deena04 (original poster member #41741) posted at 10:25 PM on Sunday, December 1st, 2024
It was 11 years ago today that I found out. I divorced him and haven’t felt the pain of him in a long time. The kids are happy, I am happy, we are doing well in life. It does get better. Today is just a day now. The only reason I remembered was because I had a social media memory pop up that reminded me that I had posted something about it that day. It was also a Sunday. I don’t think I would be nearly as OK if I stayed with him.
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 11:18 PM on Sunday, December 1st, 2024
Thanks for posting, deena04. It's good to know that life does get better. It's encouraging to hear members give a positive update.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 11:21 PM on Sunday, December 1st, 2024
Deeeena! Great to hear. Coming up on the anniversary of my liberation myself here - mine was final on Boxing Day lol. There's no life like it. 
[This message edited by FaithFool at 11:21 PM, Sunday, December 1st]
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 11:25 PM on Sunday, December 1st, 2024
👏👏👏. So happy to hear you are thriving! Glad you and the kids are doing so well!
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Cooley2here ( member #62939) posted at 5:41 AM on Monday, December 2nd, 2024
Deena, I remember you. And your ex who tried running and end game around you. You stopped that pretty quickly.
Sounds like you landed on your feet. Good for you. If you live here in the US hope your Thanksgiving was perfect…and congratulations.
When things go wrong, don’t go with them. Elvis
Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 9:23 AM on Monday, December 2nd, 2024
BH
DDAY Mar 2014
Widowed 2022 - breast cancer
SadieMae ( member #42986) posted at 1:16 PM on Monday, December 2nd, 2024
Hi Deena! So happy to see your positive update! Glad to hear you are doing well. :)
Me: BW D-day 3/9/2014
TT until 6/2016
TT again Fall 2020
Yay! A new D-Day on 11/8/2023 WTAF
EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 2:26 PM on Monday, December 2nd, 2024
Helllooooooo!
Today is just a day now.
Isn't that just a great place to be!!! I just love when some date goes by related to my ex (bday, anniversary, etc) and I realize it passed and I did not even notice.
Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 4:00 PM on Monday, December 2nd, 2024
Deena
So happy to hear you are doing well !
Always feels hopeful to hear from people who survived infidelity
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
BrokenheartedUK ( member #43520) posted at 6:38 PM on Monday, December 2nd, 2024
I’m coming up to 11 years on one month. It definitely gets better!! So glad you and your kids are thriving. 👏👏👏👏
Me: BS
He cheated and then lied. Apparently cheaters lie. Huh. 13 months of false R. Divorced! 8/16 3 teenage kids
"The barn's burnt down
Now
I can see the moon"
-Mizuta Masahide
deena04 (original poster member #41741) posted at 3:16 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2024
Ah thanks all. I’ve definitely lived and learned. It’s good to see others also thriving.
Thanksgiving was good. Here’s hoping to a good rest of the holiday season for all of us.
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
NoThanksForTheMemories ( member #83278) posted at 5:54 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2024
deena, I'm a relative newcomer here, and my dday was 2 years ago. It's great to hear stories like yours, like getting a glimpse into a positive future for myself. I'm taking the first step with a physical separation in the new year. Thank you for dropping by and sharing your situation!
WH had a 3 yr EA+PA from 2020-2022, and an EA 10 years ago (different AP). Dday1 Nov '22. Dday4 Sep '23. False R for 2.5 months. 30 years together. Staying for the teenager.
