SierraGrace ( member #24259) posted at 11:09 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
I have not been on here in a very long time but want to express my deepest sympathy to you MH and send loads of love and hugs..... I also want to express gratitude for all of the support and you both have provided in every imaginable way. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
((((MH))))
BSO(me): 60-ish! How did THAT happen? Was only 50-ish when I first joined in 2009!
Mom to rescued fur-kids
Formerly joined due to awful WSO and took a long @ss time to work my way out of that, but finally did January 2022
ray-ray ( member #29940) posted at 11:14 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
MH,
So sorry for your loss. Praying for peace for you and your family
ivehadit01 ( member #54210) posted at 11:15 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
trying to smile ( member #9683) posted at 11:19 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
No words, the loss is huge as is our wonderful DS's legacy.
tts
Good Women.
May we know them,
May we be them,
May we raise them.
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"so when he finally showed his true colours they proved to be a startling shade of turd".
northeasternarea ( member #43214) posted at 11:24 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
So very sorry for your loss. Heaven has gained another angel.
The only person you can change is yourself.
allusions ( member #25376) posted at 11:24 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
You can apologize over and over, but if your actions don't change, your words become meaningless.
Behind every crazy bitch is a sweet girl who just got tired of being lied to.
I've found the key to happiness: Stay away from assholes.
sullymeishadomi ( member #16305) posted at 11:24 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
I just found out from another member.
I am sooo sorry MH. My heart goes out to you, your family and friends. She was such a wonderful, caring person. I am not good with words...my heart is with you all.
scout ( member #3986) posted at 11:51 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
I'm another oldtimer coming home to honor my dear friend. If not for this beautiful woman I would not be living. I've always believed that DS and MH's love and friendship literally saved my life...and marriage. We did indeed survive infidelity.
DS always knew what to say to give encouragement and remind me to keep fighting for love. One particularly difficult night, she said to me, "Scout, you got sand."
It was something that her dad said to her to remind her that she was strong, tough and courageous. Her love and encouragement carried me through the most difficult time of my life and our friendship has remained strong through all of these years.
I love you, sweet friend. You will always be in my heart.
Thinking of you, dear MH.
(((((MH)))))
ADryHeat ( member #46484) posted at 11:57 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
I never met DS but she and you, MH, created a life raft that kept me from sinking in my darkest hours. I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss and for all those who love her and lost her too soon.
Me: BSMarried 11 years, 2 young kidsDDay 11/3/14, Discovered he was still a fuckwit: 7/10/15 DIVORCED 11/12/2015"Sometimes when you're in a dark place you think you've been buried, but actually you've been planted."
Furious1 ( member #42970) posted at 11:58 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
MH, I am so sorry for your loss. DS was a very special lady who made a profound impact on a lot of lives. Her loss will definitely be felt.
BW (me): 46
2 adult kids
D-day: 10/4/13.
Divorced
saoirse ( member #49274) posted at 11:58 PM on Monday, December 26th, 2016
I'm so sorry. I can't even find the words right now to properly convey my condolences. DS helped me with words of wisdom in my early days here. She saved my life and my marriage.
((hugs))
Grace and Flowers ( member #34431) posted at 12:03 AM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
Just saw the news. I'm heartbroken. I tend to stay away from here during the holidays and heard the news elsewhere.
All I can say for now is that I'm holding you both in my heart.
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 12:08 AM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think!Me 77 Her 73 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
looking forward ( member #25238) posted at 12:12 AM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
I am so very, very sorry, MH. My sincerest condolences on the loss of such a wonderful and supportive lady. She gave so much of herself, and her life to help us. You and she created a support site like no other, for both BS and WS, and greatly impacted our lives.
My H was on SI just before dinner, and, for some reason, I knew! He came running downstairs, in tears. What devastating and heartbreaking news.
Words cannot express how we both feel, but, please know that you and DS saved us, saved our marriage, and we are closer than ever after more than 49 years together.
Yesterday, I received an angel bell as a Christmas gift from my son and dear DIL. I related the story from the film, It's A Wonderful Life, at the very end, when the young daughter tells her father that every time a bell rings an angel gets her wings.
DS has her wings now, and she is wrapped in God's loving arms.
~ lf
Together 57 years, Married 52 years. Sober since 2009. "You've always had the power, my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself." (The Wizard of Oz)
betrayedfriend ( member #19785) posted at 12:18 AM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
Oh MH! I'm so deeply sorry for the loss of your beloved DS. Though I never met her in real life, her passion for this site, and all of us on it, and her love and devotion to you and to making your marriage stronger, healthier and to continue to grow and develop as a person were and will continue to be awe inspiring to all who loved her. I pray that you find comfort here and in the words and hearts of those near and dear to you both.
I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.
What2do ( member #497) posted at 12:37 AM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
I never met DS, but feel like I lost a close friend. I came here in 2002. This forum you two angels created saved my sanity, and my marriage.
Both of you have personally touched hurting souls like few have ever done.
I am so sorry for your loss. She was such a special angel, God just decided he needed her in Heaven.
MH, you have thousands of hearts praying for you. I wish peace for you.
Character is what you do when no one is watching.
There is the right path and the easy path - which one will you take?
Wool94 ( member #53300) posted at 12:44 AM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
I can't help but be reminded of the earlier post this month about her homecoming.
She has truly had a joyous homecoming now.
Our prayers have all been answered
I finally arrived
The healing that had been delayed
has now been realized
No one's in a hurry
There's no schedule to keep
We're all enjoying Jesus
Just sitting at His feet
If you could see me now
I'm walking streets of gold
If you could see me now
I'm standing tall and whole
If you could see me now
You'd know I've seen His face
If you could see me now
You'd know the pain's erased
You wouldn't want me
To ever leave this place
If you could see me now
My light and temporary trials
Have worked out for my good
To know it brought Him glory
When I misunderstood
Though we've had our sorrows
They can never compare
To what Jesus has in store for us
No language can share - Don Moen
D-Day #1: April 7, 2016
D-Day #2: May 21, 2016
D-Day #3: June 7, 2016
Me: 1975
Her:WW (amn8r) 1981
Son 2006
Daughter 2009
"God not only loves you, but He actually likes you. "-Stephen Hooks
"My faith is mine now."
TryingToBreathe ( member #14935) posted at 12:49 AM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
I can't find the words to say how sad & empty I feel at learning the news. Not the outcome that had been hoped & prayed for by so many.
((MH)) I'm so very sorry. I will never be able to repay the debt I owe you & DS for creating this lifeline that saved my life. I wish we could have done the same for DS.
[This message edited by TryingToBreathe at 6:50 PM, December 26th (Monday)]
Hope2B ( member #40474) posted at 12:51 AM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
I am so very, very sorry to read of DS's passing. She made a difference in so many lives here on SI, with her kind words and compassion, and with her truth and with her friendship. ((((((((((MH)))))))))), my condolences go out to you and your family. 
A sad time for us, and yet much rejoicing in Heaven as she joins loved ones there.
[This message edited by Hope2B at 6:53 PM, December 26th (Monday)]
DDay: Feb. 25, 2013Trickle Truth/DDays: Sept 10, 11, 13, 15 (2013)
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 12:58 AM on Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
Oh DS, dear DS, I thought you had longer.
MH, I am so incredibly sad and shocked for you. My deepest condolences. Thank you for telling us her passing was without pain and fear. I hope she felt - feels - surrounded by our great love, admiration and affection for her.
Rest in peace now dearest DS.
