I can’t even remember the last time I posted on this site. Seems like a very long time but I’m not a great judge of time these days.
So much news I won’t bore you with. Right now the main things are…
My son, who is incarcerated should be coming home, perhaps mid May. He could’ve been coming home at the end of January, but a nearby town never came to get him to go to their towns court to hear a case there. Every week they would not come and get him from the place where he was incarcerated 45 minutes away. Finally, they did come to get him in mid December. He was given 78 days to serve. That was up March 1. But because of those pending charges, he missed his opportunity for parole. So he hast to wait for the parole board to meet again sometime in May. If I think about it too long, I become infuriated. But it is what it is, and he keeps telling me to chill out, that he can do that much time very easily. He keeps reminding me that he got himself in this mess. I wish I was as grown-up as he is.
My oldest son shot himself last week. ACCIDENTALLY. He was loading a handgun. Evidently this particular handgun has a reputation for a faulty "slide" if that is the right word. The thing you pull back to load it. Anyway, it snapped shut and caught his skin between his thumb and four finger. His hand flinched, and he accidentally shot himself in the leg. We were so blessed that he missed the femoral artery and did not break any bones. It went in at the top of his leg, just above the knee, and came out behind his knee at the top of his calf. He went from a wheelchair to crutches to a cane. Today was his first day to walk without any help… And with only a small limp. So I guess that turned out as good as it possibly could have.
My middle son was arrested yesterday for the second DUI. He is wanting me to post his bail and he will pay me back with his tax money. The bail will simply allow him to be out until the end of the month when he goes to court, and in my state there is a mandatory 45 to 90 day term for second offense.
Oh, and now, we are facing custody issues with my precious grandbaby. It is such a horrible mess. My son was served papers about being behind in child support while incarcerated.
Now that he is out, he got a lawyer, and is trying for 50-50 custody, since my granddaughter is with us every afternoon after school until 630 or 7 PM, overnight, one night a week, and every other weekend.
Since she was served the papers for the custody issues, she no longer allows me to pick her daughter up after school, she doesn’t allow her to spend the night one night a week, and I just found out last night that she’s not allowing my granddaughter to go to church with me on "her" weekend. Of course, she doesn’t have to do that, but it is what we have been doing for months and months now.
As I am trying to figure out whether or not to bail out my middle son with a DUI, on the phone with him… My oldest comes in, and his gunshot wound is bleeding through the bandage.
I like to call what is happening right now is my family is going thru "Job lite". (Bible reference)
I miss my husband so very badly - especially in times like these. He was so calm. He didn’t panic… Ever. I feel like I am second or third string help to my boys compared to what he could have been.
Anyway, just wanted to check in. I read here from time to time, trying to keep up with everyone.
I hope for the best for all of you, as we go through whatever we’re all facing.
