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So...an update

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homewrecked2011 posted 8/5/2019 20:37 PM

on the break up.

on DS having a BB, and that itís started out great for him!!!!

Lionne posted 8/5/2019 20:53 PM

Oh for God's sake! Asshat called you expecting sympathy!? He should get a tattoo on his forehead that says "I'm a Loser"

Lilies, so good to see this post. You are a superstar!

steadychevy posted 8/5/2019 20:55 PM

Thanks for the update, Lillies. It was very good to hear from you. It's wonderful about the end of your treatment and how DS is doing. You rock!

lilies21 posted 8/6/2019 09:23 AM

Thanks, everyone!

I had my appointment yesterday and I've been declared cancer free . My doc is great but the appointment itself just seemed...strange. You're done with treatments. Schedule your next mammogram. Bye. I wasn't expecting a parade but heck...can't cancer come with a free t-shirt or something? All I did to mark the occasion was to hit a drive thru for a milkshake before running errands and taking DS to his tennis lesson. My dad always said everything happens for a reason. I don't know the reason for this yet except to meet my out of pocket with my insurance for the first time.

As far as the situation with Asshat... . Asshat text me on Friday night asking if we could meet at a park the next day and have DS watch the babies so Asshat and I could talk about the future. Ahh...what? My reply: I only need to know where he's living and with whom, he can still contact me the next day regarding making arrangements for him to see DS. Dead silence until yesterday: he moved back in and they're "trying to work it out." Likely translation: he didn't want to be homeless so he's kissing her ass. The drama with them makes me oh so happy to be single. I had to tell DS last night since Asshat gets him tonight and DS just shook his head and rolled his eyes. I hate having to send him there tonight without knowing what he's walking into but very glad he has a phone now and knows he can call or text me anytime.

wildbananas posted 8/6/2019 10:16 AM

Yay on cancer free! It does seem like you should get some sort of acknowledgement... I think a milkshake is perfect.

And your asshat is about a delusional as mine. Meet and talk about the future while DS babysits? And I'm not surprised he went running back to what's-her-name. Too bad she took him back but we all know THAT won't last.

Isn't it nice that that isn't your life anymore? I think that every time ex-asshat has some drama.

Catwoman posted 8/6/2019 10:35 AM

Didn't you get to ring the bell? That's a tradition in most hospitals.

Cat

lilies21 posted 8/7/2019 07:29 AM

Too bad she took him back but we all know THAT won't last.

I'll actually hope it does since it's better the devil you know . He could come up with someone worse next time, especially since he would be worse off than when he first met this one and the next one would have to be even more desperate. From what DS says, she basically treats him like a ghost and never talks to him unless he needs to clean up after them or watch the babies. No, I don't like my son being treated that way and would like to hurt things with fire but the next one could be much, much worse. It's a sad situation when the only bright side is your son isn't being physically abused.

Didn't you get to ring the bell? That's a tradition in most hospitals.

Nope, no bell. I've heard about them but they didn't have one where I was treated. We have an actual cancer center in our city and I imagine it has a bell but mine wasn't serous enough to be treated at that center.

[This message edited by lilies21 at 7:30 AM, August 7th (Wednesday)]

Charity411 posted 8/8/2019 16:49 PM

This is all awesome news Lillies.

The drama with them makes me oh so happy to be single.

Somehow I always knew you would get to this point. You've come such a long way. You've done a fantastic job with your son.

JanaGreen posted 8/9/2019 10:11 AM

My ex called me for advice after he had cheated on his girlfriend . . . before our divorce was final . . . he was filling me in on some of their drama and I told him that if the price of admission for a relationship is that kind of drama, I would choose to be single forrrrrever. That's how they roll (STILL together!) But it isn't for me.

So happy about the cancer-free status!!!!! Nice!!!

NEPAlady posted 8/9/2019 18:50 PM

...he was a missing person who nobody missed at all

Goodbye Earl!

million pieces posted 8/10/2019 08:28 AM

Cancer free, what fantastic news!!!!!! On to survivorship!

northeasternarea posted 8/10/2019 09:58 AM

Congratulations on being cancer free.

better4me posted 8/12/2019 21:05 PM

Congrats on being Cancer free. Yippie!

lilies21 posted 8/29/2019 08:18 AM

Thanks, everyone . My work broke their streak of giving us only healthy treats by getting me a cake to celebrate the occasion so something good came out of all this: chocolate .

No other real updates to report except my car seems to have felt left out: DS and I have been to the doctor quite a bit this year so my car apparently wanted attention too and has been at the mechanic the last few days. She (yes, my car is a she and her name is Mia) turned ten this year though so she's bound to start having issues. New neighbors moved in above me and they sound like a heard of hippos. Asshat is back to playing happy little family and leaving me the heck alone.

Somehow I always knew you would get to this point. You've come such a long way. You've done a fantastic job with your son.

Thanks, Charity411. I am definitely happy being single, especially when I hear parents bickering over the littlest things at DS's events. I will admit I still get little twinges of longing, like when the new neighbors bought a grill and they were so excited to take it out of their truck and carry it upstairs together. I bought new cubbie shelves for DS's room a couple of months ago and I had to get two smaller units instead of the big one I wanted because I didn't have anyone to help me get it up the stairs. Little things like that. On the bright side though, I learned last week how to replace a dishwasher filter by myself so yay, me!

...he was a missing person who nobody missed at all
Goodbye Earl!

Yes!!!!

[This message edited by lilies21 at 8:18 AM, August 29th (Thursday)]

nothisfriend posted 8/30/2019 14:25 PM

Chocolate is a healthy treat, isn't it?

So glad for the great update. DS is probably back at school now? Routine is great for kids. Glad you are enjoying your new place.

deena04 posted 9/2/2019 23:27 PM

Yay to the cancer free!!!!

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