Topic is Sleeping.
TwoDozen (original poster member #74796) posted at 4:09 PM on Friday, October 13th, 2023
Just wanted to stop by as I havnt posted in well over a year to let y’all know that I’m alive and kicking and doing well.
For those that are new to this journey please know that what you’re told on here, that time heals is true and you will get through this.
I’m just under 4 years from dday and I rarely think about the A now. For me my healing started once I figured out how to really do NC around 6 months after ending the R and moving out.
I do not believe I would have gotten to this stage if I had stayed in R. I believed in R and wanted R but my WGF couldn’t do the hard work required.
I’m now well over a year into a new relationship with a new GF who is roughly 15 years my junior. Has head firmly on her shoulders and sees me and accepts me for who I am. I couldn’t be happier.
Kids are fine. Work is fine. Life is good. Very good.
Big thanks for all the support from those who were here when I needed them.
Havnt been here for a long time as I needed to stop talking about As and get on with rebuilding my life. For that i apologise.
TD
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes 😊
Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 8:49 PM on Friday, October 13th, 2023
Hey you
!!!
Thanks for sharing your update! It feels so GOOD to be OUT of infidelity doesn't it?!
Don't worry about not being on here for a while. Almost all of us can relate to that!!
A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)
I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!
From respect comes great love...sassylee
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 2:19 AM on Saturday, October 14th, 2023
Thanks for the great update and so glad life is going better for you. Life can be so much better on the other side.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 11:55 AM on Saturday, October 14th, 2023
Glad things are going well for you.
Thanks for the update!
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 10 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 5:10 PM on Saturday, October 14th, 2023
well done! Glad things are going well for you.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
waitedwaytoolong ( member #51519) posted at 7:38 PM on Saturday, October 14th, 2023
Glad to hear things are good.
I am the cliched husband whose wife had an affair with the electrician
Divorced
Unsure2019 ( member #71350) posted at 8:49 PM on Saturday, October 14th, 2023
Thanks for the update TD. I was just thinking about you several days ago. I followed your story closely. You weren’t asking that much from your WGF and yet she couldn’t do the work. It was hard to watch. Really happy for you.
Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 5:44 AM on Monday, October 16th, 2023
Happy that things are going well!!!
Glad you stopped in.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
countrydirt ( member #55758) posted at 3:50 AM on Wednesday, October 18th, 2023
3 adult sonsMarried 32 years. DDay1 - June 2016, DDay 2 - April 2017, Final DDay - May 2020. Divorced - January 2021
Life is Good!
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 8:40 PM on Wednesday, October 18th, 2023
fBS/fWS(me):51 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:53 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(21) DS(18)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorced 8/8/24
Topic is Sleeping.