Newest Member: Seekinghelptoo


If I want recovery, then I must allow for it to actually happen. Is it possible that I actually do have all the truth now?

me - husband; her - wife, Married 13 years @ D-Day 09-02-2009. Now married 25 years and hanging in there (maybe by a thread someti

Changes to "Investigative Tips"?

Are there new requirements to enter the Investigative Tips, or is it some kind of glitch? After 10+ years of access, it now says a profile upgrade is required, but with no explanation of what that is. The link simply reverts to the donation page.

Is "upgrade profile" synonymous with "donate"? Could we get clarity on this? Please and Thank you.

3 comments posted: Friday, December 10th, 2021

How long has someone owned a cell number?

Is there any way to determine/confirm when someone assumed a cell number?

I’ve had no problem finding the current owner of a cell number, but need to confirm if they were the owner back in 2015/2016. Does anyone know a way to confirm ownership for a past timeframe, or for how long the current owner has had it?

2 comments posted: Sunday, November 14th, 2021

“I don’t remember”

I’m curious, for those of you who have been questioned and pressured for information, when you answer, "I don’t remember," is that just code for "I remember but I don’t want to tell you"? Or do you really not remember?

I’m sure there are times when both are correct, but honestly what type of details do you just forget, and what ones do you just not want to tell?

26 comments posted: Saturday, November 6th, 2021

Google Maps Timeline - Wow

We're 12 years into reconciliation, and last week I was on WW's iPad looking for a new restaurant to try. Using Google Maps, I clicked on a restaurant, and along with the other info, it said something like, "You visited here five years ago." It had the date and time that we had once eaten there. Looking further there was what could be a goldmine of information, and this can all be viewed from the person's phone, iPad or desktop, so long as they are logged in to their Google/Gmail account and location services have been on.

If you go to the menu, you can open "Your Timeline" which shows location data (times and places) maybe going back as far as 2014.
You can select a calendar date and see that day's movements, or you can look at the map with all the location markers. I was curious if she had any markers in the OM's neighborhood (other side of a major city) and she did not, but I noticed a couple strange markers a little closer to home, with some strange times, on dates that I was travelling for work. It got me digging for some more info before we have a couple serious conversations.

I don't think the addresses and business names are 100% accurate, but they're pretty close, and each location is time stamped. This may be very helpful to many of us.

2 comments posted: Tuesday, November 2nd, 2021

Verizon Archived Phone Records Are Available for Seven Years

You can read my other post about Google Maps Timeline, but it led me to wish I had Verizon cell phone bills from 2015 and 2016. The Verizon website allowed me to download the last 18 months, but I learned that you can go back further (up to 7 years) by simply calling them. They charge $5 per month's bill, but they will print them and mail them to you. No email options, so I'm going to have to wait 1-2 weeks, but it will be worth it. Also, this was available even though we switched to another carrier two years ago. Our old login still worked, and the final 18 months of statements (2018/2019 in our case) were still available online.

They also told me that local Verizon stores should be able to retrieve the records, but at the store they told me to go back to the support phone line. The Verizon folks were very helpful, and 13 months of 2015/2016 phone bills and call logs should be in my mailbox in a few days.

I hope this info is helpful to some, as it was news to me.

3 comments posted: Tuesday, November 2nd, 2021

Why do they lie about the little things?

My wife has admitted the affair and been a remorseful, cooperative partner, working toward a better future. So why does she maintain lies about some of the non-essential stuff?

Originally of course, she lied about everything (they all do), but as the big things came out she stuck to some of her little lies and I just don’t understand. The divide and disconnect about some of her details has been a cancer for 12 years when this could all be behind us by now.

13 comments posted: Wednesday, October 13th, 2021

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