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A little MessyT update.

MessyT posted 5/17/2019 06:29 AM

Well I havenít posted in a very long time but I still read here regularly as it helps me a lot. Things got very bad for us financially and we have been limping along together still. Couldnít afford to live hardly, so separating wasnít really an option.

Anyway while my marriage may still be a mess in progress. He is not actively cheating as far as I know and loves me more than anything. But for me that ship has sailed. I donít really trust him and donít think I will ever be able to love him the way I did before. So I decided to forget about him and what he wants and needs and focus on me and my healing and getting to a better place where maybe I can make some real changes.

Anyway I received a great job offer, enabling me to get back into the workforce. I had all but given up but at 54 after 19 years out of the workforce I now have a job. I am so excited and canít wait to start in a week. So I am hoping this will be the start of getting me back. Because I realised during all the trauma of the last few years that giving up my financial independence had crippled me and left me very vulnerable. It left me stuck in something I wanted to leave but couldnít.

So hereís to better days ahead.

[This message edited by MessyT at 6:31 AM, May 17th (Friday)]

deephurt posted 5/17/2019 06:34 AM

Congratulations. Enjoy the new job.

rugswept posted 5/17/2019 06:44 AM

Best wishes to you!
And congratulations on taking control of your own life.

Remember this: whatever the assignment, do it diligently and earnestly to the best of your ability. you will find you advance quickly and you will be part of the success of the company.

Marie2792 posted 5/17/2019 06:50 AM

Itís good to hear from you! So glad you are taking control of your healing and concentrating on Messy. Good luck in your new job. Tell us all about it!

BrokenheartedUK posted 5/17/2019 06:58 AM

Thatís awesome about the job!! Less awesome about the rest but getting back to work is a great first step. Keep us posted!!

Chaos posted 5/17/2019 06:59 AM

Congrats on the job!!!!

northeasternarea posted 5/17/2019 07:15 AM

Congratulations on the new job!

MalibuBayBreeze posted 5/17/2019 08:02 AM

This is such great news! I can't tell you how happy I am for you MessyT! Truly. You have been through so much, were stuck for such a long time and now FINALLY the tables are turning.

Good luck and congratulations on the new job. I have no doubt you are going to rock this and he will be sorry as you spread your wings and fly away from his toxicity. I am thrilled for you and this is inspiring to me.

The1stWife posted 5/17/2019 08:25 AM

Great news!!!! Enjoy the new direction in life.

I like your post about the marriage being so-so but youíre putting yourself first.

Want2BHappyAgain posted 5/17/2019 10:43 AM

GREAT update!!! Thank you so much for sharing ! I found...for ME...that being in a place where I could be married because I WANTED to ..instead of being married because I HAD to...was a HUGE help in deciding to R or D. It sure seems like this new job will soon give you that freedom too !

Adlham posted 5/17/2019 10:56 AM

It's very good to hear from you, MessyT! I was just thinking about you the other day and wondering how you were doing.

Congratulations on the new job! That's awesome!

Sending you loads of good thoughts!

Skan posted 5/18/2019 12:30 PM

Good for you. Getting this job will give you options beyond what you have right now. Just keep focusing on you and your healing, make yourself the best employee that your boss has ever seen, and squirrel away money in YOUR account. You can do this!

BearlyBreathing posted 5/19/2019 00:24 AM

Congratulations MessyT! Great way to take back control of your life!

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