Is it possible that I actually do have all the truth now? (haha - how naive was I when I wrote that?)
me - husband; her - wife, Married 13 years @ D-Day in 2009. Now married 27 years and hanging in there (maybe by a thread sometimes)
See the Light
From an old Ray Wylie Hubbard song called "Conversation With the Devil", the closing lyrics are:
Some get spiritual, because they see the light,
And some, because they feel the heat!
Looking at my wife's actions since D-day and in our recovery, I think 99% has been because she felt the heat. I still don't think she's seen the light.
Does this resonate with anyone else?
4 comments posted: Thursday, February 16th, 2023
Dash Cam as Audie Recorder
FWIW -- I just installed a dash cam in my car, and it's set to record anytime the car is started and running. It never crossed my mind until testing the image, but it also records audio. For anyone who shares a car with your spouse or kids, and want a sense of their conversations, this might be an easy option. Mine was pretty simple and inexpensive ($69 at Best Buy).
It will also hold hours and hours of driving time, so I guess you could use it as a location record as well.
1 comment posted: Wednesday, April 6th, 2022
How long has someone owned a cell number?
Is there any way to determine/confirm when someone assumed a cell number?
I’ve had no problem finding the current owner of a cell number, but need to confirm if they were the owner back in 2015/2016. Does anyone know a way to confirm ownership for a past timeframe, or for how long the current owner has had it?
2 comments posted: Sunday, November 14th, 2021
Google Maps Timeline - Wow
We're 12 years into reconciliation, and last week I was on WW's iPad looking for a new restaurant to try. Using Google Maps, I clicked on a restaurant, and along with the other info, it said something like, "You visited here five years ago." It had the date and time that we had once eaten there. Looking further there was what could be a goldmine of information, and this can all be viewed from the person's phone, iPad or desktop, so long as they are logged in to their Google/Gmail account and location services have been on.
If you go to the menu, you can open "Your Timeline" which shows location data (times and places) maybe going back as far as 2014.
You can select a calendar date and see that day's movements, or you can look at the map with all the location markers. I was curious if she had any markers in the OM's neighborhood (other side of a major city) and she did not, but I noticed a couple strange markers a little closer to home, with some strange times, on dates that I was travelling for work. It got me digging for some more info before we have a couple serious conversations.
I don't think the addresses and business names are 100% accurate, but they're pretty close, and each location is time stamped. This may be very helpful to many of us.
2 comments posted: Tuesday, November 2nd, 2021
Verizon Archived Phone Records Are Available for Seven Years
You can read my other post about Google Maps Timeline, but it led me to wish I had Verizon cell phone bills from 2015 and 2016. The Verizon website allowed me to download the last 18 months, but I learned that you can go back further (up to 7 years) by simply calling them. They charge $5 per month's bill, but they will print them and mail them to you. No email options, so I'm going to have to wait 1-2 weeks, but it will be worth it. Also, this was available even though we switched to another carrier two years ago. Our old login still worked, and the final 18 months of statements (2018/2019 in our case) were still available online.
They also told me that local Verizon stores should be able to retrieve the records, but at the store they told me to go back to the support phone line. The Verizon folks were very helpful, and 13 months of 2015/2016 phone bills and call logs should be in my mailbox in a few days.
I hope this info is helpful to some, as it was news to me.
3 comments posted: Tuesday, November 2nd, 2021