannot confer the title, but I view you as a *former* wayward. I strongly hope for a good outcome in your union.

Sending prayers for your Mrs. Walloped, for you and your children. I hope she receives the counseling she needs. Sending you strength.

I am so sorry. My heart breaks for your wife, you and your DD's.

Keeping you all in my thoughts and sending wishes for peace, serenity and strength for your family.

Very sad. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

Prayers have been sent.

Hang in there!!

I am so sorry that this has happened to you two. I hope that this doesn't send your marriage off the rails finally.

She thought she understood your pain and finally realized the true depth of the pain. If you are strong enough, now is when she truly needs you!

She needs her children to support her now also. As with most things that are broken, when she broke she hurt others and destroyed herself. I believe in hugs. I think they have emotionally healing powers. I hope that you and your children have many hugs that you can share with het.

((((Mrs Walloped)))) Here is a hug from someone that doesn't know you because there were times when I could have used one myself. I sincerely hope that now that this has happened you will realize the only way from here is up!!! You will get better and Whalloped will get better. Whether or not it is together, and I hope it is together, you will get stronger the pain will subside and you will eventually find peace. (((( MrsWalloped))))

You and Mrs Walloped are in my prayers.

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[This message edited by SouthAfricanMan at 1:29 PM, March 11th (Sunday)]

that is terrible.

I am so sorry that she is feeling so low and in pain.

and sorry for your pain.

hope things improve for you, your wife and your kids.

sending prayers, and hope for counseling.

I have been reading more online some thoughts written by affair recovery. Hope you both get some help and therapy.

Good luck. again so sorry.

Walloped - sending prayers and strength to both of you!

Praying for you both. That is incredibly scary and I hope she can recover.