So sorry Justnonna, a kick in the guts after a car wreck is painful. WW's are quick to give you the easy truth, no details, thinking the sharing will cause more anger in reality it just causes more questions.
False R is debilitating, my WH and I after finding out about the ONE PA he had, announced loudly to our therapist and I that "he can't understand why I think there's more than the ONE other woman"!
We're a few months in, negotiating a new life, proper transparency, no secrets and it just stuck with me the additional things I had found. He dismissed it all. ALL the good people here told me over and over how masterful his cheating was and I should ask for a polygraph.
Week 7 of R, I couldn't take the not knowing what else I was missing or didn't know. Demanded a polygraph, appointment was set, the night before I noticed his demeanor was stressed, lots of pacing around, trips to the bathroom (stomach must've been upset) quick to anger etc.
That's when the flood gates opened, first the ONE I knew about turned into 2, then 5 then 8, then 13 that he "thought" he could remember.(Guess what--EVERYONE SAID IT WOULD HAPPEN)
I was floored, literally laying in a puddle of my own tears curled up in a ball begging for it to all just stop.
I made him right it all out, names, years, whatever, I backtracked some (very nicely) even made a few facebook friends..lol got the correct story WAY after R had begun falsely.
Make your demands, have him write it out and even go have your WH polygraph that the paper he's holding is accurate if you have to. You deserve more.
[This message edited by Crazytrain101 at 10:18 PM, Tuesday, September 20th]