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Divorce/Separation :
Finally done and dusted


 DebraVation (original poster member #51156) posted at 7:09 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2024

Hi all,

I posted here in 2015 when my husband cheated with a friend and then I found myself back here in March 2023 when he did it again. That was when I filed for divorce.

Anyway, it's taken a loooong time. Anyone who claims you can get a divorce in 6 months in the UK is having a laugh, especially when there are kids involved and some debate over finances. And then you have to factor in house sales falling through and other hiccups along the way.

Anyway - the divorce was final at the start of May, I moved on Friday and the house sale was completed today. We are all finished apart from one pension still to be moved. I am gradually switching everything back to my maiden name.

We were still living in the same house until Friday. And honestly - it was fine. After being in a rage for a couple of months I eventually found I didn't really care. And even when the divorce came through, and when I moved out I felt very little. I think because I had mentally left as soon as he cheated again. I did all my crying the first time around.

We are civil. he borrowed my car today to clear the remaining things from the house. It's all fine. I think he's a fool. I think he'll struggle without me. I don't wish him any good or any bad because I just don't care enough about it. I think I would mind if he replaced me very quickly - not because I want him back though.

Best wishes to everyone else going through this.


posts: 1610   ·   registered: Jan. 6th, 2016   ·   location: UK
id 8840697

crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 8:24 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2024

Congratulations on your new beginning. My D should be final any day now. This process has taken forever laugh

fBS/fWS(me):51 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:53 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(21) DS(18)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014

posts: 8834   ·   registered: Apr. 2nd, 2012   ·   location: California
id 8840706

leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 10:37 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2024

Congratulations on your new beginning!

BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21

posts: 3573   ·   registered: Apr. 21st, 2018   ·   location: Washington State
id 8840721

BrokenheartedUK ( member #43520) posted at 11:13 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2024

Anyone who claims you can get a divorce in 6 months in the UK is having a laugh

^^^Word. I filed in March 2015, divorce came through in August 2016.

I remember you! I always loved your user name.

Congratulations! Free at last!! You're going to be just fine. More than fine. Enjoy your peace and quiet.

Me: BS
He cheated and then lied. Apparently cheaters lie. Huh. 13 months of false R. Divorced! 8/16 3 teenage kids
"The barn's burnt down
I can see the moon"
-Mizuta Masahide

posts: 3418   ·   registered: May. 24th, 2014
id 8840729

WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 1:11 AM on Tuesday, June 25th, 2024

Congratulations, Debravation! I remember you from 2015ish, and I remember you coming back here. Welcome to the other side!

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

posts: 4520   ·   registered: Sep. 6th, 2015   ·   location: USA
id 8840744

BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 3:45 AM on Tuesday, June 25th, 2024

Congratulations on getting out of infidelity! And sounds like you are in a healthy place.
Don’t be surprised by a few sneaker waves, but this will be an amazing new beginning for you.

Well done! 👏👏

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

posts: 6060   ·   registered: Sep. 10th, 2016   ·   location: Northern CA
id 8840752

BluerThanBlue ( member #74855) posted at 8:34 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2024

Welcome to the rest of your life and congratulations for getting out of infidelity!

BW, 40s

Divorced WH in 2015; now happily remarried

I edit my comments a lot for spelling, grammar, typos, etc.

posts: 2011   ·   registered: Jul. 13th, 2020
id 8841366
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