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Do It Yourself divorce... No children, have a post nup.

I'm 71 & done. D-Days were 8 years ago. We've been living under the same roof as roommates, we've done IC & MC, but really, for me, the M was over at DDay #2. It's a 40 year 'marriage' this month.

We're talking divorce & I want to move forward with that.

Has anyone done a DIY divorce?

We're in California and have a post nup & I am well aware that California is a community property state so everything was spelled out in as much detail as possible in the post nup. We have no children, but I do have property (specifically addressed in the post nup).

Does anyone know if the judge, who grants the dissolution of marriage, looks at the details in the post nup or just just looks at the divorce paperwork that we will file with the court?

I don't want the judge "judging" that WH should get more than what the post nup specified.

7 comments posted: Monday, December 27th, 2021

How do I find out, truly, if someone is divorced?

I've checked on the county registrar's website for Los Angeles county, and it appears that they don't do copies of divorce certificates or divorce decrees or whatever this is called. I figured I'd have to pay a fee but I didn't think I would get to a dead end.

I've gone round and round in circles with no results, & even sent an email request for more information a few weeks ago but no reply.

Does anyone have any ideas about this, whether it's even available to get?
Also, Is there such a thing as a confidential divorce record between adults? I know there's such a thing as a confidential marriage record between adults (for whatever reason). Thanks for any information!

8 comments posted: Friday, November 19th, 2021

Are these books fact or fiction?

I just finished reading "Chicken Soup for the Soul: Touched by an Angel." I like Angel stories and they give me comfort.

At the very end of the book, there are pages with a little bit of info about each contributor, but what was suspicious to me was that it was also noted that this person or that person had also been published in other Chicken Soup books.

This got me to thinking perhaps these people who contributed were just making up fictional stories. Does anyone know the truth? Googling got me lots of recipes and weird stuff about touching.

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4 comments posted: Saturday, June 24th, 2017

Did I miss the memo? Stupid Pic Friday for 2/3 was removed

The entire thread of Stupid Picture Friday, which I saw early on 2/3, seems to have disappeared. Did I miss something? Thanks in advance!


3 comments posted: Wednesday, February 8th, 2017

Stupid Picture Friday

Well, it's the wee hours and I can't sleep. Hope no one minds if I start this thread.

110 comments posted: Friday, September 16th, 2016

A Breath of Snow and Ashes *spoiler*? & a comment on Poldark

I've begun reading Diana Gabaldon's "A Breath of Snow and Ashes" -- part of the Outlander series.

Spoiler alert!


It's coming up below--spoiler alert!

During the beginning of this book -- and perhaps prior books but I missed it as I skimmed through some of the chapters -- reference is made to a newspaper article that reports Claire and Jamie dying in a fire in their home (info received during back to the future, return to the past by way of the stones time traveling).

In ABOSAA, this newspaper article, which is (I think) dated a couple or few years ahead of where Claire is *now* in time, is always in the back of Claire's mind.

I wonder if this is how D.G. is going to end the series as she is supposedly writing her final book for Outlander, and I would imagine that Jamie & Claire died in one another's arms, from smoke inhalation, and never woke up, and the fire was put out before the bodies became burned.

That device is a literary back door escape hatch that at least one other author used in another series. ...unless D.G. finds some way out of this newspaper information... and she has also said that the final book (Go Tell The Bees) will solve the mystery of Jamie's ghost when he looks up and sees Claire in a window and is seen by her then-husband, Frank Randall.

As for Poldark, a series televised on PBS, I have to tell you that Ross Poldark is another romantic hero, and like Outlander televised on STARZ featuring the beauty of Scotland, then France, so far), the scenery for Poldark (set in Cornwall) is stunning and it's a wonderful story too!

Season Two of Poldark is already being advertised but I'm not sure when it will premier. Of note is that the series does have infidelity in it, so just be aware of triggers, although I myself didn't trigger.

7 comments posted: Friday, September 2nd, 2016

"Outlander" question

To the best of my recollection, because I read the first book quite a while ago, and have not really picked up the other books yet (but have watched the TV series on STARZ), I have a question.

In the first book, when Frank and Claire are in Scotland??, Frank sees someone dressed as a Highlander, looking up at the window where Claire is...I don't remember if Frank is on the street returning to Claire or how he sees this. Frank tells Claire about what he saw and how he followed the Highlander, but the man seemed to disappear.

Who is the Highlander? How did the Highlander travel to a different time, because it seemed as if Claire hadn't met any people from 1700s yet...because she hadn't travelled through the stones.

I may have more questions, too, depending on this answer. Could someone please clarify for me?????

Thank you!


39 comments posted: Monday, July 11th, 2016

Stupid Picture Friday

Well, I'm still up... might as well start the fun!!

65 comments posted: Friday, May 13th, 2016

Stupid Picture Friday

...thought I'd start this up, since it's the wee hours and I'm not sleepy...

37 comments posted: Friday, April 22nd, 2016

Stupid Picture Friday!!!!!!

Anyone can start this "Friday" thread, right?

Here's a "pie" joke!

51 comments posted: Friday, April 15th, 2016

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