3yrsout (original poster member #50552) posted at 12:27 AM on Tuesday, August 12th, 2025
Yes, I had that phone call with an attorney’s office just an hour ago and he is emailing contract stuff for a retainer for mediation. When this falls through in October, and I’m pretty sure it will, I will have all the paperwork ready to go.
And yes, it’s hard to swallow the promises at this point. I’ve prepped the kids, (Dad and I are having some pretty significant problems, we are really trying to work them out. We love you both, nothing will change that, not your fault, yada yada.) and they’re ready if this happens.
I think I’m a slow to adopt change person, but once it happens, I’m there. Almost there….. just tidying up some messes I have.
He is competing against me enjoying solitude. And frankly, that’s pretty fucking hard to beat. I’m great company.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 1:53 AM on Tuesday, August 12th, 2025
The peace and contentment that I've found since D has been priceless. It was rough going for the first part, but I'm so glad to be away from XWH's behavior and control.
Hang in there and vent away when needed.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
3yrsout (original poster member #50552) posted at 5:23 PM on Wednesday, August 13th, 2025
Asking for clarity-
When you knew you needed a divorce, was it like you still missed them and felt sad, but knew you needed to take the medicine of divorce and everyone will feel better?
In other words, this feels ego dystonic to me. Should it? I am guessing it will (it will feel like I don’t want to do it, right? Even though I know it’s best?)
