She responded to my Q&A—I’ll have to heavily redact it to avoid specific answers. She also seems very confident about her answers and is pushing for the polygraph, so I’ll set something up tomorrow.
Interestingly, regarding Q6, it’s clear she was lying with her BS deleting spam comment. She knew she deleted messages from men early in our relationship and didn’t want to admit to it. That’s far from a dealbreaker for me at this point, but certainly noteworthy.
No other new information though.
Preface questions 1-6 with: "Since you moved in with [BH] in 2008"
1. Other than [AP], have you had any affairs, inappropriate, or secret relationships with anyone?
a. I have not had any prior affairs or inappropriate relationships with anyone outside of [AP]. The only thing I would do is flirt with men.
2. Have you engaged in any sexual contact with any men, other than [BH] and [AP]?
b. I have not had sex, given or been given oral, let any man touch my breasts, butt, between my legs. I might have kissed men on the cheek (friends).
3. Have you been naked or in a state of undress in the presence of any men other than [BH] and [AP]?
a. No I have not been naked in front of any other men other than [BH] and [AP]. I might have been in a towel in front of [BH friend] when we used to share rooms [on vacation].
(This is not a red flag at all)
4. Have you let any men touch your breasts, butt or between your legs, either over or under your clothing, other than [BH] and [AP]?
a. No I have not let any men touch my breasts, butt, between my legs either over or under clothing other than [BH] and [AP].
5. Have you used a morning-after pill or had an abortion?
6. Prior to Dec. 17, 2021, had you ever deleted any text messages or social media communications?
a. I am going to answer yes to this. I do not know how many times, I’m not sure if I deleted texts if [XBF1] reached out (dating back 2008) or even if [XBF2] sent me a text when he was here. What I can confirm is that I never had an emotional affair via text/social media. I also did not sext with anyone outside of [BH] and [AP].
7. Have you deleted any text messages or social media communications since March 16, 2022?
a. No I have not deleted any text messages or social media communications since March 16th, 2022.
8. Have you seen [AP] since March 2, 2022?
a. No I have not seen [AP] since March 2nd, 2022.
9. Have you been in contact with [AP] since April 2, 2022?
a. I have not seen, spoken to, had any contact with [AP] since April 2nd, 2022. The last message I replied to was a text message on March 21st telling him that I was reconciling with my husband.
10. Did you consider attempting to leave [BH] for [AP]?
a. No I was not planning on leaving [BH] for [AP].
10. Did you love [AP]?
a. No I did not love [AP].
11. Please list the places you have been in private with [AP] and do not leave anything out regardless of how innocent it was. Please include the dates.
(I will add notes in parentheticals for context).
a. [PTA Event #1] in school – 9/12
(first time alone; she gets a spark. I was at event, but she went off alone into school with him to get a key)
b. [PTA Event #2]clean up in Cafeteria – 10/15
(I was at event, but took kids home and left her behind to clean up)
c. [PTA Event #3] clean up – 12/4
(when she knew something would happen between them eventually; significant sexual tension and flirting)
d. [PTA holiday party] upstairs outside of bathrooms 12/17
e. Drink in the city—forgot the name of the bar – 12/21
(make out session; she lied to me about being at work holiday party)
f. Corner of XX bumped in while he was running – 12/23
(he tried to kiss, but WW refused because she was around corner from our house)
g. XX Park Run – 12/28
(kissing; when they planned hotel stay)
h. His car in parking lot across from [arena] / XX Hotel – Jan 4th (until 7am on 1/5)
(this is when they met for NBA game and he then drove her to hotel for first night of sex; she told me she was traveling for work)
i. His car in parking lot across from XX – Jan 18th
(Make out, BJ and fingering)
j. His car in parking lot across from XX – Jan 24th
(Make out, BJ and fingering)
k. His car in parking lot across from XX – Feb 8th
(Make out and BJ—she was on period)
l. XX Hotel – 2/24 (until 7am on 2/25)
(Second all night sex session; anal, handcuffs, etc. She told me she was traveling for work again)
m. [PTA Event #4] set up – 2/26 (brief small talk; he asked if she got home ok. Later that night is when WW became friendly with OBS)
n. His car in parking lot across from XX – 3/2 (last physical connection: Make out, BJ and sex)
12. Please list and elaborate on all the times you bad mouthed or down talked me to [AP].
a. In January I told [AP] that [BH] was needy
b. In January, I told [AP] that I had to fake my orgasms
c. I communicated that I was annoyed that my son kept getting forgotten on the bus
d. I communicated that we argued several times during the holidays
e. I communicated that I was upset when [BH] corrected my email to the PTA
f. I communicated that [BH] was "off my guest" list when he made me angry at [restaurant]
g. I communicated that [BH] would be bored at [PTA social gathering]
h. I communicated that I did not want [BH] to be in the same room or at the same bar as [AP] because suspicions would arise.
[This message edited by Drstrangelove at 12:04 PM, Thursday, June 30th]