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trying to smile posted 7/14/2020 00:19 AM

my NB of 4 years is over. Not infidelity related but I feel just as helpless and hopeless and didn't know where else to turn.

I'm an oldie from here, one of the one's who survived it. Now I'm breaking into a thousand pieces.


Lalagirl posted 7/14/2020 04:38 AM


I remember you and am so sorry that you are in such pain.

You know that we are here for you with many shoulders to cry upon.

Sending strength & hugs,


Ripped62 posted 7/14/2020 05:47 AM

I am sorry!

Words escape me.....

(((trying to smile)))

WhoTheBleep posted 7/14/2020 07:18 AM

I'm so so sorry. (((TTS)))

We are listening if you'd eventually like to share more.

lieshurt posted 7/14/2020 07:38 AM

I'm very sorry (((tts))). We are here for you.

EvenKeel posted 7/14/2020 08:52 AM

Awe - I am so sorry. Break-ups suck regardless of the reason!

Do you want to talk about it?

JanaGreen posted 7/14/2020 10:56 AM

I'm so sorry - breakups suck.

We are here for you ((HUGS))

traicionada posted 7/14/2020 11:25 AM

Good news! You have the tools to recover and you will

newlife03 posted 7/14/2020 13:57 PM

wow, I'm sort of in a similar situation. My SO of 9 years needed to take care of some personal issues and we are on a mutual "break" but not broken up....yet. My mind is preparing for it mentally, but I'm just not ready. I'm sorry, but one thing that is true that was pointed out in a different post is that we've been through heartache before and will both come out strong.

I think I remember you, I was here back in 2006-2007 as ohsolost.

FaithFool posted 7/14/2020 15:00 PM

Hi TTS, I remember you, you old-timer you.

Sorry to hear this. What happened? Just unloading the details might help purge some of the hurt.



Phoenix1 posted 7/14/2020 15:33 PM

Sorry TTS.


trying to smile posted 7/15/2020 01:55 AM

Thank you all so much for being here for me. The time difference is a bit of a killer but I came back to see if anyone had seen my post and here you all were just like you were for me before.
God bless this site. XX

not quite willing to share yet but I will when I can stop the roaring in my ears and the pain in my chest.

So many familiar names too, thank you for still being here. So many new names, I'm so sorry you needed to find SI.


Lalagirl posted 7/15/2020 03:55 AM

I know you have heard this advice back in the day, but it bears repeating...please see your doc for something to help you during this awful time - something to take the edge off.

We are here when you're ready, tts...no rush, no pressure ((((tts))))

trying to smile posted 7/16/2020 00:31 AM

Thanks Lala, I work at a medical practice and have taken some time off. I'm keeping myself busy at home sewing masks because of this covid crap.
Strange, strange times.


Lalagirl posted 7/16/2020 04:24 AM

Strange, strange times indeed, tts.

I'm glad you're keeping busy and are taking some you time.

EvenKeel posted 7/16/2020 08:36 AM

Just checking in on you.

Is this your first heartbreak since your D?

I ask because that first one is brutal! I equate it to us having an old injury. Don't laugh. I think of it as we have an old injury that we got stitches for and it healed. Then all of a sudden we do something that reopens that old incision. It just plum hurts worse than if it was a brand new cut in a new spot.

Be kind to yourself and go back to those basics we learned early on (keep hydrated, eat something, get some fresh air, etc). There is not a darn thing wrong with vegging on the couch with Netflix...it has amazing powers sometimes.

Inchoate posted 7/16/2020 17:03 PM

It's funny, I've had a bad setback (related t relationship but not infidelity ) and popped in here to see if I could dredge up a little wisdom. Certainly not planning to do anything but lurk. And here you are from the same way back as me. I think I was led here just to give you a hug. (((TTS))) You deserve to be loved, you deserve to be happy, and you are enough. <3

Twinsmom posted 7/17/2020 23:10 PM

EvenKneel - you nailed it!! The first break up I had after my divorce was brutal. It was only 11 months but it hurt so bad I wasn't sure I would survive it. This was after my divorce from a man I was married to for 27 years. It was just too soon after the first hurt that it felt like I would never recover.

You got this tts....We are all here for you!!
Sending hugs!!

BearlyBreathing posted 7/18/2020 01:05 AM

Take care of yourself- you got through indefinitely, and you’ll make it through this too. ((Hugs))

ZenMumWalking posted 7/18/2020 15:57 PM

I'm so sorry ((((tts))))

Let it out when you are ready. There is always someone listening here.

Strength ((((tts))))

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